Basically imagine you were trying to find a new friend but you were having problems finding any person to hang out with. So instead you tried searching online and hoping of finding people who can hopefully become a good friend for you, you have managed to caught the eye of another man/woman who is ironically just like you don't have any friends themselves. You two had decided to start chatting with each other and finally have made it a personal mission to actually meet face to face, the man or woman has actually revealed their age to and you have finally came to a realization you aren't the same age range as this new person but they ironically doesn't mind if you aren't in their age range considering they don't technically based their lives on numbers but how about you. Basically my question here is if you were hanging out with a person who were either 10 or 20 years older than your age, would you consider hanging out with the older person as a friend or you prefer to have a friend who is your age or at least close to your age?
Ladies and Gentlemen, could you possibly consider friends with a person who is either ten through twenty years older than you?
Definitely. I've already experienced that. Some of my closest friends are much older than me ( 5 to 15 years older). I have more in common with older people than those that are my age or younger. I barely have anything in common with folks that are in their 20's or early 30's.
Folks my age or younger typically don't have the same musical taste as me, don't have the same passions, are more liberal and left leaning, and don't have the same traditional values, et cetera. Yes, there are outliers and I can befriend such people. But I've noticed a trend that I agree on more topics with people older than me.
In the vintage scene, for example, everyone is older than me by 5 to 10 years. I have yet to meet anyone that has the passion for vintage stuff who is younger than me.
Exactly. They're all bloody closeminded and overemotional. Even if I disagree on something with an older person, they'll actually be respectful about it and turn it into a nice discussion or cordial debate. When this happens with someone in their 20's or early 30's, it always turns into them insulting or yelling and storming off like a child.
I'm part of a bunch of historical societies. We collect old vinyl records, Victorian era clocks, ww1 oil lamps, leather books, 1800's fountain pens, 1920's jewelry, et cetera. We also exclusively dress in old clothing from before 1960.
I can tell you probably would great in the older era, and I haven't met a person who ever talked about 1920 fashion or old Victorian stuff.
Yes I definitely agree with everything about the older generation compared to the today generation everyone sure did became political about everything.
Oh definitely. My closest friends are all waaay younger than me. (Does kinda make me wonder though, why that keeps happening. Anyway, as long as they're mature enough and have some decent life experience, I choose mostly based on their personality and character. Hopefully it's not 'cause I'm immature for my age!) My husband's new friends are the same thing, much younger too. I think friendships are developed not just on geography and who is where at what time, but the peoples' openness to ideas. The more you are out there, and put yourself out there, the more people from different walks of life you are likely to encounter. It opens up the pool quite a bit. Although I'd still say great friendships and connections are rare. I'm lucky to know the people I do right now. It took many years to find them.
10 years older is pretty easy actually as most of my friends are around 8-12 years older anyway in their early thirties or almost there. 20 years older a little harder as I’m only 20 but I do have 1 good friend who is 37 so almost 20 years older that isn’t much a problem. Obviously the stuff we talk about and our stages in life is different as he’s married and has a house and career etc but we get along pretty well and message few times a week. Same with my other friends 10 years older except I seem to be in the same boat with the others
When my wife and I moved to this area, we didn't know anybody. Long story short, we decided to check out a nondenominational religious fellowship (Unitarian Universalist). We were both in out late 40s at the time. To my surprise, we met some amazingly bright and informed people and became very, close friends with a few who were 20+ years older that us. We would invite each other to each other's homes, go out for lunch and dinner together, celebrate birthdays together, etc. We came to love some of those people deeply. They turned out to be some of the best friends we ever had.
I have lots of guy friends who are 6 maybe 7 years older than me. I know that sounds bad but they are my older brothers college friends. Its a benifit for me though because when we go out to party after a game I tend to just blend in with them and usally don't have any problems. Its like having 10 older brothers, fun times lol.
Yes. maybe 10 would work. I have neighbors that are about 10 years older than me and they are my friends. We still have things in common.
20 may be pushing it...20 years older may have more in common with my parents. not opposed to it but someone 20 years older is at a different stage in life than me
Yeah I get it. Like I said , for me 10 years is prob. the limit for me. I also think having an older friend is easier than a younger friend. For example, I’m 30. I think it’s kinda easy to have things in common with someone at age 40. Both ages are essentially mature adults. However having a 20 yo friend may be a little tough. I think 20 yr olds are Still kinda immature, prob in college, can’t legally drink yet... or at least I was still immature at 20!
Oh no, I didn’t mean that, hope u didn’t take it the wrong way. Cool on being 23. ( I wish I still was, lol) All I was Trying to say was I think most people do a lot of growing up between 20 and 23 , and someone at 23 is more mature than someone at 20... typically
I didn't took it offense but I generally think the brain usually fully developed completely in age 25. But yes usually people above the age of 20 tend to be a little more mature anything under 20 might be a little more immature.
I very much had the kind of childhood that forces one to grow up fast. Also my grandfather was my father figure. So I find it much easier to be friends with someone that is at least 10 to 15 years older then myself and always have. The only people I have been able to be friends with in my age group have been the people that where forced to grow up fast as well. Simply because I can be friends with them and not be a father figure or their grandfather. It comes from having a hard time connecting with people on a mental level and very much feeling like there is a mental age gap.
pretty much all my working life, I have had friends that are older and younger.
this applies to both guys and girls.
it’s more about the person than their age at times, I’ve heard more intelligent things Come out of a friends kids mouth when compared to his lol.
Equally I get corrected by my daughter for various bollox I come out with.
socially it’s always been a large mix of ages but pretty much always the same attitude and erm stupidity I guess lol, not sure any of is actually sane or sensible.
I think being friends with someone 10-20 years older than you is fine. But the likelihood of me being Friends with someone over 10 years older is very slim because we would have different maturity, different sense of humor , different life stages, different perspective on life. We wouldn’t have much in common. This is why most friends are of similar ages. People tend to get along best with those around their own age
One of my best friends who I considered more as family was much older than me, closer to my mom's age than mine, but we clicked within 5 min. Of working together and were friends for over 20 years till she passed away from a stroke
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I have friends as much as 20 years younger than me and as old as 12 years older. It more depends on the person's interests in common and personality for how compatible they are than just an age number.
It depends on how they are mentally in mental age. Some guys I've been friends with are 20+ years older than me act like my age, some act like they are 80 year old cripples, can't be friends with them.
Same for younger, if they act young and dumb can't really be friends even if they are my exact age.
Has more to do with what we have in common and how we mesh and get along.
But don't you find it a bit of a challenge if the younger people or older people have a different outlook on life compared to you! Because I generally hear that people in different age range tend to have different ideas for fun.
Well I see it as variety in my life, I also have freinds from all walks of life, and i find that all those people enrich my life, and outlook on things. As a result my tastes and veiws are widely varied and eclectic. I can also vary my personality to suit the friends I'm with at the time. I also enjoy a variety of activities from clubbing or sports with my younger friends to playing say a simple game of cards with my older friends. In turth I'm a bit of a chameleon in real life.
But have you found any person that you couldn't stand being around though? Or are you the type of person who doesn't really have no beef with any person.
I generally don't take issue with people unless they are bigoted or misogynistic. I steer clear of talking about politics or religion, as I don't care who someone votes for or who they worship if they choose to.
Its fine, I don't follow any religion now. I was raised Christian but chose not to follow it as an adult. Its not that I hate it, but everyday I see it do more harm than good.
When I was in my late twenties, I befriended at least 2 much older people. They're cool, they have slightly different point of view regarding life, I learned things from them. I honestly don't see any difference with having friends younger, older, or same age as I am.
One of my first friends after moving to a new city was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. I met him in a bar and we talked a lot about many subjects and he turned out to be an English teacher teaching adults in their 20s. So he invited me to a barbecue he was having at his school and wanted to introduce me to his students. I went and not only made some new friends my age there but remained close friends with that teacher.
Once both people are adults, age becomes less of a factor. If you both have a lot in common, like each other, enjoy talking/hanging out/playing games/whatever, why would you let age stand in the way? I have several friends that are around 15 years younger than me, but we all like playing D&D, Magic the Gathering, etc.
I would and already do have a few that are quite a bit older. I’m not ageist and I don’t like to limit myself. They are fun people and it’s really no different then hanging around people my own age.
In terms of friendship, age is just a number. Sharing knowlegde is always good, kids need them more than ever. I think we should alwways try to share with people what we know
But doesn't it ever get tricky considering most of in each age range have a different outlook about the world or did you manage to find people who shared the same opinion as your own?
Definitely not. i feel like i'd be slightly creeped out and plus i'd probably have no mutual interests with that person. i'd rather not. talking is fine, but nothing as close as friendship...
age doesn't matter!! I'm 20 and my netball team are mainly in their 30's and 40's , we all go out and do stuff, i love them and would definitely call them my friends! :)
Why not? If they're nice and we click as friends it's a given. I also think it's good to have friends in different ages and generations. It gives you different perspective on things and maybe some new knowledge.
I was friends with this dude who was 9 years older. He was like an older brother/mentor to me during college years and overseas. Also had a short-lived fling w/ this 32-year-old chick when I was 20 just before I met my SO at the time if that counts.
That really weird question coming from a guy your age. Me hanging out with so much younger isn't that odd. But its small children for you. You need to limit your age group to upper teenagers and above.
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