What's the best piece of advice your father/father figure has ever given you?

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Raph37 · Accepted Answer

There's 2...
(1) Godly morals.
(2) And be prideful in the right things.
Example:
(A) Have your chin all the way up when helping someone you don't even like. Let them know your not like them. Even if they did you wrong.
(B) keeping your family safe (Parents + wife, and kids)
From bad companies even if its your own brother or in-laws. /there business don't let it be yours that can effect your family.
Safety threw a father is not only paying for metal window bars. But psychologically too. Example: my cousin gets along with me and we are close ever since kids. Yet, his wife now, drinks; a lot. So, I'm distinct now... because I don't like alcohol drinks in my house. I'm not rude to let them know I don't like alcohol drinks in my house.
Reason for this is because I wouldn't like my kids getting ideas at a young age. Or even as there older come me and say, "well, you always accept alcohol in the house."
Wouldn't want my kids to drink.
There free to do what they want when there older. They can choose the way I raised them to be. Or they can choose to do whats out of my world.

This is being prideful in the right things.
I recommend many youngsters not to be parents at a young age.
You'll be a burden all others that maybe would even like you around. Yes, in the beginning many will help you. But it's true what they say... "after the 3 day... the dead body starts to smell." Be prideful in the right places. Don't let this happen to you.
Many I got to know shouldn't be fathers. They don't really know whats to be one. There life is a bit to fast to have kids.

Be a good father. But there is a greater thing then being a father. And that is the only father. (God.) The one that can watch out for your kids when you ain't around.

Blessings to those that can read my comment..
Why will you be blessed?
Because I hope you got the picture threw some thick skulls to actually acknowledge would I comment and take it for yourself. Because you can't teach someone to be a dad. You must be one. Which is different. And you can't ever stop being one if you are one. Thats the best advice I can give as a father.

roy_ricky09 · Accepted Answer

Don't bring your outside problems at home. Make sure to fix or finish them instead of bringing them home.

so_over_this · Accepted Answer

My father passed away when I was fairly young but I was fortunate enough to spend a lot of time with him. He taught me how people should be treated , how to ethically conduct business , to never give up even when times are tough and after difficulty there is always ease. My father did not only show me all these things but he was a living example of it.

pleasestopthis · Accepted Answer

Don't let bad friends drag you into doing stupid things. When things go wrong they'll save themselves and leave you on your own (my dad)

nolabels · Answer

My dad passed away when I was 11 years old, and he was 42. So, we never really got to the advice-giving stage of a father/son relationship.
I loved him dearly, and we had a lot of fun together.

I worked for a man when I was around 20 years old who taught me not only to have confidence in myself, but also how to build that confidence, by paying attention to what I'm doing, to observe what effects my actions are having, and to learn from those observations.

I never had the chance to thank him for that. Our lives went in different directions before I realized what an impact he had made.
I've thanked him in absentia numerous times since.
I hope he felt the sentiment as I thought of him.

molonski2 · Answer

For me , its from father figure , I lost my dad quite young due to a road accident , and honestly not a day goes by I dont think of his horrendous 8 years after the car accident.

BUT , I was fortunate , due to being involved with sport ( Golf ) from a young age I had great father figures , probably the best advice in hindsight ( and Im pretty old :( ) ha ha Was.. " You can do / be whatever you want to be , looking like it is 3/ 4 of the mission " I really followed his though life and found it to be spot on , this guy also helped me in life later , broaden my horizons , travel , and make a lot more money than I would have otherwise
Unfortunately , my mother was always quite negative , and I still regret some of the things she talked me out of , things that I ended up doing rather successfully.

XimenaV · Answer

Success doesn't look the same to everyone. All you truly need in life is food, water and shelter, everything else is just a luxury. Do what you love for a living and never be afraid to change carrier paths altogether. Nobody should touch you if you don't want them to and if they do they should be punished. I got incredibly lucky. I have a wonderful dad, up until a little more than a week ago I had a fantastic stepdad, sadly he passed from stage four cancer. I also have a plethora of amazing uncles and very loving grandfathers. So men reading this, or just people reading this, be the loving kind parent you either had or wished you had. The world isn't kind, the world isn't safe, so do your job to warn them of that and then go out and do your best to try and make it those things.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

My father told me about the word (ASSUME) after I said I ASSUME & he had me write the word on paper. When I wrote the word ASSUME he had me circle ASS, circle U & circle ME & after that he told me when you (ASS)(U)(ME) you make an
(ASS) out of (U) & an ASS out of (ME).

TsundereMatrix · Answer

My dad taught me how hard work pays off. You got to work for what you want. My dad is a farmer and starting at age 12 he had me work on the farm and paid me. I never had an allowance. I worked for my money like any other person while also allowed to be a kid and play.

TwinTonyz · Answer

Never had a lasting father figure, but my director at work presented the only manly advice that has ever stuck with me for a long term.

"If you say you're going to do something you have to do it. Your word is a reflection of yourself."

Cathy7734 · Answer

I'm going to college. My Dad told me that just because I'm getting a college degree doesn't mean that I have more common sense than everyone else. There are a lot of people, who have no education, who have lots of common sense. I can learn from them. Don't ever think you are better than anyone just because you're going to have a college degree (Nursing).

Leavesbound · Answer

"Don't bite the hand that feeds you."
"Don't shit in your own backyard."
"Remember where you come from."
"Praise publicly and criticize privately."
"Live like you will die tomorrow and learn like you will live forever."

Lliam · Answer

When I was 8 years old and on my first baseball team, the coach was talking to me one time and I must have been looking down. He must have said something to my dad later. On the way home, my dad told me to look people in the eye when they were talking to me. As a kid, that hadn't occurred to me. It was really good advice. It shows that you are paying attention but also that you aren't intimidated. It's a manly (grown up) thing to do.

AmandaYVR · Answer

I don't remember much. He's not that fatherly type who dishes out a lot. He's pretty judicious with that. He's a good listener. And wasn't geographically in my life near me much.
But I do remember last year he said, "Well not everything has to be perfect, right?" He said this very consciously. I was complaining about all the problems in my newish apartment. 4 separate water leaks and 5 appliance issues. I think it was warranted.

TheorionMage · Answer

"Always TRY to leave any situation 'better' than you first found it..."

(the problem lies in that 'better' is a SUBJECTIVE perception,
viewed from YOUR viewpoint! ) ... Don't LIKE MY viewpoint?

PLEASE, feel free to DO BETTER, BEFORE you judge mine!

ArrowheadSW · Answer

My dad has been gone from this life, since I was 19. But one thing he stressed was to get as much education as possible and to go to college. I took his advice and squeezed 8 years of college into 6 years. (It wasn't as hard to do back then and wasn't that expensive back then.) We didn't talk much about dating or marriage as I was a bit shy to talk about those topics at that age. Good memories for Father's Day!

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

My late maternal, Grand-dad was a former Deputy Sheriff and he would always tell us kids about convicts he would be transferring from one prison to another and shared some horrible stories about those ones serving a life sentence he even took me I was age 11 and met a Yablonski's killer and the convict was very nice to me and he said, son never make a mistake like I did cause I made a mistake that I'm serving a life sentence in prison all this stuck in my head

JackSmy · Answer

Many things about women, and how to treat a Lady Properly.
Sadly, that was 50 years ago, 'wisdom' and so few respect that WAY, thinking it is "sexist" when it is not, but rather about Love, Honor, and Respect.

Anonymous · Answer

He never gave me any direct advice. Just indirectly by how he lived. Some of it in the category of "do what he does" and some in the "don't do what he does". It took me 30 years to even start to really understand the "don't" stuff. Some guys have it easy and their dad just tells them what they need to know.

Anonymous · Answer

My father and I dont talk a lot. And he would hardly advice me about anything but he used to when i was a younger. I remember someone used to bother me at school and all he said was... Defend yourself, if its man punch hiim in the ba... s if is a girl pull her hair but dont come at home crying without doing anything about it, if your teacher call me to complain about it dont worry just Defend yourself!! .😂😂 😂 i love you dad ❤

Anonymous · Answer

I don't have any specifically I always go to my dad for advice, because he's just an easy going, laid back guy, who never lets anything bother him. I'd say all the advice he gives is the best, he's in another state now but sometimes I still call him to ask him for advice.

HOAAH · Answer

Not really an advice but more of my dad just believed in me.
When I was taking driver's Education and I failed my first test, on my second test my dad told me "you got this! You can do it" and because I believed in my dad, I did it.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

To do the best you can and to fight for everything, but not to forget where you came from and what you started out with.

basically, that I came from pretty much one of the poorest areas in the UK and to not forget that brutal reality.

Saville_Row · Answer

My father, who passed away 8 years ago, teached me that there is always something else to do. Right until the day you die. So suck it up and continue.

Also, if you want something, go hop in the car, train, plane, etc, and get it.

Tiptoetamm · Answer

Be aloof, respect your elders and most of all, love and respect myself before anyone. He told he I couldn't love someone if I didn't love myself, and it's so true 😊

FunkyMonkee · Answer

I'll never forget it as long as I live!! Dad said, or was it mom? No, it was dad!! He said to me, "Always..." No, it was, "Never...". Hmmmm, let me get back to you on that!

HawkPerception · Answer

"Don't take anyone's word for anything. Not even my own. Do your own research and think for yourself."  Not a day has gone by that I haven't lived by those words

SGTAdam · Answer

Wish I had one or a father figure. I've got older guys in my life but none I feel a like relationship towards. It's all mostly friendship. Only fatherly figure I can think of is my grandfather but I don't remember a whole lot.

Pj1981 · Answer

My mother told me that if I know a fight is going to be unavoidable then I don't need to be stupid and wait to get hit. She said always throw the first punch because that's not what they are expecting and it throws them off from the start. If I wait to be hit they could really injur me or knock me out. I always thought it was logical advice and I have had to use it a few times over the years

loves2learn · Answer

It’s ok to have high standards. That’s how you reach high achievements.

NotTacocaT6969 · Answer

Pivot, throw your bodyweight into your movement, aim past the target and never jeopardize your center of gravity.

Anonymous · Answer

He told me "all you have to do to win is rise each time you fall". He said his only wish for me in life was that I would always get back up every time I failed, no matter how hard it was. Now I try to live out that truth even tho he's not around

ZackBan · Answer

Don't mind being surrounded by idiots. If it wasn't for them you wouldn't stand out for your achievement

Bricealan · Answer

He told me if there ever was a computer, or anything that allowed me to talk to women and ask questions about sex and 'stuff' 'DON'T YOU EVER DO IT, YOU'LL BE SORRY !!!

slatyb · Answer

Mostly what I learned from my father was how not to interact with others, and that betting football parlays and so-called "teasers" is a really bad idea.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

My dad says if you want a good man, you can’t do the chasing cause men lose respect for woman who chase.

Aimée__LJ · Answer

I was talking to him about how a lot of guys will turn me down simply because of my tattoos and he told me to 360 kick them in the face 😅

Miah02 · Answer

Be proud of who you are and what you do, and never let anyone tell you you can't achieve your dreams.

MasseurDeMojo · Answer

Always keep a good name. In other words; always be a man of honor, who tells the truth, and whose name goes before them.

Lionman95 · Answer

Tell people than they have an activity they can spend time with. The language that matters are the deeds that you do, not the words that you say.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

Don't take shit from anyone, tell people off, don't accept other people's BS, no one can force you to do things, learn the law and use it right

Coulis · Answer

Turn them before they turn you. Meaning beat them at their own game.

TallAnon · Answer

It doesn't matter what you need to do, if someone attacks you, do anything you need to do to survive. If there's a random iron pipe, grab it, if there's a piece of wood, stick it in his eye. Consequences come later, your life is the most important.

Shah11 · Answer

I lost my father when I was 3mnt old.  But my uncle taught me dude do whatever you want to do in life. But never lie & never ditch anyone for your gain. It's a bad Karma.

Bogoboj · Answer

Be yourself, embellish the truth, lie when necessary, if everyone else cheats you are an idiot if you don't cheat, hit and run is the best tactic most of the time and have all kinds of friends including people that society rejects.

Explorer91 · Answer

It’s not that hard to be successful, just do the opposite of what everyone else is doing

SaoirseS · Answer

Always talk nice to shitheads. Aim for center of mass.

snackthatsmilesback · Answer

How you think and feel and talk and act n shit are all connected. Change 1 and you can change any of em.

loveslongnails · Answer

"Never lose your head over a piece of tail" - Dad "Women are like subway trains - there's one every 15 minutes" - Mom

spartan55 · Answer

Cars are great, but they will be one of the biggest pains in the ass you will ever seal with.

msc545 · Answer

Go to law school (like an idiot I didn't). Also, never drive in the #1 lane of the freeway. That is where people driving the wrong way drive. He was right.

warlock83 · Answer

For me it's what my father has not done is the best advice he has given me.  His way of thinking is still set between the 70s and 80s. Things have changed drastically, including how to talk to women.

NotNayyr · Answer

He cheated on my mom and that told me not to cheat on my mom

Citizenkirk · Answer

"Life is what happens when you are making other plans"

Anonymous · Answer

"No matter what, you won't get anywhere without connections.". He said this, knowing I don't really have friends or people that can vouch for me. Didn't really tell me how to do that though... Just to do it.

hearvoices · Answer

My father always told me to keep a strict budget and stick to it. Always know where every dollar is going, he would say. It's served me well.

BUNroaster · Answer

Literally no advice. But I'd tell myself to never let anything take you over. Nothing in reality stays the same forever and if it isn't constantly changing then you reinvent it.

AndrewMG · Answer

Life is just what happens when you're busy making other plans.

Anonymous · Answer

Man or woman. You need to learn how to be efficient and how to stand on your own two feet. Do not depend on anyone to do things for you. Life doesn't always work that way.

Browneye57 · Answer

Do everything in moderation. Even the best filet mignon every day would be awful.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

''If you don't like it, you can leave'' ... He was right. It worked excellently.

blondfrog · Answer

I don't know but he loved me a lot and that's all i could ask for.

Kkoalalita · Answer

My dad has always told me to work hard and put my best effort in making my future. It mostly something like that.

Wiredone · Answer

One of the many things my dad taught me was to always give 1000% in everything you do and don't ever give up.

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