I have lost enough people to know that you never really get over it. It doesn't matter what I'm doing, who I'm talking to, or what I'm talking about; these people are always in the back of my mind. I cope by reminding myself that I was lucky enough to know them and have them in my life for as long as I did. Not everyone had that privilege.
It definitely took some time for me to be able to view it this way. Still, some days are harder than others and I find myself missing them more than usual. It also takes me by surprise that it's humanly possible to miss them more than I do everyday. I try to think positive as well.
I cope well I think, and I do think having a mild depression after a death is sometimes only natural if it is someone very close to you. Someone you are with daily (so it also shakes up your routines), your parents, siblings, partner, of course, god forbid it, your child. So I see that as also coping well. Accepting your feelings and being sad, cry your eyes out, and lose the grip for some months is not weird to me. I did not lose anyone super close to me, but some family members, which was tough especially when it was unexpected/they were not that old. Once I cancelled an exam because I was unable to perform. Time is the key for me.. give myself space and time to dwell a bit on it now and then. Talk about it with others who also lost the person. But also do healthy activities and not get stuck. Even if one has to go and shed some tears in the bathroom. And sorry for your loss. Hope you will get well through it.
I usual can choose when I remember it again somewhere in public... between
Let it roll over you bc it comes like a train, and just break down no matter where I stand Or Holding the grief in and usual throw up
I usual choose to throw up, bc experience teached me after a break down, always comes depression... Sounds harsh but when your inner feeling are that exposed in public, it's better people see you as drunk fck than as a person at feeling rock bottom
First off, I am terribly sorry that you lost a dear friend. I pray that you are comforted knowing that she is no longer suffering. Take all the time you need to mourn the loss. The closest person to me who I lost is my mom. She passed away in March of 2013. There is not a day that passes by without me feeling her loss. I’m not sure if that helps, or answers your question. Again, my deepest condolences.
Not at all. I end up crying a lot for a long time and I lose my appetite. I end up skipping few meals. It takes a long to go back to being my normal self. This is why my parents didn't even take me to my uncle's funeral as I'm pretty weak.
I'm really sorry to hear that, girl. Sorry for your loss. I can only imagine what you're going through, but at least you made her last few weeks of her days really beautiful. She felt loved and cared for and she loved you. Meeting someone who treats you like their own great granddaughter must have been very amazing. Cherish those bonds a your life, but if you believe in afterlife. I am sure she wouldn't want you to be in pain. Try to focus on good things rather than thinking about the loss. I hope you feel better soon..<3
I understand and I wish I could give you a hug, but trust me. It will get easier. As the time will pass, you'll become stronger than before. My eldest brother's a doctor and he was quite caring and got attached to people and also animals too when he was younger. He didn't show it at first, but he couldn't hide it when they passed away. Now he finds it easier to cope with the loss. Death is inevitable, so he gets himself prepared mentally and emotionally. It will get easier for you, too. You don't know you are that strong. You're welcome, lovely. I'm here if you ever need me. <3
Thank you for your kind words❤️ Dealing with losses is one reason why I have switched my career goals so often. I have such a deep love for people and animals, that I want to help but I can’t stand to see them hurt. I wanted to be a doctor and then a vet.. Although they help, there will still be some deaths… And I can’t handle that. I will soon leave caregiving and work with children.. Seems like a better career that helps people and doesn’t always involve death. Anyway; thank you so much. I’m always here if you want to reach out as well
"Why I have switched my career goals so often. I have such a deep love for people and animals, that I want to help but I can’t stand to see them hurt."
I can totally relate to you on that one. Yeah, I think that would be a great decision like you said you wouldn't have to deal with many losses. Kids are blessings. They made me laugh and helped me get out of my depression that I hid for a long time. So, yeah. I think you should definitely pursue that career as you'll be much happy. :)
Im in the military, and I've lost friends over the years. Best thing I find is to allow time to morn. If you repress it, you'll struggle to let it go later.
Its a hard time losing someone close but time is a great ally in that. After days or weeks. Sometimes you just start to forget the pain :)
I really don't know how I'd cope. Never had someone close to me die. But I feel like I'd always try to remind myself that life is suffering. And when something is not alive, they no longer have the possibility to suffer. And that is a good thing in my opinion.
*gasps* Guards! Remove this broken man from my sight at once! And for the love of God, find him new purpose. We can't have suicidal Jesters running around. Doesn't make the kingdom look good.
Well the way I see it is that the more I comment, the more this questions pops up in the live feed. Which will bring more helpful eyes to it! People that can help in ways that I never could! As I am not so good with comforting people.
And though I'm not a fruit myself, I do enjoy aiding people in their attempts to cope in this harsh place. And if anyone were to be against that! My my. I'm no religious man, but I'd consider that a sin!
I'm not sure tho how it will be when really close friends and family pass away, that thankfully never happened but with everyone else I was fine to even not bothered at all
I have had much loss and I want to be a nurse and I can't handle death well, so much so that on a daily basis I worry about my loved ones dying as my mom had me in her fourties so many of my loved ones are older and having health problems. for me, I know there is an afterlife to this. I am spiritual and believe in God and I try to focus on the good aspects of it, not thinking so much about the loss part once it has been acknowledged, and telling myself I will be a better person and do better to make those people proud, remind myself that this is life and sadly everyones days are numbered, and do my best to spread love and kindness to others and just live life to the fullest in the honor of your loved ones. journaling and ranting has also helped. i personally do not deal with it well. but i still really want to become a nurse, so wish me luck :)
I don't think I cope well at first, I'm a very emotional person. I'm one of those people who cry when their mad and I don't know why. My grandmother passed away like 2 years ago and I still cry every now and then but not bawl like I did back then. I cry and move on but I don't let it affect my well being or life. Life goes and moves on and so should I, but it doesn't hurt to cry and miss those who passed.
I cried like a baby when my dog died. He was my light to when I came home, he was here. So I'd say I deal with it depending on the situation. Or who it might be to me.
My Uncle, great grandpa, another uncle of mine all died: Not a single tear shed or sadness in my heart. After that death of my dog, I think i went numb to anyone else dying in my family. But my parents are going to be at that door soon so... I might be wrong?
I'll tell you something, as difficult as it is to lose friends and people you have grown accustomed to, It gets harder when you lose family.
Your job will get much harder as you get older. I don't mean 30's 40's or 50's, but people in the business of caring for others eventually get old themselves and from those I have spoken to about this, cope very badly at being the elderly themselves.
When my dad died it was my first difficult death. I tried to put my mind on something else and not think about it. I did go through a period of about a 6 month depression after. I moved houses at the time so I tried to put my mind towards that. Not saying that a healthy way to cope but that’s what I did.
When my Mom passed away I took it Moderately but when her brother ( my uncle passed) I took his death horrible I carried on so bad It almost caused me to pass out but over the years I try to handle things well but with mental health illnesses it can be hard for me
I was able to work through my last one well. Most likely because we got a visit 3 weeks after in the middle of the night.
I stayed with my folks and helped them out for a couple months.
Will never forget it. Felt right hand on shoulder, sitting upright too, slowly being awakened. Felt so peaceful. Could feel an energy presence in the room.
Yes I deal with it very well, cos I don't care when someone dies... It's a natural part of life.. were all gonna die eventually so... so what if someone you know dies? Doesn't bother me at all
But Maybe it's jus because I also don't really develope strong bonds or connections with people, I'm very distant and have no real friends, I don't talk to anyone... My mum only calls me like once every 6 months for about 3 minutes.. that's the only socialization I do
Im not sure. I haven't lost a parent or someone that's close yet. I've lost two friends from suicide and a grandmother but I wasn't super close to them. The two friends were high school friends I peripherally kept in touch with after highschool and my grandma was a drunk I didn't know too well.
I still havne't had to deal with a death towards something or someone I loved. Not even my cat so I've been luck so far but I am sure since I didn't deal with it early on I will most likely deal with it terribly.
I don’t think I do I’m the type to put on a brave face and smile even though I’m hurting inside. I can't bring myself to cry whenever someone in my family passes. My grandmother died in 2017 so it took me about 4 years to actually cry about it and it’s not because I’m insensitive it’s because I knew she was going to be okay and in a better please and that I was going to be okay. I started to miss her after 4 years because things started getting really tough for me in my life and she was the only source of happiness I had left. every now and then whenever I have something not so favorable going on in my life or having a straight up anxiety/panic attack, I think about her and it soothes me. I think I’m broken haha I never really learned how to cope with those feelings but that’s just how I am. And yes I’m seeing a therapist so don’t worry.
I don’t mourn deaths because I believe the person meets God when they die and don’t actually disappear but I would be upset if somebody I talk to dies cause it means I can no longer spend time with them.
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I have lost enough people to know that you never really get over it. It doesn't matter what I'm doing, who I'm talking to, or what I'm talking about; these people are always in the back of my mind. I cope by reminding myself that I was lucky enough to know them and have them in my life for as long as I did. Not everyone had that privilege.
I remember having a breif conversation about your work. That's tough and you still have my respect for that.
Thank you.
That’s a good way to view it. I try to think positive thoughts but of course it gets hard. Time simply goes on.
It definitely took some time for me to be able to view it this way. Still, some days are harder than others and I find myself missing them more than usual. It also takes me by surprise that it's humanly possible to miss them more than I do everyday. I try to think positive as well.
I cope well I think, and I do think having a mild depression after a death is sometimes only natural if it is someone very close to you. Someone you are with daily (so it also shakes up your routines), your parents, siblings, partner, of course, god forbid it, your child. So I see that as also coping well. Accepting your feelings and being sad, cry your eyes out, and lose the grip for some months is not weird to me.
I did not lose anyone super close to me, but some family members, which was tough especially when it was unexpected/they were not that old. Once I cancelled an exam because I was unable to perform. Time is the key for me.. give myself space and time to dwell a bit on it now and then. Talk about it with others who also lost the person. But also do healthy activities and not get stuck. Even if one has to go and shed some tears in the bathroom.
And sorry for your loss. Hope you will get well through it.
Nah, not even now, 10 years later
I usual can choose when I remember it again somewhere in public... between
Let it roll over you bc it comes like a train, and just break down no matter where I stand
Or
Holding the grief in and usual throw up
I usual choose to throw up, bc experience teached me after a break down, always comes depression...
Sounds harsh but when your inner feeling are that exposed in public, it's better people see you as drunk fck than as a person at feeling rock bottom
First off, I am terribly sorry that you lost a dear friend. I pray that you are comforted knowing that she is no longer suffering. Take all the time you need to mourn the loss. The closest person to me who I lost is my mom. She passed away in March of 2013. There is not a day that passes by without me feeling her loss. I’m not sure if that helps, or answers your question. Again, my deepest condolences.
Thank you, and I remember talking about your moms passing. I’m sorry for your loss, and thank you. ❤️
@WhatTheHeckkkk thank you.
Not at all. I end up crying a lot for a long time and I lose my appetite. I end up skipping few meals. It takes a long to go back to being my normal self. This is why my parents didn't even take me to my uncle's funeral as I'm pretty weak.
I'm really sorry to hear that, girl. Sorry for your loss. I can only imagine what you're going through, but at least you made her last few weeks of her days really beautiful. She felt loved and cared for and she loved you. Meeting someone who treats you like their own great granddaughter must have been very amazing. Cherish those bonds a your life, but if you believe in afterlife. I am sure she wouldn't want you to be in pain. Try to focus on good things rather than thinking about the loss. I hope you feel better soon..<3
Thank you❤️ I definitely struggle the same way in the first few weeks… It impacts me so heavily. I wish it was easier to cope with these things.
I understand and I wish I could give you a hug, but trust me. It will get easier. As the time will pass, you'll become stronger than before. My eldest brother's a doctor and he was quite caring and got attached to people and also animals too when he was younger. He didn't show it at first, but he couldn't hide it when they passed away. Now he finds it easier to cope with the loss. Death is inevitable, so he gets himself prepared mentally and emotionally. It will get easier for you, too. You don't know you are that strong. You're welcome, lovely. I'm here if you ever need me. <3
Thank you for your kind words❤️ Dealing with losses is one reason why I have switched my career goals so often. I have such a deep love for people and animals, that I want to help but I can’t stand to see them hurt.
I wanted to be a doctor and then a vet.. Although they help, there will still be some deaths… And I can’t handle that. I will soon leave caregiving and work with children.. Seems like a better career that helps people and doesn’t always involve death.
Anyway; thank you so much. I’m always here if you want to reach out as well
Aww, thank you!
"Why I have switched my career goals so often. I have such a deep love for people and animals, that I want to help but I can’t stand to see them hurt."
I can totally relate to you on that one. Yeah, I think that would be a great decision like you said you wouldn't have to deal with many losses. Kids are blessings. They made me laugh and helped me get out of my depression that I hid for a long time. So, yeah. I think you should definitely pursue that career as you'll be much happy. :)
You're welcome! 🥰
Im in the military, and I've lost friends over the years. Best thing I find is to allow time to morn. If you repress it, you'll struggle to let it go later.
Its a hard time losing someone close but time is a great ally in that. After days or weeks. Sometimes you just start to forget the pain :)
I hope this helps.
I really don't know how I'd cope. Never had someone close to me die. But I feel like I'd always try to remind myself that life is suffering. And when something is not alive, they no longer have the possibility to suffer. And that is a good thing in my opinion.
cope, seethe, dilate
you dare to come near my throne with such language
I've finished shitting, sire
My apologies, I did not know you were among the capable.
You shall be invited to tonight's party as recompense. 👏👏
I reject your invitation to reconsummate
I'm sorry, I can't quite hear you because of the royal distance. You said you want me to eject your head?
*nod*
*gasps* Guards! Remove this broken man from my sight at once! And for the love of God, find him new purpose. We can't have suicidal Jesters running around. Doesn't make the kingdom look good.
Can you fruits take your gay role-playing somewhere else? This girl posted a serious question
Well the way I see it is that the more I comment, the more this questions pops up in the live feed. Which will bring more helpful eyes to it! People that can help in ways that I never could! As I am not so good with comforting people.
@Staximus I do serious gay role-play to cope with loss
And though I'm not a fruit myself, I do enjoy aiding people in their attempts to cope in this harsh place. And if anyone were to be against that! My my. I'm no religious man, but I'd consider that a sin!
yeah lol
@Joker_ man's been real quiet since we dropped these facts on him 💅
@Sonorous we got him good and gave it to him hard
@Joker_ But not so hard he can't bounce back
@Sonorous Yeah because you like it when they bounce back
@Joker_ Well only if they shake things up. It gets boring when they come at your from the same angle over and over again.
@Sonorous You are gay
@Joker_ I'm only gay towards guys that look indistinguishable to women
Folks, we got him. He's gay, courtesy of his own admission... and emissions
@Joker_ Wait no I meant to add look and sound! Look & soundddddd!
Strike his comment regarding sound from the record
ehe, you know, I know a guy who can strike things down on way higher levels of magnetude than even you. So, ehe, if I were you, I'd lower ma tone
lowa ya tone
Fellas, we got 'im. He is implying he is intimately involved with a guy
ehe ehe ehe
son
wat
lowa ya tone
ok old man
Okay that's it, I'm callin my bud. 🤳 He's gonna downsample you into oblivion! Your only friends will be humpback whales, my boah
Yeah call your boyfriend
sorry but I just don't do enough glute exercises to be gay
Ah, so you have gluten intolerance
Basically yeah
Thanks
hey my pleasure
I do cope with it uhm fine, it's part of life.
I'm not sure tho how it will be when really close friends and family pass away, that thankfully never happened but with everyone else I was fine to even not bothered at all
Same. When I don’t really know them, I can sympathize but I don’t have much of a reaction. Family members, pets, and close friends, I am a wreck.
Yeah exactly
I have had much loss and I want to be a nurse and I can't handle death well, so much so that on a daily basis I worry about my loved ones dying as my mom had me in her fourties so many of my loved ones are older and having health problems. for me, I know there is an afterlife to this. I am spiritual and believe in God and I try to focus on the good aspects of it, not thinking so much about the loss part once it has been acknowledged, and telling myself I will be a better person and do better to make those people proud, remind myself that this is life and sadly everyones days are numbered, and do my best to spread love and kindness to others and just live life to the fullest in the honor of your loved ones. journaling and ranting has also helped. i personally do not deal with it well. but i still really want to become a nurse, so wish me luck :)
I don't think I cope well at first, I'm a very emotional person. I'm one of those people who cry when their mad and I don't know why. My grandmother passed away like 2 years ago and I still cry every now and then but not bawl like I did back then. I cry and move on but I don't let it affect my well being or life. Life goes and moves on and so should I, but it doesn't hurt to cry and miss those who passed.
I cried like a baby when my dog died. He was my light to when I came home, he was here. So I'd say I deal with it depending on the situation. Or who it might be to me.
My Uncle, great grandpa, another uncle of mine all died: Not a single tear shed or sadness in my heart. After that death of my dog, I think i went numb to anyone else dying in my family. But my parents are going to be at that door soon so... I might be wrong?
I'll tell you something, as difficult as it is to lose friends and people you have grown accustomed to, It gets harder when you lose family.
Your job will get much harder as you get older. I don't mean 30's 40's or 50's, but people in the business of caring for others eventually get old themselves and from those I have spoken to about this, cope very badly at being the elderly themselves.
When my dad died it was my first difficult death. I tried to put my mind on something else and not think about it. I did go through a period of about a 6 month depression after. I moved houses at the time so I tried to put my mind towards that. Not saying that a healthy way to cope but that’s what I did.
When my Mom passed away I took it Moderately but when her brother ( my uncle passed) I took his death horrible I carried on so bad It almost caused me to pass out but over the years I try to handle things well but with mental health illnesses it can be hard for me
I was able to work through my last one well. Most likely because we got a visit 3 weeks after in the middle of the night.
I stayed with my folks and helped them out for a couple months.
Will never forget it. Felt right hand on shoulder, sitting upright too, slowly being awakened. Felt so peaceful. Could feel an energy presence in the room.
Yes I deal with it very well, cos I don't care when someone dies... It's a natural part of life.. were all gonna die eventually so... so what if someone you know dies? Doesn't bother me at all
But Maybe it's jus because I also don't really develope strong bonds or connections with people, I'm very distant and have no real friends, I don't talk to anyone... My mum only calls me like once every 6 months for about 3 minutes.. that's the only socialization I do
I'm alone in this world, fuck all other humans lol
Im not sure. I haven't lost a parent or someone that's close yet. I've lost two friends from suicide and a grandmother but I wasn't super close to them. The two friends were high school friends I peripherally kept in touch with after highschool and my grandma was a drunk I didn't know too well.
I still havne't had to deal with a death towards something or someone I loved. Not even my cat so I've been luck so far but I am sure since I didn't deal with it early on I will most likely deal with it terribly.
Knock on wood. Most people seem to deal with it terribly or become numb. It’s unfortunate
Yeah its very weird how everyone copes with it and I guess it depends on how much you loved that person too.
I don’t think I do I’m the type to put on a brave face and smile even though I’m hurting inside. I can't bring myself to cry whenever someone in my family passes. My grandmother died in 2017 so it took me about 4 years to actually cry about it and it’s not because I’m insensitive it’s because I knew she was going to be okay and in a better please and that I was going to be okay. I started to miss her after 4 years because things started getting really tough for me in my life and she was the only source of happiness I had left. every now and then whenever I have something not so favorable going on in my life or having a straight up anxiety/panic attack, I think about her and it soothes me. I think I’m broken haha I never really learned how to cope with those feelings but that’s just how I am. And yes I’m seeing a therapist so don’t worry.
I don’t mourn deaths because I believe the person meets God when they die and don’t actually disappear but I would be upset if somebody I talk to dies cause it means I can no longer spend time with them.