My Portuguese mother in law is. She spent the first 3 years of our relationship trying to pretend that I didn't exist. Every time he brought me up, she would change the subject. He barely even spoke with his parents before we started dating. I was the one who said he should be a better son and contact them more. I also paid to fly him out to see them for a present after 3.5 years. At least they were willing to acknowledge I existed after that. Fast forward to 8 years into our relationship. He lied and cheated endlessly, failed college classes year after year, got himself into debt cheating and trying to live the bachelor life, and brought home no less than 4 STDs. In the same amount of time, I got a degree, license, and certification in two fields. I learned an intermediate amount of Portuguese. Studied 14 hours a day, raising two children, coached soccer, and raised my net worth to nearly half a million with 750k worth of real estate assets. His net worth was in the negatives. We are in our early 30's.
Finally, I put my foot down on the cheating and bad financial choices. I told him to put me on his accounts, pull his money from his savings accounts and bonds so I could properly invest them and manage things for him. It was all very badly placed and rapidly losing value to inflation and his interest payments on credit cards. It's very clear at this point that he's horrible at managing money and I'm beyond good at it. We would both like for him to be able to retire one day. It would not be fair for him to try to fall back on my money when he made all the bad choices and wasted all of his own. His parents were furious and told him I would ruin him financially and run off with all of his money. Within 2 years I got him out of debt and to a positive net worth of over 20k.
Get this, they had the nerve to be angry that he was being gentlemanly and sweet to me the whole trip. He announced to his whole family that we are married. Pulling out my chair, opening doors,
We got in one little argument while there. That resulted in his mother seeing an opportunity to try to drive a wedge between us. Telling this 33 year old man
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