Why people get mad wheh I say I don't want to spend too much time with my wife and my children?

[Anonymous]

I mean I provide for them as an obligation but it's not like I have to spend every fucking second around them.

[TacticalLizard]

Why do people get mad when you say Those things well hello it’s because your Talking like that and people don’t like that kind of talk they’d rather you Say what you don’t mean.
Quit saying those things and people will Quit getting mad at you for it it’s that simple

[Anonymous]

Hahah sounds like you treat a relationship with them as an obligation and that’s why people get mad. Of course you don’t have to spend every second with them but your attitude tells me you don’t enjoy doing things with them in general😂

[Asker]

I don't enjoy spending much time with them, they always complain about something and nothing is good for them. They kill the joy in my life.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m really not trying to laugh in a rude I’m just in shock from your bluntness lol dude! Maybe you can find something that you can enjoy with them. I mean the last thing you want is your kids to feel like burdens. They have to grow up in that, you know..

[Asker]

I know but I can't stand them.
My wife says 'Your always welcome to join us" and I'm like"Yeah but you ain't welcome to join me" lol

[Opinion Owner]

Lmaoooo💀 I’m sorry man honestly. Did you want kids in the first place?

[Asker]

Nope
I don't hate them but I don't want to be close to them

[Opinion Owner]

That makes sense. Kids are a big enough responsibility when you want them, more of a burden when you don’t, doesn’t mean you hate them it just holds a different weight. Well laughs aside, all I can really say is that you’ve got these little people you’re shaping now. You don’t have to be close to them but maybe try not to outwardly dislike them too much lol because people notice, and the kids are growing up with that. Talk to your wife, tell her you’re trying to work with what you’ve got and she has to respect your limits, because she knows as well as you that you didn’t task for fatherhood. Maybe twice a month you do something fun, or just try to be more welcoming to them in general. I don't know, just little things that they can remember positively of you I think would make you feel good as well.