I did bullied my ex boyfriend's sister in the past but is it bad that I don't feel remorse for it?

[Anonymous]

We were in HS back then (we're now 26 year-old women) and when she kept confronting me with the past in private a couple times, I refused to acknowlegment. In my mind, I still believe it wasn't as bad as she's making it out to be. I'll give it a 3/10 in rating but to her it's like an 8-9/10. Honestly, I can't feel nor understand her pain at all. I don't understand it.

That issue is concerning me and I'll have my 1st session with a psychologist next week. I already set up the appointment. I think I might have traits of a narcissist (though since I'm recognizing it here, then I might not be a full blown narcissist, maybe partially) and have limited ability to feel remorse or empathy. Is it bad I feel no remorse for it at all?

[Anonymous]

Well that was years and years ago. If you didn’t feel remorse back then, then I’m not surprised you don’t feel it now. But to more directly address what happened you don’t have the right to invalidate her experience. She felt you bullied her harshly, and since you weren’t on the receiving end of the bullying and also if you have a hard time taking accountability for your actions you will never understand what you caused her.

[Anonymous]

No, you could apologize, but it sounds like you gave her a taste of her own medicine.