I have my friends, 9 friends. This year was going great, and I have the best friendships I ever have had.
A few weeks ago, they all together just stopped talking, sitting, working with me, they will not even make eye contact. It’s like they all made a descision to isolate me and 3 other friends.
We didn’t do anything. Seriously. We have done nothing. We haven’t pulled any pranks or anything and I had no idea what they were mad about. We don’t gossip, it’s not cool. I thought everything was going fine.
No, we are not the mean girls. We are the girls who are just there. We aren’t popular, or mean. We don’t really hang out with boys, and our interests range from horse raising to art to writing to sports.
Finally we were fed up with it. They were never downright snotty to us, but when it was unavoidable to talk to us, they talk like we are acquaintances.
it’s not that it’s best friend groups diverging either. We’re all friends, but we have have best friends, and even some of those pairs have been split up by this.
I was done. I cornered one of them and asked them point blank what was wrong. Before, when I asked they would awkwardly switch the conversation, or just not reply. But this time she could get back to her seat. She fish mouthed for a while, opening and closing it without saying anything, until another “friend” came over.
This one actually tells me, very vaguely, that everyone is just getting fed up with each other. First I’ve heard of it! I thought the friend group was going great. She tells me that it’s not entirely my fault, but then told everyone else who was isolated that it wasn’t them at all.
that leaves me.
My biggest fear is that my friends secretly hate me and that I’m annoying to everyone.
I haven’t retaliated, and I will not… but is it wrong to be hurt by this?
A few weeks ago, they all together just stopped talking, sitting, working with me, they will not even make eye contact. It’s like they all made a descision to isolate me and 3 other friends.
We didn’t do anything. Seriously. We have done nothing. We haven’t pulled any pranks or anything and I had no idea what they were mad about. We don’t gossip, it’s not cool. I thought everything was going fine.
No, we are not the mean girls. We are the girls who are just there. We aren’t popular, or mean. We don’t really hang out with boys, and our interests range from horse raising to art to writing to sports.
Finally we were fed up with it. They were never downright snotty to us, but when it was unavoidable to talk to us, they talk like we are acquaintances.
it’s not that it’s best friend groups diverging either. We’re all friends, but we have have best friends, and even some of those pairs have been split up by this.
I was done. I cornered one of them and asked them point blank what was wrong. Before, when I asked they would awkwardly switch the conversation, or just not reply. But this time she could get back to her seat. She fish mouthed for a while, opening and closing it without saying anything, until another “friend” came over.
This one actually tells me, very vaguely, that everyone is just getting fed up with each other. First I’ve heard of it! I thought the friend group was going great. She tells me that it’s not entirely my fault, but then told everyone else who was isolated that it wasn’t them at all.
that leaves me.
My biggest fear is that my friends secretly hate me and that I’m annoying to everyone.
I haven’t retaliated, and I will not… but is it wrong to be hurt by this?
