Should I give him the money for our kid?

[Anonymous]

My baby's father wants me to send him $400 for our child's 3rd birthday. Which I think is too much Considering the fact I Don't get child support from him. Plus, he said when he has him, He won't ever ask me for anything And when I have him, Don't ask him for anything. (And I haven't since 2020). I have full custody anyway.🙄I had my baby for a year, then he TOOK him for a year. Now, he wants me to help him 😴Should I give him the $400? He has a Good Job making at least 8k a month. 🤔 I Don't feel like I should give him anything, honestly. He and his other baby mom dogged me out to their families for 2 years calling me unfit, Broke etc. And it WASN'T even true at all... if it was, I wouldn't have full custody nor will he be asking me for that type of money) they had to come to Me; (the same person they talked badly about) for help. She, his other baby mom told me plain as day, "we're going to take your kid from you". ANd she didn't even know me...😒 she's NOT even married to him...🙄🤡 He doesn't keep money at all because he's a gambler. I DONT gamble, drink or anything. They're doing all 3. 😔

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+1 y

Last year, I sent him $700 and this year January and February I sent $200.00 I really DONT feel like I should send anything. Especially If He's with me too.🤔smh

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+1 y

He yelled at me today and Said to me, "YOU BETTER HAVE THE $400.00 . SMH!

[Miristheiss]

Fifty bucks might be ok... maybe one hundred.
Don't spoil the kid... they don't need that extravigent of a birthday. A cake, some candles, a few gifts. Maybe a few friends over and a few relatives.

Assuming he is ALSO chipping in 400... that would be 800 dollars. What does he want to do for the birthday?

[Asker]

Like everyone else said, he's definitely not using $400 for just ONE day. No way!! 🙄

[spartan55]

Wtf? Why are you that dude so much as a dime? Why aren't you getting support from him? $400 for a 3 year olds birthday? Yeah that money is going straight into his pocket.

[spartan55]

*giving that dude

[Asker]

That's okay! Because i'm not giving him anything else!

[spartan55]

Take him to court for support. Not sure why you haven't

[Asker]

I have. They can't find him. But it is what it is!!! His other baby's mom told everyone i'm sad for putting him on child support. 😂 she is just as sad as he is. 😴

[spartan55]

What do you mean they can't find him? You don't know his address?

[Asker]

Yes! I know it. they said "they can't find him. "I don't want anything from him at this point because he spent over 10k, gambling. He doesn't keep money anyway. and i know he will harass me over that cs money (he's done it before) ... so He can keep his money and i'll keep my money.

[spartan55]

That makes no sense

[dustybiker]

Keep the money for your child when in your care. Have you been to court to create legal boundaries? Sounds like you better. Sooner than later.

[XXblack88]

No You shouldn't give him one dime unless it fake money from the dollar store 😂

[Asker]

😂 good one.

[Anonymous]

3 year olds dont need $400 presents, thats absurd.

Im not sure they need anything frankly but some candles, party poppers a card, song and some attention are probably quite sufficient.

[Opinion Owner]

Why dont you write to his parents or similar and ask if everything is ok with him as he keeps asking you for money?

[Asker]

Lol. Geat idea. Because he's definitely getting on my nerves; stressing me out

[Iron_Man]

You don’t have to give him that much give the kid a toy instead he might be using the money for himself

[Asker]

Yeah. I think so too!

[Iron_Man]

Right

[one1wild00]

$400 for a 3 yer old birthday party? that's a bit over the top outside most should be $100

[one1wild00]

Tell him Heck no on the $400, but you'd consider $100. Have someone with you when you do it though - backup of sorts.

[Asker]

I'm sending anything. He should already have money for him.. Because I have money for him. 😒

[OddBeMe]

“His other baby momma”
Ghetto statement of the year.

[Asker]

What else is she then? His children mother? Who gives a f*ck

[spartan55]

It's a trashy label.

[jshm2]

He's making a fool out of you. You should get back your kids and go no contact, else sue him for child support.

[AviatorTom]

You're making this about your baby's father, which is wrong. Think about your child and make your decision.

[MannMitAntworten]

If you decide to send anything at all, think to yourself, it is just for your son alone. Though, you could counter, you are giving him a party when he returns that he should send $600.

[TrueConfection]

Gambling addiction? Nope, not a penny. Put that money away in a trust for your child.

[t-8900]

Something about this story doesn't add up. If you have full custody then how can he have the child for a full year? That's not even legal

[Asker]

It WASN'T legal. That's why I said TOOK! 🙄I've called the 👮 hundreds of times and they didn't do anything because he's the daddy. 🙄🙄🙄

[t-8900]

What county is this happening in?

[Asker]

That's what the 👮 said. They said they can't do anything because his name is on my baby's birth certificate.

[t-8900]

If there is a court order that says you have sole custody and you live in the USA then this doesn't make sense

[Asker]

Doesn't make sense to me neither. . if he wants to see our kid, he can.. 😴

[jestergent]

I'm a traditionalist, so I'll say you need to get back with him for the kids. I don't date single mothers for this reason.

[Asker]

No. He's with someone else

[Xaxztjs]

No definitely not he doesn't deserve the money unless he is actually in your child's life way more and besides he makes good money

[InvoluntaryCelibate9]

no. Keep it. I would. He will make his own money from a job

[Anonymous]

Sounds like someone is a bitter mommy.. No sympathy for you.. After all the shit men go through just to be able to see their children when divorce happens...

[Asker]

Lol. What are you talking about? 😂😂🤡

[Asker]

Answer the question or skip pass it. Smh!🙄

[JuanVeIasco]

Take care of your children, otherwise, don't get pregnant.

[Asker]

😂😂😂You are funny. Great one! 🤡🙄👉

[Guslove]

Just tell him you’ll get the baby whatever it needs he’ll probably spend it on himself…

[slatyb]

No of course you should not.

[DaddyDiablo]

Maybe you either not her type or you ugly asf bruh

[Asker]

Huh? 💀

[SpitSpan]

Was it only his child/only with him?

[Asker]

He has 2 other kids with baby mom #2. 😒

[captainggaming]

No of course you should not. 🙄🙄