Is the generation really getting worse or is it the parenting getting worse?

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stupidgirlllll123 · Accepted Answer

The generation is getting worse because of the parenting. Parents compare their kids to other people and tell them how much better they're doing than them and it hurts so much and they don't know what it does and we can't speak up about it because they'll think we're overreacting.

pleasestopthis · Accepted Answer

I think both, parenting getting worse as the main cause of generation getting worse. This generation is the product of terrible parenting

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Each generation has its own problems, it’s own challenges.

previous generations where not globally visible.

things like self harm, depression, have always existed, they were not invented.

go back to say 1900, the average person had stress from family, school and then getting a job.

they knew when they got the job it was likely for life.

as you move forward in time, the stress and challenges change.

Parenting is far more challenging these days than it is in the past, it will also get more challenging as we move forward through time,

a parent in the 1900, kids pretty much got nothing, maybe a wooden toy if family could afford it. School, working at 14, simple oh and beatings.

parent in the 1930’s, we are now looking more at how important schooling becomes, types of school, grades, people actually have a chance to change social groups. Fashion has started to become a thing for some children, slightly harder parenting but not by much , oh and beatings…

1950-1960’s…. we start to see kids rebelling against parents, this is when parenting starts becoming harder, however the parents are starting from pretty much scratch - if in doubt beat the child.

1970’s we now have fashion, music, toys, .. alcohol, drugs, sex are now all the thing to do, parenting is much harder than previous generations.

2000’s we now start to see the internet, music, drugs, fashion, media, sex, etc really at the forefront of things, schools are critical now and achieving grades is really a must.
as a kid in this period, the pressures are off the scale compared with a 100 years previous.
as a parent the pressures are crazy, there is no such thing as a job for life, pressures are crazy.
we now start to see a bit of a rethink on this beating kids, it’s not really worked for last 100 years and parents stop doing it, well some do.

2010 - 2021 - shit, you have so many pressures as a parent, every corner of the internet if full of Trolls, Cyber bullies and worse. Going to school is a nightmare, gangs, knife attacks, shootings, bullying. The pressures are crazy on a teen at the moment and likely get worse. …
this is where older parents and those not in to tech or music etc now start to struggle, everything is technology and social media driven. A parent not up on email, Facebook, Instagram will not be able to easily handle what their kids are doing.
gangs are more prevalent and in the open, given air time by wanna be gangsta types.

Parenting is not getting worse, in some areas such as not beating your kids it’s improving, parenting is however getting harder.

Kids are not really getting worse, just global social media shows your 5 kids doing something and instantly social media says everyone is like that.

certain cultures are struggling as each generation wants more freedoms, the ability to do their own thing, break free from restrictive practices their parents or country has.

unfortunately parents still beat their kids.

rjroy3 · Answer

Wouldn't say kids today are worse to begin with. Every generation faces their own problems that prior generations didn't have. There's a lot of overlap in terms of relatability but some things are so new that it takes a lot for a parent to try and understand.

With that in mind I don't judge kids today as harshly as many do. Because I remember what life was like in elementary, middle and high school. I remember the mob mentality a lot of kids had in certain age groups. I remember how petty people could be.

Humans in general need to be taught to be good. We don't naturally go there because we're inherently selfish and tribal. We group off and set up us vs them scenarios, just like the basis of this conversation. OUR Generation compared to THEIR generation. OURS was so much more well behaved.

No ours wasn't lol. So what, cyber bullying wasn't a thing to the same degree. Okay. But it started to grow as social media developed. People would get socially outcast for crossing the wrong person when really they did nothing wrong.

Little kids got picked on because other people felt like they could and nothing more. That's no different today. Kids mouthed off to adults. It was more prevalent in the public school system vs others because people decided to put more stringent measures against teachers and people in power to discipline when the parents could not.

Personal opinion. If you have a problem with how certain kids act. More often than not they're in an environment where the parents either are not around so they aren't being disciplined because teachers and others don't have the power to properly lead them.

Or they're in an abusive home and no one else has the power to guide them. The best they can hope for is getting cracked by life enough to get their head out of their asses and that they're lucky enough to come across the right people to help them better their lives when they're older.

Everyone does the best they can with what they have.

SpiderManFan2002 · Answer

I don’t think getting “worse” or “better” is necessarily a generational thing, but it really depends on individuals. And often what plays a role more in someone growing up and parenting is usually class and culture.

For example if you sample a number of kids and parents from one socio-economic class and cultural background and compare it to another- those kids may be of the same generation and the parents may be too, but you will see sizeable differences on how the kids are raised and that plays a role in the children’s values, attitudes to life, etc.

And also it’s not necessarily as black and white as good parenting leads to good kids, and bad parenting leads to bad kids. Sometimes a good parent could end up with a kid who is disrespectful and defiant, and sometimes a bad parent could end up with a really good kid. And parenting can also be something pretty diverse in that the parents may be good parents in certain ways and bad parents in others, and likewise kids might be good in certain ways and bad in others.

Bean2k · Answer

During the 2000s and especially the 2010s, youth subcultures that were as influential as what existed during the late 20th century became scarcer and quieter, at least in real life though not necessarily on the Internet, and more ridden with irony and self-consciousness due to the awareness of incessant peer surveillance. In Germany, for instance, youth appears more interested in a more mainstream lifestyle with goals such as finishing school, owning a home in the suburbs, maintaining friendships and family relationships, and stable employment, rather than popular culture, glamor, or consumerism. Boundaries between the different youth subcultures appear to have been blurred, and nostalgic sentiments have risen. Although an aesthetic dubbed 'cottagecore' in 2018 has been around for many years, it has become a subculture of Generation Z, especially on various social media networks in the wake of the mass lockdown imposed to combat the spread of COVID-19. It is a form of escapism and aspirational nostalgia.

Lj0011 · Answer

Both
Modern media and Hollywood glorifies the breakdown of the family which is disgusting and causes so many social issues. Technology is giving everyone the instant feeling of gratification and also putting the ideas in people's heads that we need to be living a certain lifestyle to be happy (Instagram models, influencers etc) modern marriage is looked down upon and promiscuity is celebrated look at 50 shades of gray etc and no i dont want women to be in the kitchen and men are the only who works etc. I would love if you had work places that can help with women having a career and a family as well with men as well, alt women have it much harder here then men. Schools should be teaching the basics such as maths, English, history etc etc but should not be indoctrination factory and should be teaching the youth how to deal with mental health issues and other real world issues. So in total i would say its everyones fault. There is a lot of things wrong with the west that need to be corrected.

NoReason4Hate · Answer

I think it's a little bit of both because now now you can't even discipline your own kids without being looked at badly. I feel like kids nowadays are so entitled and because now parents are under this idea that it's bad to discipline them and tell them no. No one should tell you how to discipline your children of course not harming them but sometimes if you don't teach them how to treat others and show respect they grow up letting close on the people behind them instead of being courteous and holding it for the person behind you. They also brought feeling as though they deserve a trophy for showing up or they need a safe space to go hide because someone disagrees with them and said dealing with the problem. I'm sorry but if you are a male over the age of 14 and you need a safe space to go cry because someone disagrees with you. You don't need to say space You need to reevaluate your life. If you can't Have a cordial conversation with someone Even if you don't agree with them then you are not an adult. Our own government officials, news media acts like children. They can't sit and speak to another adult about issues unless it fits their narrative and if it doesn't then they just start yelling at each other and arguing. It's like kids on a playground. I kind of went off on a tangent there but that's basically the same thing.

JustAnj · Answer

Thier both worse parenting needs to have a middle ground. See parents will influence their kids and sadly a lot of parents themselves have not matured and do not teach their kids respect, morals, and values. Most parents these days are letting their kids do everything and anything, some parents still try to mix the traditional with some more better ways of teaching kids how to love themselves.

You yourself are the reflection of your parents but can change that if you feel you are affecting your self love and treatment of others.

So this is why I say both because even with the best parents some kids follow other kids and grow up through their surroundings instead of their parents. Media is definitely a huge problem today with the crazy push of sex and nonsense being fed to kids.

So both.

artsygirl457 · Answer

the parents, though not all are on auto pilot or wanting to be the cool or friends, some of that is their doing some is also because anything you do as a parent is over analyzed or taken outta context can be thrown back in your face by school etc who misconstrue a simple situation. our whole world is outta control for the most part, people need to keep their nose outta other peoples business and worry about their own. with the internet, phones etc so many people are so up each others butts and business its crazy, on social media platforms etc.

Wintergrace · Answer

The parenting is getting worse, I did an entire study on electronic usage in parents for school. They studied all the generations and gen Z and millennials reported the most loneliness. Apparently they’re more suicidal and depressed than other generations because excessive phone usage makes you lonely. They studied parents and children. The parents who were constantly on their phone had children whose brains were physically altered and identical to children who had been physically abandoned. Also, on the flip side there is a rise in helicopter parenting, which is now correlated with the increase in anxiety because they never allow their children to regulate their own emotions, thoughts, or give them freedom, etc. In turn, this makes worse generations. I believe it is like the chicken and the egg.

ohshee · Answer

Well if you have one you have the other it starts with the parents they have to realize that they brought somebody into this world and they need to spend time with that blank sheet of paper and children learn by watching by seeing by hearing their parents interact with their friends your body language their tone of voice everything that they do parents nowadays I think you're so selfish they act as if child should know everything and when they don't they yell scream disciplined or put on restriction I don't understand that there's no reason to do that if you communicate with your child. All children are reflections of their parents their atmosphere how they're treated from their parents

midnightmoon05 · Answer

The society enables people. They grow up with no responsiblities and no consequences... Kids can say no or sue their parents. Parents are told to not hurt their kids feelings.

When humans/animals do things with no consequences, they will continue. All this started way before?

We have a saying, if kids are not disciplined (taught) its the responsiblities of the parents.
Now I see young girls get pregnant like their mom. Then the mom helps care for the grand kid. So who is responsbile for these kids? And where are the boys who got them pregnant to help raise these kids?

hannahjo022 · Answer

My parents did not care about me and I turn to be fine. I know parents can't handle their child's behavior so they let their child do whatever they want. Plus its this generation too. This generation now only care about social media. My younger cousin's are constantly on their phones, talking to random people from social media, and constantly being on social media all the damn time. I always thought to myself I grew up in a good generation when social media was not the big thing as it is of today. Social media became a big then when I started college.

Anonymous · Answer

I think the generation is worse cause they are too open with their parents and social media use. Parents awlays want to know what their teenage kid is up to and it seems this generation of teens are telling parents too much. It is beneficial to be a little edgy and have secrets like we snuck out, drank underage, and smoked weed given to us by the HS senior pot head we never saw again. It is wrong and dumb but we regret it and it is our secret.

Our parents did it too most likely and they likely knew I was up to those things. The open nature and social media use actually not hiding this behavior is normalizing it to where it is what young hs kids are supposed to do. Teens today have their dumb HS moments being kept on social media forever cause they are the ones posting and bragging about it. They will learn it's a mistake later but too late an employer when they leave college can screen grab that stupid snapchat or tik tik as reason nkt to hire them.

Riley000 · Answer

I guess parents do not want to raise their children as how they were raised... So, they try to be nicer to the kids.. Sparing the rod...

Or perhaps they are busy working to make ends meet, they neglect their parental duties and compensate with things (gadgets and whatnot). Slowly, as times goes by, the kids are getting horrible...

Lynx122 · Answer

Nah people talked so much shit about millenials and from one day to the next they switched to zoomers. It's just the same shit all the time. But somehow the younger generations hate millenials too :D

I do think though there is a challenge with young men. Like there's not a lot of guidance for them.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

The parenting is getting worse. Due to that! Resulta worse generation. I have seen some serious lazy ass parents and see their kids doing all kind of wrong things and the parents just ignore it and being lazy. There is good parents but they ate fading too

Qdbrown · Answer

In short, it's getting worse for both, and becomes more noticable every new generation because there are no real fears or priorities. There are not big things to worry about.

If there was ever a conventional world war, or something that would force people to face a major challenge would It change, but as each new generation arrives, more mediocrity becomes evident.

arjfdgp34 · Answer

I think both. Too many parents just let the internet do their babysitting for them so their children don't learn about social interactions in the same way. It's not neccessarily the worst thing for them but spending more time with actual people both their parents and friends, rather than in front of a screen, might give them a more realistic impression of how their supposed to behave in society.

Diablopawn · Answer

In a time, where both mother and father have to work, it seems a bit hard for them to do parenting. I also noticed, that there is still a lot of people that had bad parents and they should've fixed and take care of themselves, instead of getting kids. They usually also refuse to take responsibility.

humpbackjack · Answer

Really it’s probably both but it seems with every generation they have to try and out do the last generation and not in a good direction. Which means we’re on a down hill run because the shit me and my pack of homeboys did was bad. Yes I’m just as guilty as any of these buckle heads wreaking havoc now a days

ToastyOats · Answer

CN we please stop blaming it on Parents and children when the majority of our lives are controlled by corporations (where parents work)
And by government (where kids go to school)

It is extremely offensive to any rational person to have a dichotomy of responsibility that does not include institutional power, especially the MEDIA! Good Lord Man. Your either a retard or an FBI employee!

Smashingdoozy · Answer

I think millennials onwards are actually somewhat learning from their parents mistakes (at least from what I've seen) and are raising kids in a much more stable way.

Anonymous · Answer

honestly i dont think world cares about kids anymore i mean look at kids/teens today or parents. like i saw parents complaining about having kids at home i mean its your kids why you complain? aren't you the mom/dad? also the world getting worse and the technology is cool but I don't know.

i belive kids dont know how to be kids
same as parents

molonski2 · Answer

General parenting is quite horrendous , people do not understand how you communicate with children , and its not that difficult.

Hypnos0929 · Answer

Parents.
Fact is a lot of people should not be having kids until very late in life. There's so many parents who are trapped by parenthood and literally everyone but them can tell, and as a result a lot of children only feel that artificial love. There's also a lot of parents who treat their kids like accessories, things that are fun until they aren't and then they're "stuff".

LinkxPeach · Answer

Both. Generation is getting worst because minors of today can’t watch secondary channels of Cartoon Network, Toonami, Nickelodeon, TeenNick, and Disney Channel that lets you watch some old tv shows, cartoons, and anime shows. Parenting is getting worst because of single motherhood.

IveGotNoName · Answer

Well... a generation doesn't just go bad on it's own... I feel lucky to have been brought up before the iPad-parenting, as I call it (kids being left with an iPad because the parents are too busy to take care of them).

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

Depends on the metric. If we are considering all households of parents, there are more single mothers than ever before and because of that, yes parenting is getting worse; if we are only considering traditional families, id say parenting hasn't changed too much at all.

Either way, the kids aren't truly to blame, its mostly the single mothers.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

Nothings getting worse, people everywhere and at every point in time have been complaining about the young generation.

Its just times are changing and people are complaining how they were different back in their youth

Sincerly_KittyCat · Answer

The parenting is getting worse because everybody treat their child (ren) as if they are glass hence making the Next Generation into softness.

exitseven · Answer

My son just graduated from college and we had about 50 of his closest friends come to a party. I was really impressed with these kids. They were all intelligent and motivated. It made me feel a little optimistic about the future.

Trpkjr · Answer

Maybe if parents are held accountable for what their kids do they would parent more. If your kid steals you serve time while they do too. Just my opinion

ShadezMcgee · Answer

I would say the answer is both. Can't have a good generation if there are dog shit parents raising kids poorly.

the_kisses_of_sun · Answer

It'up to parents the way they raise their children. So if the generation is getting worse, parenting is to blame here.

Interstate · Answer

Its both. Parents can't control what the kids do when they aren't around.

Jazquee · Answer

Little from colum A... little from colum B... New generation getting worse and parents getting to laxidazical

jshm2 · Answer

Neither.  People just have a bigger dataset, and information pool, to compare notes from, is all.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

You are aware all generations has there own fair share of problems right?

ronaldo75 · Answer

Both. I'm a millennial and i'm seeing that in my area Millennials are HORRIBLE parents. I mean just terrible. When I have kids I'm moving to a rural area to avoid some of the idiocy I'm seeing in my city.

Anonymous · Answer

People let social media raise there kids. And these parents are parting to much not teaching their kids values.

iammaria · Answer

Why does everyone blame the generation. Its obv the parents and the generation isn't getting worse. Many people are just shallow

Anonymous · Answer

Parenting. my mom wants the best for us but she doesn’t really punish us as much like me and my brothers could come home late and she would just make a little comment lol.. ( one of my brothers is 18). my dad used to be a bit more stricter.

Anonymous · Answer

After being on this site for half a year I'm going to go with this generation my generation was cooler

BeenThereLovedIt · Answer

I say: A little bit of column A, and a little bit of column B

_SEBZER_ · Answer

every generation is worse then previous for actuall generation xd

Jonny59 · Answer

its 50%50 honestly because we live in peace and things are different its not a war people aren't aggresive people getting lazy people don't care much

OddBeMe · Answer

Neither? People are having less children, but the stats say life is better. Maybe Covid bumped up some bad parenting?

ChiTown33 · Answer

Neither Ecciesiastes: "what is has always been. There is nothing new under the sun".

tartaarsaus · Answer

The current generation is doing just fine and parenting is going just fine

SomeTrashBag · Answer

Both. I think the internet is somewhat to blame though.

zagor · Answer

Both. But too many parents should have gotten them selves "fixed".

animesenpai · Answer

Every generation thinks things get worse after them

DiegoO · Answer

The generation getting worst because of the parenting.

blondfrog · Answer

parenting getting worse which results in gen getting worse

backblueblack22 · Answer

Parents can do a lot but they can only do so much. Society is warping through liberal bullshit.

he-takes-a-part · Answer

Parenting was worse but hidden, the generation gave it a platform

Diamold · Answer

I would say both, bad parenting and society, are creating one of the worst generations ever.

NightHawk99 · Answer

Too many parents shelter their children. Not enough parents toughen up their children.

SalvatoreCordileone · Answer

Prople are fucked up, need tougher people not a bunch of pussies

Protein_mate · Answer

I'd say this generation due to social media and exposure to superficial ideals etc

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