Would you let a family member crash on your couch for the next 6 months?

Question

Assume they have no where else to go, and can't afford to pay you any rent during that time.

RomanticRealist · Accepted Answer

Probably not, tbh. It would have to be an extreme example or circumstance. The only exceptions are my parents and even they would have to be working on moving out and finding an alternative. And that's why I said "probably not" - my parents are married, both have pensions and 401k and will get social security, have a paid off house and may buy a second one with that money and are both employed and make above average salaries. It's unlikely that they would need me that way, but it could happen. If anything, it's more likely that I'd need them in some crazy emergency lmao

If I did, there would be rules and I'd need to check in regularly that they are actually trying to find a job ASAP and their own place and I'd probably have them pay a rent we agree on No "I don't want to have roommates" or being too picky about where to move. I don't want to live with family other than what I create with my partner someday. I will do everything I can to help them of course - find resources, career fairs and job events, job postings, help with cover letter and resume to find extra work or better pay, etc.

My uncle is pulling this right now, where he's living with my grandma but could afford his own place. He also needs to go to AA so he doesn't risk losing his job. It feels like people are coddling him and not challenging him or holding standards for him to improve his life. Wouldn't be any of that for me. I do believe in helping, of course, and if I had the space (I live in NYC lol) for a longterm stay, maybe... but it depends on circumstances.

PamelaRivers · Accepted Answer

Depends on which ones it is. I hate to say it, but some of my family can't be trusted enough to allow that.

Allyfax · Accepted Answer

If they don't steal my shit and if they cook now and then ill even get them a bed

Ironic_Method · Accepted Answer

Only my mom, maaaaaybe my sister. No one else.

Ill_made_Knight · Answer

Yes, but there are going to boundaries and expectations that will be discussed before move in. If the person can't be respectful and help out in simple ways, if you lay about in my home and I'm cleaning up after you and you have an attitude about it if anything is said... If you feel this gives you the right to allow anyone you please into MY home anytime you please and you cause drama about the situation...
On the other hand all could go reasonably well for a time. It is in my nature to help family, but I allow no one to abuse me.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

I have done this many times. My parents lived at my apartment with me for 2 years. My brother lived with me and my wife (girlfriend back then) for about a year and i even took my cousin in in amother apartment and he satyed for 8 months. Not a problem

BlueScorpio · Answer

Yes, I know I can rely on my mom at any time. I would like to do the same when it's needed. Family is all you have, you should be able to depend on one another when you fall until you can get back on your feet. As long as the person is trying to get things together and not just bum off you forever, then I see no issues with. Turning your back on family when they need you the most can have dire consequences, you never know when it's you who will need them in the future.

Smoothing · Answer

I look after family no matter what. There are various ways they can be helped depending on their needs and the situation at the time. One needs to apply the right help in the right situation. But yes, if sleeping on the couch for two years is the best solution, them that will be what I offer them.

Chaser3232 · Answer

They would have stipulation at start, with a need to help out around the house! Can’t agree, can’t stay! If I see where there’s a break down in the agreement, it’s time to start packing! I’ve done that several time with family, but rent was all paid when things got better!

Rania05 · Answer

Yes, if it's same sex I'd even let them with me on bed. My close family members who has the audacity (except my sister) to come with me when homeless aren't troublesome to deal with, polite and helpful to different degrees.

noonejustme · Answer

it honestly depends on what situation they’re in. anyways If they can’t pay rent, I would make rules for them, e. g cleaning after themselves etc. and probably asking them to do some chores for staying at my place

Sour-rose · Answer

My mom did this because family. Both times, I did not enjoy the company. I didn't enjoy having someone walk around at 2 in the morning when I'M SUPPOSED TO BE THE ONE AWAKE

Fireguy17 · Answer

I had one of my friends live in my basement for a while.
His parent's estate wasn't settled, but he had to be out of the house and didn't have the money for another one.
It was fine, I was glad I was in a position to be able to help him out.

melanieeeB · Answer

Depends who is asking... I have this one cousin and I can't taker her stupid ass, I will rip off her head if I have to stay with her for more then 3 days.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

If they aren't paying, they better be making money on a job to cover utilities and helping maintain my house.

MikeInHawaii · Answer

Two have actually asked. One pays child support to three of his four ex-wives. The other has spent thirty years in and out of prison.  That was a big “NO!” to both!

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

I have an extra bedroom they could sleep in so no.

Dinklex3 · Answer

Mom, dad, or sister. Of course.  They could stay as long as they want

lightbulb27 · Answer

yea we would. might have some strings on it...

Anonymous · Answer

no. i also wouldn't let a friend do it either. it has taken a VERY long time to finally move out so i don't want it to be ruined and like the past yet again.

douride2 · Answer

Sorry your on your own after a coupe of days.

TroyDT · Answer

No family but I have several extra bedrooms and have had friends often crash especially if they had been drinking. For 6 months? My bestie if she needed it, otherwise no.

AddylynnNightingale · Answer

Depends on what family member. Like 80 % of them can kiss my ass.

Agape93 · Answer

The ones in the USA, not a god damn chance. Let them freeze

AsaKyo · Answer

I wanna get away from my family, not have them around me longer

UnknownSwede · Answer

If they had no other option, sure. But it would be a bit crowded in a one bedroom apartment.

Googlemyahoo · Answer

If they got a job and paid some money sure but just to live there do nothing no

Surely · Answer

They would be expected to earn their keep by doing something around the house.

clampfan101 · Answer

Would it be easy? Heck no! Would I do it anyway? Heck yes!

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

I would probably give them 2 months and then they would have to start paying part of the rent

krin_m · Answer

I probably would, but depends on the situation too.

NikkiS97 · Answer

@beenee yes I would. especially my beautiful cousin I grew up with

MiamiMadness · Answer

Hell no they’ll never leave 😭

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, I would. They're family.

XXblack88 · Answer

It depends on the situation.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

6 months sounds like a but much.

LavLavLuv · Answer

Only the ones that are nice to me. Sure.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Sure but i have limits.

Zolly99999 · Answer

I probably would

MCheetah · Answer

Hell no.

BeMuse · Answer

Yep.

Anonymous · Answer

B. No way, not for that long.

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

Yes iwould

Anonymous · Answer

Yep.

eagle1951 · Answer

hell no

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