I would support them, although I may have my own reservations and concern about them, depending on what they came out as. Your number one responsibility as a parent is to make your children feel safe/secure/loved. I would much rather have a happy, healthy (mentally and physically) LGBTQ+ child than one who is miserable and cannot trust me. Conversion isn't something that can happen, so wasting time on something like that would both ruin your relationship with your child and most likely cause them serious mental damage that would effect them for the rest of their lives. I don't have children, but if I do someday I would do everything in my power to guide them through the world in a loving, open minded way.
If my *child* came out as LGBT+, I'd tell them to stow those thoughts until they turned 18. Stats show over 85% of children with "gender dysphoria" outgrow or change their mind on the matter as they mature through puberty, and a parent who's giving a prepubescent kid hormone blockers to enable that sort of identity crisis is less a parent and more a monster in human skin looking for social media approval with state-sanctioned child abuse. Maybe start demanding the kid take up a sport and/or a hobby to keep them focused and occupied.
If they came out as adults... Oof. I wouldn't go for conversion therapy, but I'd try to talk to them to see what and why they started believing this about themselves. I'd warn them about how the life choice they're making will guarantee they foster no biological children and end their genetic legacy, and how the promiscuity of casual sex in the LGBT community has put it at a ludicrously high risk of STDs. I'd ask if they were sure; if they'd ever tried a relationship with a heterosexual partner before, or if they were truly committed with a partner. I'd try to find out if they're good people or not.
After all that, all dissuasion having failed and them being free, autonomous adults, all I can do is leave them to their prerogative and beg them to get their partner STD tested- not inquired, TESTED- before sex.
And then, after 35+ years of sobriety, I would head to a bar and drink the hardest stuff they have on tap, and wonder where I failed.
Yes not a problem.
it think it’s called being a parent and a decent human being,
A few on the question below would likely simply set fire to their tainted off spring, the joy of bigotry.
Do you support gays?
A parent needs to be their for their children, part of being a parent is that support throughout their life.
I'm a parent they're my kids. They aren't harming anyone so why would I care. I wouldn't do anything differently than how I support them in everything else. Trying to change your kids or anyone else for that matter to fit into your own beliefs is actually called control. Parental love is supposed to be unconditional.
Disowning a child for this reason is selfish. It's like saying they aren't good enough and only deserve your love if they conform to your beliefs. Obviously that person's beliefs are more important than their own child. Honestly, to me, those people shouldn't have kids.
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They're my child. Why wouldn't I? They deserve to be accepted for who they are. Whoever they're attracted to or whoever they want to be. It's my job to protect them and give them a life worth living, even if people hate them for it. Everyone deserves to be able to have meaningful relationships, regardless of their sexual orientation.
Yes, because I have nothing against it and I know how it feels to keep such a huge thing a secret and it can truly eat you up inside (wasn't exactly in the same situation, but I'd say it was something of the same capacity). My parents got cold with me after I told them my "secret", and it really took a toll on me mentally, I wouldn't wish that on anyone or inflict that on anyone. Even if you don't support it, becoming your own child's enemy or acting cold or unaccepting towards them can never be a good thing.
Why couldn't I be your child? I fear my life if I come out to my parents...
I'd be okay if my child came out to me. I have nothing against it. I mean, for myself, I don't proclaim to everyone I see that I'm genderfluid and bisexual, but that doesn't mean I don't care about others. I'm just not a public celebrator.
Yes, I wouldn’t care either way if they’re straight or lgbt. I don’t have a reason to support them 😂 I like judging people on their personalities and actions not on sexuality or race or whatever. Plus, they’re my child so of course I would support them, bigger problems in the world you know?
Yes, If I had a Child who came out and was LGBTQ, I would accept them and why cause I want my Child to be comfortable in his or her skin and not my business to tell them to be the gender I want them to be it's their choice , just like Jazz on TV she came out at young age and told her parents that she wanted to be a Female and that's who she is
Of course I would accept them. Why would I not? Only a monster would not accept their child over something so trivial. I would love my child no matter what.
I ask them why? Than base off that answer I would conclude what to do next. But more than likely I say don't bring any dudes here and don't do anything gay inside the house. Now once you leave this house, do what you want. I don't have anything against you but I can't support you as a father because that's not how I was taught nor can I accept you either because of my morals. I love you but I can't accept that your LGBTQ. It's not my cup of tea
Yes but I would accept it as if it they were straight because that's true equal. It's normal so i would not treated as a new a thing that is special. Unlike some annoying parents. That need to ask questions and just pretend your special for it or whatever else that is.
no. nobody comes out as "lgbtq". you're one of those things. LGBTQ refers to the community. not a particular sexual orientation. of course i accept if my child comes out gay, lesbian, trans, bi or queer but i will do what's in my power to keep them out of this toxic community.
It depends. I won’t bash them for the choices they make but I’m not supporting them. I’m not going to stop loving them and I have no choice but to accept them because they are my kid. I’m not supporting my son wanting to be a woman or my daughter wanting to be a man… in fact I would have nothing to say to them about it. I would keep my feelings to myself because it’s their life and they make their own choices.
Of course.
I mean why would I not?
If that's what makes them happy, then i will always support their happiness.
I want my future children to be happy
Yeah of course. I find it baffling that people don’t really, like they’re really going to place more value on other things over their own child’s well being?
s I would accept eventually but it would be shocking and I would need a lot of time to process it.
To support them, I would just make sure they knew they could count on me to help them and to vent.
They can come out as liking rainbow farting futa hentai with laser eyes and squeaky toy boobs and I wouldn't care (I also would not be shocked if thats an actual thing somewhere on the internet)
it's not like they chose which gene expressions to have for sexual preference, that shit is pure chaos.
Why do parents even have to care? is it the "why won't you give me grandkids" thing? cuz thats just petty.
Yes, of course. I told my mom I was bisexual, years ago and she has always been very supportive of my decision. I will be the same way with my children, one day.
s 100% without a doubt they would be accepted in the same way as if they were straight. I am more interested in them being healthy, happy and successful. I believe the best way to achieve that is through self discovery.
Having directly supported and nurtured my children for years, them declaring themselves as LGB or whatever is unlikely to greatly change a life mission in seeing them through to adulthood.
And since I don't have to sleep with them, their fads are of secondary concern.
The actual question should't bye "why yes?", but "why not?". I don't see any reason why I would not support my own child when s/he discovers his/her identity, whatever that may be.
u yes, I would
why? because love is love, as simple as that...
Yes I would I think I would be the same parent as I am today your child is your child and unconditional love is unconditional love
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