I'm a straight man, but I've been burned by my last relationship. It's like Haddaway, "What is love"
The issue is human beings are social creatures, and men are part of Mankind. Social isolation is bad for your health, whether mental or physical. So, logically, I have to look for relationships (not just romantic).
But I'm not a social butterfly, too logical for that. So, I need to learn about patterns, to recognise a trustworthy woman.
I would add I don't buy into the hook up stuff. Okay, I have social and sexual needs, but looking for people again, and again, and again? It looks really complicated, and there are interesting things to learn, like history. My vision of relationships is more:"Ok, you have that friend, checked. Ok, you have that job, checked. Ok, you have that girlfriend, checked".
Personnally, I find life in the West too chaotic. About romantic relationships, I think, the goal is to have children, to raise them, and the marriage has the greatest percentage of success to last, on average.
But, the issue is, I come from a family where the women are bossy in their couple, whether my mother, my maternal grandmother or my paternal grandmother (damn patriarchy).
I know my maternal grandfather was submissive to his wife, my maternal grandmother, and my paternal grandmother was bossy for a long time (ah, the patriarchy...). I think the mariage between my father and my mother failed in the end, because my mother was still bossy, but my father didn't want to submit, no anymore at least.
Well, on that point, I'm a lot like my father. I don't even remember the number of quarrels between my mother and I, they were too numerous. Because none of us accepted we could be wrong.
So, nowadays, I find bossy people are Insufferable. I'm into a "Nor lead nor obey" mindset. I don't like to obey, I'm not a sheep. And why would I want people to obey me, are they sheeps?
So a recognise, a trustworthy, non-bossy woman who wouldn't stab me in the back?
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