Do you believe husbands should get to decide when and how many times their wives get pregnant?

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OpenClose · Accepted Answer

Ideally the decision would be mutual. If anything, he should be able to decide the max. Otherwise, I don't think it's his decision to make her carry a baby to term. If he really wants more kids and she doesn't want to carry more, they could talk about adopting.

Plus, until we are more OK with dad involvement in the home, she'd be the one taking a lot of the slack for the day-to-day work of raising them. So in that sense, his say should be proportional to his home involvement. And if she is still all about gender roles, she shouldn't be like "imma just forget the birth control and have more kids" if she still expects him to be the one paying for them.

Either way, if they disagree, it should always be whoever wants the fewest.

Kaamraj · Accepted Answer

There should have been another option for mutual decision and family planning. Marriage is such a bad deal for men that the only reason for a man to get married is if he gets to have his own biological child (ren) and the best environment to raise such children is a two-parent household. So, any man who gets married should get at least one child of his own. However, saying that, I am completely against the husband using his economic leverage to dictate how many kids they should have because the woman pays a disproportionately large price for kids biologically.

SkyCastle90 · Accepted Answer

No. Number of children should have been discussed and agreed upon in the beginning of the relationship and even that is not guaranteed because twins, triplets, quadruplets, and quintuplets can happen naturally. Also, female birth control is not 100%, even with an IUD or Implant accidental pregnancies can happen.

Dude better start getting use to condoms, or get a vasectomy if he has a child limit. Why not force his wife to get a hysterectomy? Because it's her body; he does not own her. If she doesn't mind going through 9 months to have his children and accept every pregnancy as it naturally comes, then it's not her issues, it's his.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

This has to be a MUTUAL decision a couple makes. Neither one NOR the other.

Has to do with how much time and money the both of you have to spend with more than two or three children. Children, when young, require a lot of time and energy. By the time they finish grammar school, they're pretty much their own people, but still need adult counsel on impending adult subjects and a firm hand with direction.

When your kids are adolescents, they need you as a consultant. When very young, they need you as "friend/parent/caregiver."

Finchie40 · Answer

No it should be 50/50 and something that is discussed before getting married , Me personally doesn’t want to have any more kids , I been there and done it , I love kids but just don’t want to start over , so I pretty much date girls that don’t want kids or already had kids , it’s harder to find relationships now cuz it kind of limits my selection of girls cuz most girls want to have a family and have babies one day so I am pretty much upfront and tell the girl that isn’t on my top priority list since I been there and done it already , the girl I am dating now doesn’t want kids so it works out

Guy13 · Answer

I think I would already have an agreed upon a Plan. In my house, yes BUT I’ll make damn sure it’s not hand-mouth day-in and day-out.- I like to rest well…. What I’ve learned from my Friend’s experiences is the wives push the kids.

Some think they can handle 3 financially. One friend is 3 months from number 6. I bought a 3+ 2 car garage at 25 with intent to fill it, however, I know 3 kids is equivalent to 5 million from age 1 month to 25(grad school). I’m good with that so, for me, it would become a trust issue.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

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Anonymous · Answer

FUCK no. It’s my body and it’s my choice not his. I decide if I even WANT to have a child with him. do y’all know how dangerous pregnancy be to both women and the baby? It requires A LOT of medical attention and you have to be on high alert for yourself and the baby 24/7 . There’s so many things that can occur during pregnancy and after. So fuck no. We can adopt if he’s that eager to have a child 🤷🏻‍♀️ But I’m not going to get impregnated if I’m not mentally and physically ready. He doesn’t get to decide when I want to or not.

Angelikababy_1999 · Answer

No. Getting pregnant for 9 months, giving birth, internally messing up your body, breastfeeding & and raising a human for 2 decades is not something one person (especially the man) gets to decide by themselves. If you're blessing someone with children made from the both of you, make sure the both of are 1. Ready and 2. Actually want them.

If your husband gets upset that you aren't giving him babies at the exact rate he wants, that's a very red flag. These are lifelong decisions that will affect both of your lives. One person does not get to have that much power of the other.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes and no. He should not be able to get her pregnant against her will. That is to say that he should not force her to get pregnant (obviously), and shouldn't take off a condom without telling her.

But she should not be able try to get pregnant without his consent, and by that I mean if they have agreed to not get pregnant and she has agreed to take birth control to prevent it, she should not go off birth control without his knowledge.

Seems like common sense to me. Unfortunately, the laws are currently set up to protect women but not men.

hahahmm · Answer

I voted yes.. but what I mean is it should be a decision made by both people. It's the kind of thing best discussed before getting married so you at least know you have similar goals. Marrying somebody who wants 10 kids when you only want 1 would be a bad idea.

AviatorTom · Answer

Decide? NO. Be involved in the discussion? YES.

The decision to have children, and when, should be a joint decision by the husband and wife.

Having said that, I was happy after my then-wife and I had 2 sons. I wasn't against another child, but I didn't think it would happen. Then, one night, she seduced me, and 9 months later she got the daughter she wanted.

molonski2 · Answer

Of course they should , this is without doubt , you can't just get out spitting out off spring just because you have a Virginia , its called family planning and both need to be completely onboard , and wherever remotely possible , every pregnancy will be planned and discussed by both.
Its certainly NOT just up to the woman to govern reproduction , especially if she expects contribution - WHAT A JOKE , that would be , common sense please.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

That should be a joint decision and one that should of been discussed/known prior to marriage or relationship...
It takes two, not only too "create" a family but also to raise/support/provide for a family, so why shouldn't/wouldn't it be a decision made by both?

Oribi · Answer

Nobody except the person whose body it is should ever get to decide what happens to their body.

That means both that only the person getting pregnant should get to decide when or how often they get pregnant AND that only the person producing sperm should get to decide when and what use is made of his sperm.

In other words, if she doesn't want to get pregnant, he has no right to make her. If she does want to get pregnant and he doesn't want her to, he has no right to stop her... but he still has every right to stop her from getting pregnant BY HIM, and to leave her if she chooses to get pregnant by somebody else instead.

Idkanything55528 · Answer

Yeahh, I'm gonna have to disagree. It's a mutual decision. We shouldn't have to keep popping out babies because HE said so. And vice versa.

None of us are property. I mean, yo udont HAVE to have a baby. You don't have to have multiple, either. Bu that you need to do is AGREE on it with your partner. Hear them out. COMMUNICATE. A relationship is TWO people. You aren't the only one allowed to make decisions.

PhenomenalQueen · Answer

Yes and no… I have different opinions about this, mainly if the husband is financially responsible for the wife, then yes he should have a say. His opinion should be respected, but if the wife wants to have another baby and the husband doesn’t, they should sit and talk it out.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Fuck that. I mean, when the wife gets pregnant is her decision completely but if she wants a baby and the man doesn't she doesn't have a right to have a child whenever she wants. They both need to agree.

So yea the husband does decide, but that decision doesn't really mean anything unless the wife agrees and its the same thing the other way around.

Teamwork

Chlo3_2001 · Answer

Absolutely the heck not. Guys should let them decide when they get pregnant. They're the ones that have to carry the pregnancy and birth the baby and more likely to give up their work, social life and some identity to child-raising. Having kids should be a choice both parents want and both parents are ready for, but the only person who should decide when they get pregnant is the person carrying the pregnancy.

Daniela1982 · Answer

They are most likely the ones that are paying the bills so yes, they have a say in it. But it should be a joint decision that is made considering many factors, like financial - can we afford a baby and not have me work? - and their life goals. Maybe they would want one later but not now.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Dating is when you decide these things… after that marriage is when the plans made. If things get that far and plans change it’s up to both parties to decide. I don’t support divorce and I think he’s should be for her and she for him… I see no reason to push kids or withhold kids unless there’s a good reason though…

HighValue · Answer

They both should discuss and agree on how many kids they want early on in the relationship, especially before taking a major step like living together.

I want 3 to 5, so as long as what she wants is within that range I am fine. If she doesn't want some then we aren't compatible. It is that simple.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I'm kind of confused by this question. A man has a right to not want to get her pregnant, if she gets pregnant by another man that would mean she cheated. She shouldn't be allowed to baby trap him. Having kids should be a mutual agreement between the man and woman.

Angelo75 · Answer

Perhaps ask the next question:
Do the world believe that husbands should raise the child and financially take care of the child?
If so, wouldn't it be fair for him to also have a saying about the amount of children he has to take care off? Or should it be forced upon him?

annabananna · Answer

This is something they should both discuss and consider each other’s wishes and make a decision but you can’t force someone into getting pregnant. Some women have a really hard time during pregnancy as well and it being dangerous. Also, if the woman feels she can only take in so many kids that should be respected. You don’t want too many and have some neglected.

LetsBeHonestHere · Answer

I mean in reality men cannot determine if you can get pregnant or not. Some females just can’t get pregnant, but also if your husband is saying he gets the say so leave asap that isn’t a marriage that is a I own you. You are his property in his mind.

CaptainLegal · Answer

It should be mutually decided upon. I love kids my girlfriend does too but I want her to finish university first and find a good job before having kids with her and she respected my decision. As for how many kids well I like it to take it slow. I don't want to have 3 kids in 2 years lol maybe have one kid and wait 4 years for the next one. Raising kids is expensive and tiring it's not always about if you wanna have kids it's also about if you have the money and time to raise them

serious_miss419 · Answer

It’s something a male is unable to comprehend because he is not a female.
We have to change our entire life so that our body can grow a baby. A guy can go put his sperm in a dish and get his own kid.
A man needs to express his needs early on in a relationship so his female partner knows his expectations of her.

RationalMale · Answer

I don't understand the implied point of your question.

A couple should not have kids unless they both decide they are open to it. If the husband tries to forcible impregnate his wife, such as by sabotaging the birth control, etc, that's horribly wrong. If a woman tries to trick/deceive her man into impregnating her against his will, such as by lying that she's on birth control or sabotaging the condons, etc, that's horribly wrong.

HighlyVolatile · Answer

No way. That's a mutual responsibility and therefore a mutual decision as I see it. Both parties should want children in order to create them.

msc545 · Answer

As long as women get to dictate and determine how men spend their money then it makes sense and it's only fair that men should be able to dictate and direct how many times women get pregnant and cost them even more money. Once again, we are treated to a woman asserting that women have the right to determine what to do with money that men work for. Fukk that.

Bratsondanielle · Answer

Lol, I think in a marriage, or any other nuclear family/steady relationship (yes yes it's a sin - I know) the two people involved should have an agreement on when they have kids. It just kinda works best that way 😌

JSmith925 · Answer

It should be a mutual decision but a woman has the final say over her body. On the other hand, a man must have veto power since his is equally responsible for the child, ethically and legally. ~JSmith

howhigh420 · Answer

I say no my ex slept with me another 2 girls behind my back got one pregnant she had a micarage to his kid nd that was only a one night stand with her so i say no women make the desision he's z scum bag anyway cheating fuck but i think womennit men

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Fuck no. also any of the type that do this should not be parents in the first place.

Sicilian_Bvttfvcker · Answer

It should be a joint decision between both the male and female. Although one can be tempted to say both parties have an equal vote, I would say that a woman should have veto power over what grows (or does not) inside of her. It's a fact , in most cases, that women bear a disproportionate share of raising a child... not to mention the 9 month pregnancy part. So, it's only fair to give her veto power on this issue.

Anonymous · Answer

Family planning should be between both people in a relationship. Part of the courting process should also include discussions about the future, such as children, long before any sort of marriage. One person dictating how and when there will be children seems abusive to me.

Anonymous · Answer

Tf No. Pregnancy traumatize the woman's body. Some women loose all of their hair, teeth etc. If he wants so many kids, he should adopt. The men who said yes, can they reply to me? Are these men ok with their wifes cutting their dicks off or deciding vasectomy?

SnakeBoop · Answer

Until the man can carry or push a baby out, he can merely voice his opinion. His opinion however, is not the answer on whats going to happen.

FunGuy85 · Answer

I think they should have a say in it, and an opinion, as in part of the couple’s discussion. But it should be a joint decision that they both make together. I don’t believe in a man only, getting to make the hard and fast decisions that will so drastically change their lives. That era is looonnnnngg gone.

Mary087 · Answer

It should be mutually agreed upon how many children they wanna have, even married couples I’m sure have to use some contraceptive if their done with kids like one of my friends and her husband do.

Adam1978 · Answer

Birth control should be decided by both, unless both wants more kids they should be used. So yes the husband should be in control over how many pregnancies that should be started.

ohshee · Answer

No you have that discussion weiwei beforehand how many kids do you want it's the woman that carries the baby gets a woman that goes to all the pain all the agony is her choice how many

Lionman95 · Answer

Yes but only in terms of deciding WITH her how many children they can handle as a family. No in terms of him giving him the ability of making her to go through pregnancy against her will.

Apulu_3 · Answer

Of course no. They both have contribution in giving birth and they both have to decide and come a to a conclusion.

Citizenkirk · Answer

I think that should be a mutual decision between them two.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I believe husbands do get to decide, when a woman gets married she becomes her husbands property, so weather she likes it or not I think he should decide how many kids they should have. It's just my religious way of thinking how marriages should be, as I'm a Christian.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

This is nonsense. The couple can plan all they want to get pregnant. But if God's not in it, a child won't form.

Shy80sgirl · Answer

This should be a mutual decision on all fronts. If each individual has a concern about timing, you work through it.

jshm2 · Answer

Eh. Thats is not how biology works, kiddo. Finish highschool first.

TyLeeAndPink · Answer

Imagine being like TonyMetal___86, who thinks that people who believe in equal rights are "feminazis" and "stupid," what a sad life to lead.

wingattebaby16 · Answer

it always should be a joint, husband and wife decision.

Kabluie · Answer

they can, can always bring it under their control and get the snip when they are done spreading the seed.

AdithyaR · Answer

It should be a joint decision but in the end, the woman's the one who's gonna go through the pregnancy so she gets final say

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

I think both sides should talk about first like grown adults.

sheikalana · Answer

They can obviously give their opinion but they should not be the ones to decide. These type of things should be discussed by both.

dustybiker · Answer

It’s called a “married couple”. Both sides should come to a fair agreement on everything.

Aurora1010 · Answer

No of course not, it should be a decision between both.

Anonymous · Answer

I suppose I think they should have a say in it since they're going to be raising the kids too. However, I most certainly don't think their opinion should be the only one that matters.

Carolus · Answer

Yes how it should be but modern women have scraped it from the good books.

jasco · Answer

I mean without my cum you can't get pregnant anyway so if I don't wanna cum in you and get you pregnant, theirs no way your getting pregnant unless you cheat

Better_off_here · Answer

no they should not have any part in that, it is not his body, and it is not up to him what that woman will do if she does become pregnant. as a couple you can, of course, decide how many kids you may want but the woman is the one holding the child.

Avicenna · Answer

If course not. That’s a decision that should be made jointly.

Dargil · Answer

Like everything down to money, it is a joint decision.

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