What you think of a step Dad to come into home to set new rule and look to discipline?

[Liuz02]

For guy aged 19

[Anonymous]

I don't have to do what you say!

You're not even my real dad!

QQ

[Liuz02]

Is true but I need to live at home however

[Opinion Owner]

No you dont, you could get yourself kicked out onto the streets and then seek help from the local authority.

What you mean is that you dont like that option because while you dont like what is happening at home it is still preferable to having to look after yourself.

[Liuz02]

Yes Guffrus, I not like to get kick onto street for sure no of course.

[Opinion Owner]

What exactly is he telling you that you should do or not do?

To what degree is he contributing to the household finanically or otherwise?

What is your mothers attitude etc?

[Liuz02]

Like everything, like who I see, when I leave house for who i see you n spare time, what o wear, study , everything actually. He contribute a lot to household, my mother have the ugh time with money and think he is good impression to me.

[Opinion Owner]

Well, while I consider what he is doing to be completely inappropriate there is an inescapable element of 'his house his rules'.

I would imagine that he is attempting to 'do the right thing', as he sees it.

Probably the best thing to do if it is possible is to try and sit down with him and your mother and try to work this out and see what, if anything, you can all agree to.

[Liuz02]

Yes is good advice, I think he like control a lot for sure and not much up for talking anyway.

[Opinion Owner]

Well you can only do what you can do but this guy could be in your mothers life forever or for a long time so you should do your best to make sure that your conduct is as mature and as reasonable as possible because you dont want to be in a situation where it is difficult to have a relationship with your mother.

I think it would be helpful to explictly point this out in fact and make sure this guy fully understands his place, he is not your father and you are an adult and it is perfectly reasonable that you insist that he treats you as such, so long as you are behaving like one.

[Liuz02]

Yes for sure and he no right to spanking me

[Liuz02]

Than you for advice anyhow

[Anonymous]

Id be looking to move out.

[Liuz02]

Yes I need save money, is difficult with school aswell