What would you do if you had a child and they came out to you as gay/lesbian?

[Still-alive]

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as suspected a whole lot of homophobes on this site. smh.

[Smashingdoozy]

I imagine it would go like this:

Child: "Mom this is my girlfriend/boyfriend"
Me: "ok cool, nice to meet you. No closed doors, let me know if you need anything."

I hope to create an environment where my kids don't feel the need to "come out" they can just bring home a boy or a girl and I would be absolutely ok with it, as I would if the person was the opposite gender. Or they could just tell me that they have a crush on a boy or a girl and it would be an absolutely normal conversation because well, it is.

[Theabcking]

You wouldn't look for the cure for gay?

[Smashingdoozy]

@Theabcking being gay isn't a disease

[Lyndsielee666]

Both my kids are already very aware that it’s okay and I’ll love them regardless.

[JustiReno]

What if a little boy tries to fuck your son tho for real

[Lyndsielee666]

@JustiReno I don’t have a son

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I'm childfree, but I'm a sort of cool aunt to a lot of friends' kids and cousins' kids.

How I've handled it is with a calm celebration and an acknowledgement of trust.

I came out to my friends first and their initial "idc" attitude kinda made me feel mixed emotions. On one hand I was happy they didn't change how they interacted. On the other hand, it felt like this big thing to me that took me nearly 30 years to realize was meaningless to them. We talked it out, though, and everything was great.

So now, when my young family comes out to me, I exprees support, encouragement, and gratitude that they trust me enough to share with me their truth.

If they ever want to go to Pride, I'll go with them. If they ever want to go clothes shopping for stuff their parents aren't comfortable getting them, I'll fucking take em.

I've had talks about what does it mean if they feel attraction to someone who is non-binary (increasingly how I identify as well), someone who is the same gender, etc.

I'm there for all my LGBTQ fam. I didn't have that growing up, so now that I'm out and on my own, I want to give that to people I love. Maybe they don't need it, that's great. But if they do I will give them that love and support I wish I had.

[lightbulb27]

at what age? already had one teen say "maybe I'm bi".. because she's impressionable and idiots around her say they are "bi". What's that saying... there's a fool born every minute? Reality is, kids are impressionable and emotional distortions can occur ontop of hormonal ones. She got put back on the right track and is boy crazy and deflects the female "advances"... those sickos. This is why you gotta watch your kids! If anyone actually believes what the average teenage girl says to them, then they are... fools... and the Bible says I shouldn't say that, but can't help it... what else can I say?

Just accepting what a kid says up through early 20's... is total ignorance. I'm sure you will say I am that. Kids can be traumatized which will throw them off course emotionally, and they can be mis lead down paths that are not good for their lives. God only knows what all the drugs and pollution in evironment does to developing bodies. This mating stuff is just hormones + emotional development. There's a bunch of frogs that are screwed up due to chemicals in the enviornment. If something went wrong, need to pay attention, diagnose, try to correct it. Kids have til about 40yrs old to make offspring then thats.. that, boys a little more.

We are though... fighting an uphill battle for this society and world does not want healthy mating pairs. that is obvious isn't it?

ultimately, if they were, they are loved and accepted as is for their life and support them emotionally as we would anyways.

And they aren't even my birth kids.

I know people who have illnesses who put more effort into resolving them than most gay/lesbian... because they don't see it as a problem but reality. That may be true, but in cases I've heard and seen, that is false. Emotional damage is all around. But it's their life, and we all have our issues.

[Reem12345reem]

I'm bisexual but I'm afraid to tell my parents , I live in a religious country , so it's actually a sin to be that way , but I can't control it , i didn't decide to be like that , I'm just born with it 💔Sometimes I wish I were normal like other girls , but I'm not actually sure if I'm really bisexual , when I was 10, 11 12 , 13 I was only interested in boys ( emotionally and sexually ) but now i feel sexual attraction towards girls but not emotional , so I DON'T KNOW I'M LOST !! maybe it's just a phase or I'm in my horniest phase lol

[erandal]

You are still very young and your body and mind are both coming to terms with who you are. You may find that your sexual urges towards women subside, maybe they won’t, but whatever happens just give yourself a few years and don’t rush into anything.

[Reem12345reem]

@erandal 💗💗💗you;re so sweet thank you !!!😭😭

[TenderFantasy]

Sad but I will accept it. It's going to be harder for her to find a mate. As far as I know, homosexuals or LGBTQ (IA now was added though I do not know what that stands for lol, they keep adding things!), are still in the minority. It's probably a lot better now compared to in the 2000's or older, but still...

Actually, now that I've thought about it, I will still love her. She is her own person and I love her THAT much that I would only want her to be happy and healthy. Peaceful too. I think that is what ANY parent would naturally want for their child. I would be excited to find out how her life turns out and IF she does end up finding someone special AND giving me grandchildren. I would really hope that she grows up normal though to be honest. I would pray for it so.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Honestly at the rate we are headed at a country, depending on their age and how close they were to exploring, I would consider moving to an area that may not criminalize queerness in the next 5 years.

I want every high schoolers biggest fears to be around grades, does my crush like me back, and what do you think of my outfit.

I would want my child to be supported and to be able to experience a failed high school romance like 95% of everyone else and not have to worry about getting bullied, attacked, or how new laws can impact the above 3 things.

[CrazyGirl2]

Nothing, what should I do, throw them a parade? Seriously, one of my kids coming out as gay, is as about as important to me as one of my kids coming out as wanting to be a firefighter and not wanting to be a psychological Doctor! Like her/his mother! Being gay is absolutely NO big deal, and anyone who think it is, IS the problem.

[CrazyGirl2]

Oh WOW! So TWO COWARDS disagree with me that being gay is not a bad thing, but note that they were too afraid to actually say it using their actual user name! Typical homophobic cowardice!

[ChrisMaster69]

@CrazyGirl2 yep that’s about on par for GaG.

Those cluck cluck 🐔🐔

[CrazyGirl2]

@ChrisMaster69 Unbelievable! (Thanks for the like by the way). I wouldn’t have even noticed it if you had not liked my answer, what kind of degenerate would disagree with a mother loving her child no matter what? Oh, yeah… religious fundamentalist zealots!

[ChrisMaster69]

You missed the obligatory prefix to that … Cowardly religious fundamentalist zealots!

[CrazyGirl2]

@ChrisMaster69 Ah, yes of course!

[Still-alive]

correct they are always cowards smh

[CrazyGirl2]

Too true! It’s amazing how far these cowardly homophobic assholes will go to hide their true identity!

[JustiReno]

Wait @CrazyGirl2 … it’s a woman’s job to protect the kids … you ok with this seriously? YOU of all people think you are BORN gay? Like born on day 1? Please BE REAL WITH YOURSELF you can think every hole is for a penis but iono how much work you’d have to put in to that isn’t that rape?

[Kittykay_45]

I wouldn’t do anything because my child would have to come out. They can like who they want date who they want as long as there at appropriate age and gives proper respect. We don’t have crazy gender norms in our house. If you like something or dislike something that’s perfectly ok

[Kittykay_45]

Lol wouldn't* my bad.

[ChrisMaster69]

Literally nothing.

i don’t need to, there is support there irrespective of what decisions are made.

it’s always been a case of freedom of expression, beliefs etc.

my sister is bisexual and my daughter has known this her entire life, it’s never been hidden, ditto with my friends who are gay, lesbian.

I really don’t have to anything.

[kitty71]

I have a cousin who is gay but he had never came out and he is closeted. He is 54 years old living with his mom as he still is single, he does not have kids and he is not married and barely is social, he looves being stucked at home watcfhing TV or use the comnputer but he does work outside home. Due to he hardly goes out of the house he had became very fat as well.

[Still-alive]

Ok… so are you blaming him being gay for all that?

[kitty71]

No but live like tahth may be a reason why he is gay probably

[Still-alive]

huh? those two things have nothing to do with each other...

[kitty71]

Im sure this cousin is a closeted gay but he does not want to come out. Im mean he is mature enough to come out already he can but he does not

[Aerissa_Jade]

Probably about the same as a child coming out as Heterosexual. That's nice dear, and move on.

Besides a lot of kids don't really understand or know things and will change their mind later, so no point in focusing on it.

I personally don't think anyone needs to come out, I don't tell anyone (for the most part) that I'm heteroflexible, none of their business.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

I wouldn't care as long as they're planning to have kids (I know IVF/sperm or egg donation/etc aren't cheap but I'd honestly would be willing to help). Beside that, I wouldn't care. If they're younger, though, I would advise them to wait before doing anything just to make sure.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

To be honest? I’d crack jokes to ease the tension of the moment but follow up with I don’t care , you're still my child and my love for you will never change unless you start wearing a The New England patriots jersey. If you do, that’s a whole different conversation 😂

[Kaytiee]

Wouldn't bother me, if they were really young though I would reassure them, but also let them know they're very young and lack the experience to know for sure, so they should make sure they know before they define themselves as something and confuse themselves further. I'm taking 13 and below.

[Sonorous]

Well, I don't plan on reproducing... but let's pretend I committed that moral sin:

What would I do? I'd let them know that I would fully accept them & that they should never feel uncomfortable with telling me or asking me anything. That I will treat them the same & they should come to me if anyone doesn't. Because in my opinion, I think we should never be ashamed of being attracted to our own species... We're legit what we've evolved to be attracted to...

[Sixgunsound]

My wife suspects my older daughter might be a lesbian. She’s SEVEN for crying out loud! How in the world was that determination made when she doesn’t even understand what that means or much of anything sexual. I think she’s a kid and should get to be a kid as long as possible, without adults projecting their thoughts or feelings onto her.

[Tomcat68]

Assure them that I am ok with it but ask them to keep an open mind while exploring their sexuality. How you are perceived by your parents is important and I just want them to be happy regardless of what that looks like. It’s hard but even harder without supporting parents.

[meetkitty123]

Do you think such a minor admission given one random day of our entire relationship is going to change my love for my child? HELL NO. They're still the same child I gave birth to and loved every day since.

[Literalbillionaire17]

I support the LQBTQ+ completely however I feel like its a harder pill to swallow when your child is. I don’t know how I would deal with the situation. I would of course love and support my child but I think it would just be hard for me to except at first.

[JustiReno]

Who’s the molester in your family 🤫

[Literalbillionaire17]

@JustiReno what?

[JustiReno]

How they turn gay? Or a baby come at the womb like that please you expose them or society expose them n you don’t protect them how it work

[Kaytiee]

It's nice that you're honest, I agree it can be hard to accept sometimes because of being raised different with other values etc, but overall if you come around and support your child then that's all that matters. Parents won't always understand their kids, I'm straight but in general there's just some things my mum lets me get on with and is like, thats her I guess, I dont understand it but good for her!

[purplepoppy]

If they were young I'd pass it off as a fad, just something kids are into because it's temporarily cool this month. But if she was older I'd arrange some serious dick time to knock the dyke out of her just like porn suggests.

[MysteriousDarkness]

@purplepoppy
That proves you hate homosexuals.

[JustiReno]

What if your son took it in the booty

[ShadezMcgee]

Probably be shocked, but still would love them either way. Wouldn't be the first family member of mine that turned out to be gay. To go with that, I wouldn't curse God out or demand a do over child either if that's what people expect.