Why is it so hard to make friends?

[Anonymous]

I'm loyal, giving, loving, yet it's very hard for me to make friends. People tell me how kind I am and how much they love spending time with me and talking to me, but I never hear from them afterwards. The few friends that I made in the past were all guys who I thought were my friends but they just wanted to sleep with me/have a relationship. Why is it so hard to make friends? Do you have any tips how? I'm feeling extremely lonely.

[Clairvoyant]

Finding REAL friends is one of the hardest thing in the world. I found it was much more easier to make friends when you were in elementary. Probably because the kids didn’t think too much in making friends. It’s kinda like “Let’s be friends!” Although as you get older, it’s not that simple as it was before. For some others, they might think it’s easy. If you have a friend you think you could/can trust. Think of how they treat you. Are they there for you when you need them the most? Do you sense them using you? Those are just few simple questions that I ask myself. Although the thing is, it depends on what kind of friend you prefer. For example, if you prefer having honest friends, you probably want to remember what they said before and plot them all together like a math equation. If they lie too often, even to you, I wouldn’t trust them. Although if they both say the truth and a lie, I would keep it as the middle of fake and a real friend. Just my advice from my experience, but meeting new people, experiencing new things, joining a group (like those sports group) might help you. Also, I think you should hang out with boy girl mixed group. I found all girl group, much more uneasy and pretty dramatic. A group always have at least one true friend. The journey just takes too long or seems too long. Good luck!

[skyeee_]

im afraid you may attract peeps who just wanna use you. i'd say set some boundaries with new peeps so you dont suffer later such as provide them equal respect. you could talk about similar interests and get to know them a lot better, and then decide whether or not you should spend time on this person

[Anonymous]

It's very hard especially in covid times now. Also, people are becoming more and more selfish. It's good you want to make friends, but make sure they're genuine, and not someone who wants something from you other than being a friend. Places like work, school, church, clubs are all good places to meet people.

[boggboss]

Because many guys don't make friends with women for friendship sake but because they want more and women tend to be vary cliquey so entering a prearranged friendgroup tends to be hard have u got any hobbies u can make friends through

[JustiReno]

Make money not friends. Just don’t fail at both 😉 trust me you’ll thank me later

[douride2]

I don't seem to have trouble making friends. Here or in real life.

[Twalli]

You need shared interests