Is this normal behavior from a father and do you think it's messed up?

[Anonymous]

I'm 27 and my dad is 69. I live with my parents but my father is a narcissist so he's always fighting with me and putting me down.

I moved out and moved in with my older brother to get away from him and our dysfunctional relationship. It's been amazing living with my brother.

I didn't know life could be so relaxed and you don't have to worry about someone trying to fight with you all the time. Is this is how normal people live? It's amazing.

When we had Easter. My brother and I came home to have Easter with our parents. And my brother told me after the Easter hangout that my dad asked him if I am really living with him.

My dad is always afraid I'm some giant whore. It's really weird he's always doubting me and assuming I've slept around. I'm a virgin actually and I plan to wait for marriage, I've told me dad that so many times and it's like he doesn't believe me.

I was just wondering, is it normal behavior when your dad thinks you're sleeping around and thinks you are a slut and thinks you are sleeping over guys houses all the time.

I don't get why he doesn't trust me it's so weird. I've only had one boyfriend and it didn't last that long. Where does he think I'm meeting these guys I'm super shy and even if a guy did approach me I wouldn't sleep with him lol.

It's mind boggling. I was wondering if it's normal for a father to act like that and not trust his daughter to be that kind of girl.

He's done this to me since I was like 12.

[Anonymous]

No it’s not normal, he must have some reason thinking that, probably something in his past, it’s not you, I have 3 daughters in early 20s , I don’t think of them that way and they tell me pretty much everything, none of them are virgins though. It’s good you moved out

[Asker]

Wow you know they aren't virgins and that doesn't upset you?

[Opinion Owner]

I’m glad they aren’t afraid to tell me things but I couldn’t be around them as much since I’ve been divorced from their mom since they were 16 , they all lost their virginity in their late teens, pretty much like the rest of young women in the USA, I never met any virgins when I was dating , I was considered late at 21 losing it and my girlfriend was 18 I wasn’t her first either

[Asker]

Wow if I told my father that I had sex he would disown me and label me as a forever slut. Even if it was only one guy. Are you disappointed in them though for not waiting? Like is a part of you disappointed?

[Opinion Owner]

Not really, it’s pretty normal for most people, they all went to college, it’s pretty much expected, most people don’t wait to be married or even want marriage these days, I didn’t wait either so I can’t say I did either

[Asker]

Hmm ok. I've never met a man like you before. I'm waiting because I am religious. So if one of your daughters was still a virgin and she came to you, told you she plans on having sex with her boyfriend. You wouldn't talk her out of it?

[Opinion Owner]

That would be different since they never asked but I would want them to be really sure that this was the one before doing it but since they are over 21 it’s really not my business anymore since they are adults and don’t live with me

[jasco]

no its not, glad you got away from him

[boggboss]

U explained why because he is narcissistic and for some reason dislikes u is it nimrla no but u know pretty much why

[Asker]

He dislikes me?

[boggboss]

He thinks tour a whore when you are still a virgin does that sound like somthing someone thinks that loves u

[Asker]

I guess so... Wow. But he says to me "love you." He says I'm the apple of his eye and he calls me his doll. He can still dislike me after saying all that or like he doesn't actually mean those things?

[boggboss]

And also makes comments that u are a whore would u call someone u love that 😑

[Asker]

True. Sorry it's just eye opening. Thank you for your honesty.

[Guy13]

People pick their Target.

[Asker]

I always knew I was his target. It upset me to hear that 😔

[Guy13]

My Dad was the same way. Good attention (how great thou art) and everyone else in some sort of negative expression (how ungrateful you all are)….
—It’s not just us. It’s the illusion of grandeur. And as they loose their attractiveness etc it gets worse. You crying or smiling BOTH fills the Narcissist child insecure need for constant attention

[Anonymous]

Haha, thats strange, maybe just bring him medical exam results...