Can someone help me out?

[Krystal23]

I haven’t been working for 5 years now as I was learning the basics of life again as I have a head injury Let’s say 3 because for 2 years we was in lockdown. I was kind of going through rehab as I was getting help from specialist and support. Currently I am at the gym 4 times a week for an hour and a half and getting 10,000 steps a day. My family keep telling me to do something with my life. Which I am doing. They don’t understand how hard it is keeping on to of everything because of my brain injury. I have said a few times I am going to do this and that (business ideas) but I haven’t gone through with it but it’s just me thinking out loud and they use it against me. In all honestly it’s mentally draining staying on top of everything already as I get tired so easily. They don’t understand this.. I am financially stable so I have nothing to worry about there. They put me down themselves saying I’m slow and stuff. There has been no guidance from them whatsoever from the age of 19 I have literally done everything myself with professional help. Not even a phone call to see how’s my mental health just constantly looking their nose down at me.
I would tell them how I am feeling they will just say stop feeling sorry for yourself. I don’t even have a relationship with my parents whenever they do ring it’s like 2 minute video conversation and that’s it. It’s been 2 weeks now and my dad hasn’t even rang me but he’s ok ringing his friends everyday to check up on them.

what should I do?

[RHK36]

Just keep focusing on yourself.

It's unfortunate that you don't have that family support system, but you can't force people to try and change. I have little to no relationship with my dad. Pretty sure we'd talk almost never if my mom wasn't around. Sometimes regardless of family, you won't get along with people that think differently.

Focus on your own life and maybe think about starting your own family if that's what you seek.

[Krystal23]

Thank you so much! That’s what I am thinking of doing.. but I can’t keep my mouth shut sometimes infront of family I think oh because it’s my family and then I think their loyalty is forever. But I need to have a re think and tell myself don’t tell them shit anymore xx

[OlderAndWiser]

You need to devalue the relationship with your family and focus on building string relationships with a few friends. "God picks our family; thank God we pick our friends!"

[Krystal23]

Thank you! Literally hurting so bad right now because when it’s your own family it’s so hard removing yourself from the situation

[OlderAndWiser]

I stopped communications with family for about a year when they tried to interfere in my marriage. Ultimately, their judgment about my wife was correct, but that was NOT the important point!

[Krystal23]

I understand! I hope you’re ok mentally and physically 💗

[OlderAndWiser]

I'm good. That incident was close to 20 years ago and I reconciled with most of my family.

[Krystal23]

Aww that’s good I am happy for you xx