How do I unlearn behaviors?

[Anonymous]

I’m 20. I’m small and I generally avoid altercations. However that does not mean they avoid me. People tend to be quite aggressive with me. I thought that if I laughed it off or pretended that it didn’t bother me I would look strong and resilient. But honestly I just internalized everything. I’m sad. I let people say whatever to me. I let people do whatever. I am trying to work on myself and that’s one of my biggest issues. I let everyone run over me since I was younger. It just progressively got worse. And now here I am. 20 and still getting treated like a child by people my own age. I can’t deal with this any longer. I don’t know how to reintroduce myself though. How do I begin to become more outspoken and not awkwardly laugh t things off? I don’t know how to begin to undo what I let go on. I want to start right now tofay. I can’t blame everyone for what I let them get away with. I am an adult now. I just need to start asserting myself. But here do I start? How do I make it stick?

[Sandeeppingping]

What @WhitneySnow said, I felt the same way last year as I lost a few friends I became more careful and caring more about being liked than being honest, stand up for yourself even if you're scared to your core, I know how that feels you still have to do it, is there any way you could take some time off from seeing them? Meanwhile sit down on your own and strengthen yourself, have certain comebacks ready for the shit people usually say, it's brutal out there it is what it is though, like Dave Chappelle's mother told him though "Sometimes you have to be a lion so you can be the lamb you really are" (I don't know if I butchered the quote but I really like it)

[Anonymous]

I think seeing a therapist could really help you. But you need to start standing up for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Be an ass to those who treat u bad. Sometimes u gotta do it the bad way even though it’s not really the best solution but some people deserve it.
At least that’s what i do to survive. Don’t forget to put a very annoying bitchy face too

[WhitneySnow]

You need to use willpower. Just force yourself to be more assertive even if it scares you. I’m an introvert and that’s how I became more extroverted (at least on the outside).

[Guy13]

Refuse them