What would you do if you had a child and they came out to you as gay/lesbian? (Page 2)
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I would have a talk with them about how we don't support that stuff as Christians, That it's ok if other people wanna believe it but it's not what we believe. That God made us love ourselves and the gender we are assigned to. That we shouldn't take it for granted and that we should be grateful. But that we shouldn't hate on others for it, if thats what they believe then thats fine, We don't hate on what people believe in and they shouldn't hate on us for not supporting lgbt. ❤
ok so what if you kid is still gay after telling them that? what would you do?
I would try to explain it to them in a different way, if they are really young they may not understand what I'm saying so I may wait and try to explain when they are older. I will try my best to save them and help them. If I've tried everything, well, then that is their choice if they wanna. I don't support but I will not hate. They are still my child I will always love them ❤
Would you kick them out of the house?
Absolutely not! They are still my child, I would never. No matter what I will still be there for them and they can stay with me as long as they want.
I rather like your take on it. My boyfriend is Christian however he has trouble with this kind of question. He doubts he would love his children after if they came out and went so far as to say he would remove them from his will. He also has shown these bits of hatred toward some of his LGBT coworkers and he’s trying to get his attitude under control yet it has proven difficult for him. I know he’s a really nice dude in every way but when it comes to this, his negativity is too strong and he can’t overcome it. Do you have any tips or advice on how to express more love, overcome this attitude, and not hate on groups that don’t necessarily line up with Christian teachings? I know the extent of his attitude is not just thinking that it’s not right, but also that these types of people don’t deserve his respect and it makes me sad because he’s so kind too yet he can’t see that by showing hatred, he’s also not in the right. Some people might tell me not to date him but I think that he can change and I see that he has the potential for more love and compassion.
I'm glad to hear that you are working on it with him and helping him out. Maybe try to explain it to him in a different way. He wants people to treat him correctly and kindly right? Well other people wanna be treated that way also. Even though LGBT is wrong, he still needs to treat them like how he would wanna be treated. That he wouldn't want people to hate on him for being Christian, so he shouldn't hate on others for their beliefs, even if they are wrong. If it makes him feel better, instead of hating, tell him to share about God, But do not say LGBT is wrong to them because that could start an argument, but if he shares the gospel instead of hate, it's like he's helping. It may make him feel better about it, rather than him arguing with them. Tell him to think of them as regular people. Pretend they aren't LGBT. Or even do! He should try to worry about himself and not others, yes they may be sinning but it's their choice, I mean, there are way worse sins out there in the world than LGBT. I have a couple of LGBT friends, and I do not agree with what they have chosen but that doesn't mean I should hate them. I think of them as normal people just like me. Yes, I have to talk about LGBT sometimes but I know that I'm not in that so I know I'm ok. I think he just needs to understand that yes it's not ok, but that it's also not ok to hate. God wouldn't want you to hate now would he? He would want him to love them as he would anyone else. Even if they are sinners
I agree with everything you said.
Thank you so much for your reply! It’s so valuable to me and I really appreciate you taking the time to do so and help out. I will definitely try out everything you suggested. You are wonderful! Please take care.
I had a friend who was really into fashion, sold men’s clothes, loved Broadway shows and had Calvin Klein men’s underwear ads decorating his dorm room. After I’d known him nineteen years, he came out of the closet. My reaction, like every other mutual friend’s was “No shit!”
I’ve heard it called “being in the glass closet,” when you don’t admit it, but everyone knows.
I sure as hell wouldn't be happy about it. I'd think far less of them. It's possible that I'd never talk to them again.
Disowning them then huh?
That's a possibility yea.
Sounds like an inevitability actually in that scenario
No it's not inevitable. I can't honestly say what I would do beyond being very disappointed. That's why I said it's possible.
mhmm we believe you...
I'm sure I know better than you do.
you know deep down what you'd do im sure
You're an idiot. Get lost.
i would be greatly dissapointed. i would still love them and speak with them but they would be dissowned from inheritance and forbiden to have any contact with their other sisters. if they disobay they will be delt with.
dealt with how?
with finality. i cannot have them infecting the other two. i failed once already by this scenario
I don't know.
I wouldn't put them in conversion therapy or kick them out.
I would still love them just as much.
I know you’re wired to be gay or straight or bi but as a straight woman I would rather have straight children and if they’re not straight I can’t do anything about it because that’s just how they are but I would prefer a straight child.
I would support my child. I would encourage him/her to be with the person he/she loves.
I wouldn't mind at all. I would probably ask him/her a couple of questions, give some general advice about sexuality... Not much else. Love is love, no matter who you get from or share it with.
I would fully support and love them, but I refuse to take them to pride events or make them feel special about it. I want them to be happy and enjoy life not put labels or stress over it. It's no one's business but their own.
I probably would be a little bit surprised or shocked at first but I wouldn't hate them. They would still be my child and I would still love and support them. As long as they're decent human beings and not criminals, it's all good to me.
My child wouldn't know what gay is until they already decided they're not.
what if they do know and discover they are gay actually?
I'll make sure that the only way they learned what gay is was through a divine prophetic dream or some shit, then I'll be sure it's right for them. They will never see or hear even the mere word "gay" or "homo", then they'll never follow it.
Because nobody just wakes up speaking a different language...
what if they learn it from other students at school?
They'll homeschooled for other reasons already
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Taylor_Gatto
ah so they'll turn into anti-social homophobes like their dad huh? i hope to god your kid doesn't actually turn out to be gay. i have a feeling you'd disown them forever... maybe worse
No, I will make sure it's right for him, and not brainwashed on purpose to depopulate the planet.
lol you can't do that. its not possible. most likely he will just hide it from you until he moves out far away from your permanently...
and i like how you basically accept you're a fucking homophobe. get the fuck off my question...
Would still love them of course but I still don’t support that stuff but I also doubt my kids would
I 100% agree with you and would do the same.
You don't support gay people?
I don’t support the lgbtq, no
I don't support but I don't discriminate.
That happened, sort of. My kid asked me “What if I, gay?” And I basically said “What if you are? I just want you to be happy.”
I'd tell them to be the best version of themself they can be and to be weary of people who want you to tell you what it means to have your orientation.
They can go to Ellen DeGeneres' house and see if she'll put food on the table.
not sure what your point is there exactly...
I will still love and support them but I will still be in doubt though. Many weird people are making young teenagers confused about their sexuality.
Uh not much.
I don't see being gay as a Big deal
Wouldn't love them any less and would support there decision as they are being raised to think for themselves.
I'd still love and accept them for who they are. They are still my own flesh and blood. I wouldn't treat them any different than if they were straight.
I guess deep-down I'd be disappointed if my son was gay, but not because it's his fault or anything. It's just something we won't be able to really relate with and talk about much.
But to answer your question directly, I wouldn't do shit.