I know it's a simple answer and should be easy to just not do it, but I don't want to cause a fight or strain on my relationship with my dad. My dad raised us in a big city and I was never happy there. When my parents separated my mom took us kids to a smaller town and I realized I liked it better. Since I turned 18, my dad has been wanting me to come back "home", but I don't want to. My ex and I moved to another small town a couple years ago. He left me and our daughter and I worked so hard to get my own place, be successful in my job, and as a single mother with no family around, I want to make a good example for my daughter that she can do whatever she puts her mind to.
My dad has always wanted me back in that city with him and my family. I love my family and would love to be closer (3 hour drive) but I do visit pretty regularly. However, my dad moved to California a few weeks ago and has been trying to convince me to move there with him. I don't want to leave the home I worked so hard for. I don't want to start over again. I want to be independent and grow my own life. I try to explain the best I can, but my dad is a very social person who likes going out almost every night, goes stir crazy when there's nothing to do. I'm the opposite, I'd rather stay in for the night or have a couple close friends over. I do things with my daughter, even if I have to drive an hour and a half every weekend to take her to the city where there's more things for her, but she seems to be more like me even as young as she is. She's happy here, I'm happy here, and my dad is happy there. He just can't fathom how I want to stay here in this small town. He says how proud he is of me all the time, but keeps insisting I'll move there soon. How do I get him to understand I want to stay here? At least for a few more years?
My dad has always wanted me back in that city with him and my family. I love my family and would love to be closer (3 hour drive) but I do visit pretty regularly. However, my dad moved to California a few weeks ago and has been trying to convince me to move there with him. I don't want to leave the home I worked so hard for. I don't want to start over again. I want to be independent and grow my own life. I try to explain the best I can, but my dad is a very social person who likes going out almost every night, goes stir crazy when there's nothing to do. I'm the opposite, I'd rather stay in for the night or have a couple close friends over. I do things with my daughter, even if I have to drive an hour and a half every weekend to take her to the city where there's more things for her, but she seems to be more like me even as young as she is. She's happy here, I'm happy here, and my dad is happy there. He just can't fathom how I want to stay here in this small town. He says how proud he is of me all the time, but keeps insisting I'll move there soon. How do I get him to understand I want to stay here? At least for a few more years?
