Why is making friends so difficult?

[Anonymous]

I've moved back to my homestate in March. I had like 2 old friends I hadn't seen in years, we liked/commented on FB. Once I got out here, they both were too busy to meet. Then I attended a ton of Meetup events, I kinda made 2 friends, the 1 she invites me to things and I her but we're both busy and she has an active social life. We still have not met up despite texting the past 2.5 months! The other gal, she invited me to an event last Friday, she also invited 5 other friends. Which is fine, but I can see maybe the writing on the wall. "Too busy" to hangout. I'm tired of doing things alone! The Meetup events are not a guarantee you'll connect with someone. Everyone seems so busy to develope a friendship!

[Anonymous]

hi, i'll give you my reason from my perspective. i have VERY few friends. like 2 outside of my partner. and that's because they're sisters (not my sisters, they are each others sisters) so technically i only have 1 and then the built in 1 lol. and even i don't hang out with them much. i hate the expectation or the need to keep up. i don't like planning stuff or meeting up. i just want to relax when i have my free time. so that's why it's hard when we're older. plus i just feel like it's a competition with them so i stay in my own little world.

[Asker]

Thanks. That's how I feel too. I'm single and the loneliness js harder. I do enjoy my alone time a lit. Peace of mind is priceless

[PJH359]

Our best friendships are made when we’re kids. Although difficult it’s so important and valuable to hold onto those relationships as long as we can. The reason it is difficult later in life, I believe, is because we have been through trials and tribulations that harden us and cause us to put up barriers. And even when we filter people in this fashion, we still sometimes get burned. I think it is out of caution that we have difficulty getting close to people. And it works in reverse too…people are cautious about letting us in at the same time.

[Likes2drive]

It’s definitely harder when older , usually people at work I can sometimes hang out with

[Guy13]

People are not simple.