My partner then was shocked and asked if I'd not allow them to come home. I said they could come home but I'd do this unwillingly, still, I rather they come home than go in shady places. I don't believe most kids are mature enough to understand the meaning of sex and what it can lead to. He asked if I'd accept that my kid fell pregnant and I mentioned that I would not and clearly I'd be irritated. Nevertheless, if this happened, I would expect my child to take full responsibility for their child. And this got my partner angry and he told me that it's a good thing he didn't have a mother like me. I felt judged and I got angry. My opinion is legitimate. He asked if I would help with the child, I answered no.
I meant that I'd probably help as a grandmother (being a nanny and caring a few times now and then) but he should understand that it's normal that I'd not want to have to take the responsibility of raising another child (financially and emotionally by having to parent this baby). I'd be pissed because I'd have to take from my time and energy to raise and care not only for my teens but then my grandkids too. I understand why but it's not my role as a granny. Was I being unreasonable?
I get having to be empathetic but kids also need structure, discipline and guidance. A grandchild is first the parents responsibility then granny's are just there to make them feel loved.