Were you ever spanked or yelled at THEN told “You better not cry” afterwards?

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Lol like wtf. Let a ninja cry if they want to. I hardly got spanked as a kid, maybe twice a year if any, but i definitely remember being told that at least twice in life. Like if you hit someone, how tf do you expect someone to react? I know once i hit 10, the spankings stopped taking effect on me. I dont believe in using weapons if i were to spank someone, but my mom would spank me with a belt and then i’d laugh in her face right after. She got so pissed but shit, wish i laughed long before then. After that, she’d resort to thumping the top of my ear or slapping me upside the back of my head. Nothing pissed me off more than that, but hey it worked. At least it didn't make me cry. 
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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I was never told not to cry
But I don’t know how my mother would hear my screams.. and tears! she would pull my hair and drag me hard , hit me with rope or cold heavy slaps in my body ( they deny heavy / cold ) that’s how I describe it lol I was young so it felt like that. It lasted for many years. I remember it started at 5 gory memories until teenager. I would have a runny nose and tears mixed together running though my shirt 😂 so maybe it would been better I was told not to cry. After crying and go to my bed I would feel in peace it felt like heaven my soul was finally resting. I never really enjoyed school I was always lost and uninterested to study.
And This abuse was only for school related I wasn’t a good students getting good grades. I was let’s say a C student with my country grades. But I was a very very good girl all teachers used to say you are such a kind child and innocent. my friends always say I’m an empathy and very understanding and sweetest file they met 😅
I gotta say I live with my mom and brother I have ofc forgiven my mother. It’s been mentally hard though I never went to a psychologist or anything I have dealt with it myself. Side effects I have seen is that I’m scared to say my opinion what I want to do with my life I fear I’m a loser or that I don’t satisfy others. Especially my family. And also I have dated any guy yet or been in a relationship. I’m 30 and that’s bc I haven’t truly been ready. Also my father passed away when I was 25 after 25 until 30 days flew away like water. It was me my myself living each day for 5 years like that..
I’m taking with a guy but to be with him I have to leave my things her and stand against my family but it scares me. Also I can see guys get bored easily with me. Long story. I created a fake life due to my suppressed emotions to skip reality and now im stuck with that fake reality ! Currently trying to fix it 😅

I wish young mothers change and try to be better mothers. Also if you abuse kids In any shape or form I wish you when you die your spirit is stuck somewhere in darkness and you wish you at least at least … enter hell soon.

What hurts me the most in this world is hearing kids cry. When I go to hospital or hear a baby child cry I cry too! I can’t help it.. it’s funny lol

Did you parents make you not cry?

lovedejj_xo · Accepted Answer

I don’t have a good relationship with my mom because she always yelled and then made me suppress my feelings. Which led to me feeling very angry and depressed because I did that with everyone. I went to therapy Now I say how I feel to her and she flips out but she’s going to hear my side or I’ll walk away.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

I got spanked a couple of times only... when I was kinder age, and it was because I earned it lmao, I really pushed the limits and tested their patience and then... I just didn't do it again, I grew up

I didn't cry from the spanking, I laughed like crazy while running around... and so did my parents

I know this is a sensitive subject for many, but it's also about cultures, I was never hit with malice nor with excessive force, and I got yelled as well, many times... but it was never in an intimidating way, anyway...

the few times I cried, I was a very young kid, and I did it to try to get my way, so it was more like pouting or throwing a tantrum and my parents never felt for it... lol

and If I overplayed that card, my mother would just say "keep doing that and I'll give you reason to really cry" lol, and then I stopped...

Jaximus-Lion · Accepted Answer

I never understood that logic. You crying! SMAAAACK 💢🖐️, Stop crying. WHAT? I crossed the line once and my dads hand and pushed him away, i was out all night and blah blah punishment, whatever. So he had an honory cane from his military service, he used for hitting me with at younger age, i troed to reason with him because making me fear him didn't work anymore. So once i took the cane and hit him with it on his leg just to show him how idiotic this whole shit is. That was the last time he hit me, i was 14. I took the cane and broke it infront of him. Till today, he never apologized

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

My late mom beat my ass and she used
anything in her hands and even pull my shirt
and smacked me on the back, My dad was always
a miserable and still is at age 80 but he made my
mom like him they divorced in 1994 they were only
married 30 years, my mom was taken to the Hospital
and passed away on Nov 10, 2003, it was only 9 days
she was in Jefferson Hospital and Allegheny General
and the Nursing home, when I went over to see her
on Thursday at the nursing home, her skin looked like
she had makeup on it and she passed away on Monday

NamerOfStars · Answer

No; my parents always tried to avoid resorting to spanking- and usually succeeded.

But any parent who hit me and then told me not to cry is a parent who'd be finding their dinner spiced pepper spray and told THE SAME DAMN THING. I have very little patience for bullying.

Cherry234 · Answer

No I wasn't told to not cry after getting spanked. I don't remember if my parents ever spanked me but I do remember one of my aunts spanked me once. I know I deserved it because I was being a naughty girl.

melanieeeB · Answer

My father used to beat me nearly all the time, but my mom just spanked me once but she would always yell at me and crying was always something that I wasn't allowed to do... I always cried in secret

Anonymous · Answer

All the damn time. I was NOT allowed to cry, flinch, or show any emotion whatsoever. If I did, they would hit me more times and make it progressively harder each time. I quickly learned to never show my emotions. Now my therapist is encouraging me to show emotions and have a facial expression... frankly it's terrifying. Any time I smile or frown I wait for the fist.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I don't cry when hit, I hit back, I do not tolerate violence as a means to ensure cooperation. Instead, it ensures they will get nothing but a big ol go fuck yourself.

But if they are kind, sweet, and polite, instead of demanding, rude and violent, then I go out of my way to be helpful.

clampfan101 · Answer

That’s terrible and stupid. A punishment is supposed to make your children to think about what they did wrong. They’re not going to do that nearly as well if they do nothing but suck it up and act like the punishment never happened. Parents that say that aren’t thinking about their children’s best interests, but simply being immature about being irritated by the sound of crying. Maybe that irritation is the parent’s punishment for not doing their job, am I right?

Apulu_3 · Answer

Haven't been said that but I have seen it happening and it was really heart breakening. That kid got it bad when he cried. Which kind of treatment it is? I don't get it how parents can be so cruel.

lucas262 · Answer

My dad would use a switch. Dipped I'm water so it'd sting more.

Was bitch slapped once

Spanked I guess you could say, yelled at.

But more than anything was the over protection. They did the best they could and I don't disagree with their methods when it was deserved and I definitely deserved more than I got at times.

killasbunny · Answer

Often like in my entire life my parents as specially my dad always like that. He would yell t me when i'm crying even if I cry for no reason he would yell for me to stop cry or els I will get slap on the face

SecretYuna · Answer

Yes all the time my parents are strict and old ways. That's why I was spanked a lot but was also told not to cry.

VarddaanKaushikk · Answer

It happened to me a few times when I was a kid , I was spanked and yelled at and then if I even as slightly as sob , my mom used to say "you better not cry or I'll spank you even more" ... As much as I hated being hit , I miss those days tbh. No pressure , stress-free life. Watch Cartoons , play with Friends all day and sleep for hours

lightbulb27 · Answer

Sorta sexually molested then told not to tell. What you described is serious traumatic abuse. Evil and control. Requires deep healing esp if done young. What a fd up world.

InYourHead · Answer

I hated getting spanked as a kid but now I love it 😆

Msputiton · Answer

Naw, i only received one spanking growing up, and it was by my grandmomma. My pops was all kinds of heated. Nobody spanks his babygirl🥰

MemeSupreme · Answer

yes, if in public and if i was loud when crying. i learned just to deal with it and if i was going to then i held it in until i go do it in private

Citizenkirk · Answer

Yes but I always did when spanked more for crying I cry more when asked why I defied them so much I said you punish me with lectures and spanking I punish you with crying and bawling.

TrueConfection · Answer

I was pretty stubborn and never liked being told what to do. As a result, I was spanked a lot, but I was never told not to cry.

Agape93 · Answer

I've been yelled at and mocked for crying, but not that

bigbluey · Answer

I never have been slapped or spanked as a kid. I was a pretty spoiled girl. 😬

hahahmm · Answer

I never cried when getting spanked. As to what you said about not feeling a spanking at age 10.. yeah, that's cause a woman was spanking you.

TheBootyChest · Answer

I have been spanked or hit a few times in my life by my day. But then I got taller than him. So it stopped.

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

Lmfaooooo no but a kid in church would get his ass beat on a regular then his mom would say I'd you cry imma pop ya in ya mouf. 🤣 it made like zero sense. She'd beat him then say don't cry.

Wiredone · Answer

Yeah I got spanked when I was little. My mom used to use a wooden spoon on me. She hit me 4 times then sent me to my room. She never told me not to cry because I never did

Magikrob · Answer

Yup my whole childhood. And if I didn't stop crying, I got another round of being spanked or hit. I learned real quick that "men don't cry" and I did me no justice. I will never do that to a child it's damaging!

sheikalana · Answer

Yup. my father used to locked me up in a dark room too.

Anpu23 · Answer

Nope, I honestly think my mother enjoyed the tears...

Soyyo9 · Answer

Lol my grandma used to always do that then tell me she will give me something to cry for like she didn’t already do it

whosnumber1 · Answer

I remember my waiting for my dad to spank me freaking out and then when he did thinking... that didn't hurt, that was a joke! haha. I was probably 10 or something too

SenseiSeptred · Answer

It was more about the gender differences that it was used against for who could cry, and who couldn't that was the problem from one of my parents.

MysticDevice · Answer

Probably. I don't remember it but that was back when parents could do that lol

Shark_61695 · Answer

Yup, had to hold my hand out to be hit with the wooden spoon :(

humpbackjack · Answer

There’s worse things for sure than being told you better not cry trust me

TallAnon · Answer

Not at all, really. My parents have been pretty good.

Den1971 · Answer

Oh hell yes and if I did it only got worse. I got use to it getting worse 🤣🤣🤣

jahaims · Answer

Beat and told that all the time. That and I'll give you something to cry about.

FinalFantasyBro · Answer

Honestly yes I hated it and it done way more negative than a positive.

Wise4myage · Answer

No, but I was spanked once and really hard. But I had It coming.

lilyisready · Answer

nope, i was allowed to cry as much as i wanted, such freedom

imfreeze95 · Answer

I got belted when I was a kid slapped in the face things like that

InferiorElegy · Answer

Yes or if I did cry I was always told "I'll give you something to cry about"

DevinAM · Answer

'ell I got spanked for crying because my stepdad's an @$$hole, well he's not as bad anymore, but I still don't like him.

kellytheman · Answer

No I don't think so I think if I cry when I was little if I got spanked it was punishment enough.

jasco · Answer

Yea it just made me cold hearted

exitseven · Answer

Yes, If I cried I got it worse.

bannacookies · Answer

Yep. I think that is common.

Date_a_Snob · Answer

My sister was spanked. I was not.

TexasRed95 · Answer

No but I was beat for years by my dad.

Pink2000 · Answer

No never

Dchrls78104 · Answer

Standard fare in my country when I was a kid...

fonduegirl · Answer

Plenty of times

Mehzmeh · Answer

Yup!! Like a spanking is not suppose to hurt. Lol

Glasgow55 · Answer

God, yes! My mother was wicked, with big hands.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Just spanked.

emperor90 · Answer

Yes i have

JohnK123 · Answer

No haha

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