Why are hispanic moms like this with their sons?

[xJayleenx]

Me and my mom had an argument but nothing too big because she wants me to clean the house but I’m already cleaning the bathrooms and I’m going to shower the dog, fold my laundry, and stuff and today is my only free day the only day I have for myself is today because I work full time 2:30-11:00 pm M-F and I also have college as well. I do not want to spend my only free day with a cranky atmosphere because she gets super cranky when she cleans. And I told her mom don’t you feel bad for me I barely have any free time for myself? And I suggested that my brother (12 years old) could help her broom the house when he came back from school and she absolutely refused saying that my brother is like his dad like maam that is your son don’t raise him the same way! I don’t get why hispanic moms are like this with their sons my brother doesn’t really help out at all in the house. I don’t get why she isn’t more worried about me I don’t get enough sleep and I’m always busy I understand that she has arthritis but she has a perfectly capable son too and I already help her on my only free day her son doesn’t really do anything. When I was 11 even I cleaned bathrooms and did dishes but he doesn’t do any of that stuff and he’s 12.

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+1 y

And she said I even studied while being pregnant with you! She’s obviously lying she had me at 23 and never went to college

[NathanDavis]

it's different for everyone, and everywhere...

at least in my experience, my family was not like this... most of my relatives are not like this either, at the most... I would say 10% of our family have things like this happening
when I think of the streets I grew up in... same repeats, it does not happen for most, just in some households that are the minority

now that I think about it... and about the families in which I've seen these "roles" they vast majority of them are conservative/religious families... and not "hispanic moms"

[dolemite89]

latina moms are just loca in general 🤷‍♂️😂 i think she just considers all that woman’s work

[xJayleenx]

When I tell her about it that’s not what she says she just wants to take the easy path because her son is stubborn but he has a lot of energy and eats out of boredom he obviously needs some chores to do. I don’t get why she waits until my only free day to clean

[dolemite89]

https://youtu.be/ZOe6Nsf-KGA 😂😂

[xJayleenx]

Lmao

[Aurora1010]

My mom never asked my brother to lift a finger either before he got married and left.

[xJayleenx]

And that’s not okay. My mom needs to train my brother now because im going to move out some day

[xJayleenx]

My mom is relatively young only 43 and she’s not like the old generation I don’t know why she’s still following these things

[Aurora1010]

I agree, you have your own life to live and shouldn't be expected to give up your free day. I'm always busy and just want to rest on my days off too

[Deku2009]

It seems your mom is saying your 11 year old brother is her favorite. She is completely in the wrong here , she shouldn’t be treating one special & you like a maid. He could probably be a complete slob and she would still do nothing. I am in your side Jayleen!

[eagle1951]

I had 3 sisters growing up, I remember this stuff, had something to do with that's not a mans job or boy, total bull in my book. but that's the way it was in my days

[xJayleenx]

But it’s not like that anymore and my mom is young 43

[eagle1951]

well she learned it somewhere

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

No offense Hispanic moms can be strict and they do tend to want the sons to do what the father does now I could be wrong but hard to say just my opinion

[Jamie05rhs]

It's the Patriarchy.

I am completely on your side, by the way. Your mom is wrong. She's giving him favorable treatment. I wish she would listen to you.

[888theGreat]

she sees house work as womens work. . She doesn't know that when you get married that he will be doing all the house work or he ain't getting any when the lights go out.

[Andres77]

My wife is Colombian.
I've heard about this a lot.
Not all but many are like this.

[Abdulwahh]

I thought you syrian not hispanic

[xJayleenx]

I’m Dominican but I am part Syrian only a little bit though