How would you feel if your spouse of 10plus years did this?

[Anonymous]

My spouse had a folder on their social media account of pictures of just me. This folder was pretty full and on there for 10 years. Spouse started adding people of the opposite sex to there social media from work and deleted every single picture of me. When asked why the folder was gone they just lied without skipping a beat.

Spouse is usually attentive and supportive. Can be very affectionate and loving/needy.

I find these actions to be a strange coincidence and to be hurtful. The intent seems pretty straightforward to me but I want to see if my feelings are valid. It's not me. I'm not just being crazy or insecure. It's very easy for my spouse to gaslight me... I'm mot sure what I did to deserve it but it is what is.

[Finchie40]

You have every right to be upset about that , that’s a huge red flag , You aren’t his priority sadly to say , you are just a convenience, Life is too short to stay with someone that only likes the convenience of you

[Finchie40]

Thanks for MHO , and I hope you put your foot down to this because it’s definitely a red flag for sure. That a partner is being up to no good, if all of a sudden you are no longer their priority. When I was married , I had a folder of my wife , with sexy pictures of her , that I kept for my own viewing pleasure that she was aware of , and that she would make me show her from time to time , I never hesitated to hand her my phone if she needed to use it because I had nothing to hide , So if your husband all of a sudden hesitates to hand over their phone to you , that’s a huge red flag that they are up to no good , don’t think otherwise , and don’t waste your time with someone that hesitates to hand over their phone , keeping secrets from each other is cheating , I don’t care what anyone says , anything you keep secret from your partner makes you a cheater , especially if you have pictures of the opposite sex or secret chats with the opposite sex , you can play sweet and innocent all you want but the truth is you are a piece of shit selfish person that only thinks of yourself , which clearly is what your husband is doing to you , How would he feel if he found a folder of other guys on your phone and found out all the pictures you had of him were gone? So I’m sorry to say your husband doesn’t truly value you. That’s something you should really reconsider , because you deserve someone that loves you the same way you love them , never waste your time with someone that just likes the convenience of you , I say experienced that a few times to the point I will never do it again , Love only grows when both partners wear each others shoes before making decisions and both making each other their top priority , when you are not a top priority to your so called loving partner , your partner doesn’t truly love you. They like the convenience of you. Life is too short to waste your time with someone that treats you like a Convenience , trust me you deserve better than that

[sawno]

Thats a massive red flag, its pretty late here so my mind is sleepy. The fact I misunderstood spouse as ex as a result should say enough. He's distancing himself from you, at least virtually.

[Agape93]

He's either cheating, planning to cheat or he's falling out of love

[HappyWoman34]

Hurt, outraged and highly suspicious. I’d talk to him about it.

[Avicenna]

Anyone would be upset about that

[Staximus]

Why the hell would he delete all the pictures of you besides wanting to appear single?

[thor_erikson]

sounds like he wants to appear single so he can cheat