How to become humble? How to show humility?

[Anonymous]

The intentions are good. Everything is good, but it seems that my friends think that I lack humbleness and humility.

They say that my attitude is a bit off in that sense. Humbleness is lacking, they say.

How to solve this problem?
I really want to solve this one.

[RedStealthOperative]

The desire to learn from those both less and more experienced than you in any subject is the fundamental road to humility, I think.

Always show a willingness to learn, and be open. Acknowledge when someone is better than you in something. Respect all by giving undivided attention.

Confidence is usually in the quiet act of doing, rather than arrogance that is much like an empty, noisy barrel.

[NathanDavis]

it would be a good idea to inquire a bit more... what exactly do they think is that you do to that is not humble, is it an attitude? or the way you are, what you say, what you do...

the more you know about their perceptions, the close you would be to understand this in the first place, so go try for that in the first place

[DizzyDesii]

Be careful how you word stuff. If you dont mean to come across as braggy and uppity then show that through your words and actions. Just think before you speak. For example, “Man I got the baddest ride in town” is different from “I know not many people in this world are fortunate enough to have the things I am blessed with, but I know someday they’ll get theirs too”

[DizzyDesii]

Thanks for mho

[LilyoftheLake]

This is a question I've struggled with a bit too...
I've found that self-effacing humor or comments actually don't help at all. Smiling seems to help, along with silence.

[Asker]

Yes, so true! About the humour and comments.

Smiling represents you as a reserved person. If you smile too much with mouth closed. And silence adds fuel to it.

Smiling and being silent shuts others from entering in the comfort zone with you. They cannot talk comfortably with you. They always watch what they say as you may be difficult to read. They play safe essentially.
Which I do not want😅.

I know this because I have experienced this with two girls who incidentally are in one group. Both of them are like that and I need to be very careful around them when talking.

[menina]

Maybe you should listen to them and ask them why do they think you're not humble. Then you can change your behavior.

[Guy__]

That may not be true. I'd say don't change. From what I've seen, you couldn't be more humble. Maybe they're just sensitive in some way. Stay balanced.

[Asker]

That could also be the case.
I should have thought of that!😅

[Blackcupcake]

I’m interested to see what people answer to this one… lol

[Still-alive]

go help out the homeless. you need to experience and see things to help humble you a bit.

[OlderAndWiser]

Go volunteer to feed homeless people at a shelter.

[BCRanger10]

Do they say why?

[Asker]

It is like a gut feeling they say.
At start I come as a really really nice guy, but once they get closer to me, they said that the attitude, the ego starts to be shown. And sometimes it is not good.

Pushes people away, they said.

[BCRanger10]

Can you give some specific examples maybe?

[Asker]

I sound like a rash person when talking on phone, but I really do not mean it. Its as if, I do not even want to pickup the call, but am forced to pick it up.