My sister is dating the guy that bullied me all throughout High School. Is it understandable that I'm mad?

[goodman101]

And she KNOWS this too.
Opinions please?

Yes

50/50

No

[cth96190]

It appears that your sister is in the grip of the bad-boy fixation.
She cannot be told. Women cannot be reasoned with during this phase, because, the bigger the sociopathic loser, the more that she will think that he is the man of her dreams.
Wait until he gives her the Chris Brown/Rhianna treatment, then enjoy the schadenfreude and telling her 'I told you so'.
In the meantime, become a dedicated student of a martial art.
My three children began to train with me at a karate dojo as soon as they were old enough.
No bully picked on them more than once.
The last time that a couple of junior sociopaths picked on one of my sons the bullies left the school in an ambulance. Both of them will walk with painful limps for the rest of their lives. Knee reconstructions are seldom entirely successful.
The one and only time that one of my daughter's dates (it was during her bad-boy phase) took a swing at her, she reacted as per her training. She broke the arm that was headed her way and two of his ribs as a matter of instinct.
Whether or not you become the victim of bullies and other sociopaths is largely your choice. If you choose to defend yourself as a man, you need to learn how to do it.

[EmmaDay]

Wow nice misogynist and untrue stereotyping you got going there buddy. 🙄 you know women are not a monolith who all think and act the same right? We're individual human beings just like men.

[Thisperson98]

If she didn't know that was the person who bullied you, I might understand, but if she knew it was. She is an asshole.
Luckily for me, my sister's boyfriend is kinda scared of me. So he tries to avoid making me mad.

[goodman101]

Yeah she does. I guess it's true, woman can be brutally selfish and insensitive when it comes to their satisfaction

[Anonymous]

My brother in high school was THAT bully. He admits it through and through that he systematically, his words, would roam the halls searching for guys to beat up or make fun of with his fellow bullies. At 25 though, he was a totally different person. He had gone through some life, and a lot of growing up, and to know him at 25 vs. at 16 was like night and day.

For you, time hasn't stopped. You probably remember everything you sisters boyfriend ever did to you because you had to endure it. You have a right to be upset about all of that, you really do especially if no apologies were ever given, but though you may not want to believe it, people can and do change. They grow up a lot of times because they have to, and put their bad pasts behind them, and maybe your sister is now dating that guy. The more you pick the scab, the more likely she is to probably cling to him since you said she knows what he did to you, so at this stage, if it's still pissing you off, maybe keep your distance. Most likely if you confront him, he's going to tell your sister, and she'll probably get pissed.

[josh44]

You have killer genes and you side with disgusting people who pick on innocent people, instead of siding with him you make him more miserable to accept this, screw you, people may grow more mature but what's in the core if it's rotten it usually stays rotten, but your brother tries to suppress that because adults can't go on in life with rejecting every possible human in need, because that may turn against him and he will be left all alone by himself when he needs help, so don't try to sugarcoat it and castrate yourselves you jerks!

[NatashaJ]

Sure he might have change but if you did change as a person you go to the person you hurt and apologize and admit you fuck up. Even with my bullies I think sure they have change buttttttttttt you still a fucking coward if you can't admit what you did and feel empathy for that person. So no he doesn't have to forgive him or accept your bs answer and I also think your answer bs and stupid too.

[Opinion Owner]

@NatashaJ @Josh44

My brother moved right after high school to another state, but he did apologize to a few of the people he bullied, though some would not accept it (he understood why). People can be massive jerks and idiots in their youth, but age, growth, and maturity can come with time. If you never allow these type of people the ability for growth and change, then you want them to stay the same jerks they were forever---how does that make any sense?

Second, I'm not siding with the bully in this question. I agreed the asker has the right to be mad about it, but the sister is dating this guy as is her right to do as I'm assuming she's a grown woman who can do what she wants. Does that make her an awful person---maybe in the eyes of the brother, but what exactly would you have the brother do---march over and beat him up? Become a bully to this guy himself? Stoop to some low level to try and sabotage the relationship? Demand an apology---what if none comes---then what? There was no indication made if this guy is a different person now or is treating the brother the same way he did back then---just that his sister is dating him. You nor I know the full details of the situation unless explained elsewhere.

You may think my answer is BS or stupid, and feel free. Its merely an opinion---just like your own---neither is the way of the world be all end all.

[NatashaJ]

Fair enough you explain yourself better than your original comment.

[Hannah591]

How long ago did he bully you?

I can tell you that his behaviour towards her is a lot nicer than he was to you. He's likely a charmer and she's been wooed by him. He probably has given her a lame excuse, apologised to her and said that he's different now.

When you love someone, you have rose tinted glasses on and she's overlooked his previous actions. But she really has no excuse if she knew his past before she dated him. It's quite disrespectful of her to do but she might not know how you're feeling about it unless you tell her.

[NatashaJ]

Eh I don't know I know so many people in this age group of 18-25 who does weird or dumb shit and if you ask them why they never have an answer or can't give you a good answer for the things they have done. I think his sister is an idiot who has idea why she doing it.

[dragonfly6516]

I dropped friendships with a girl who used to bully my sister, dating is no different. If it were me and I knew about the past bullying, I'd never gone out with him.

If I didn't know, I'd first want to find out if the bully knew I was related, then find out how much he has changed. If he's changed, I'd try to get them to talk.

I understand that there is an expected loyalty to family, bit they don't have to live my life. I do. If he's not the same kind of guy anymore, im not going to leave him without a good reason.

[josh44]

Your weak and fell for foolish people with no spine, enjoy ruining your family trust, when you will end up alone and in need of help you will have to rely on strangers for that because i doubt your siblings will ever respect a person like you!

[obital]

This is exactly what I was discussing in a subreddit recently. I presented a scenario where I asked how my son is meant to deal with his bully weaponising having sex with his sister against him? They could have a hookup, might be in a friends with benefits or a committed relationship. The responses I got told me that he should detach himself from her life, and it's only disrespectful if he thinks it is and she's not bad for having sex. I was like yh she's not bad for having sex but her having sex with her brother's bully is bad regardless of whether she is aware or unaware of the fact that she slept/sleeping with her brother's bully. To say he needs to separate the two, his bulky sex life and his relationship with him, didn't made any sense to me.

[Anonymous]

People saying it's childish clearly have no siblings.
I've lost many friends because they insulted my brothers/ family and vice-versa. Can't imagine DATING someone who mistreated one of my brothers more than once, whatever reason it was.

Hope you're not the reason they started talking either.

[Opinion Owner]

By vice-versa, I mean not only did I lose "friends" by taking my brothers' side, they've always sided with me as well.

And I forgot to say, I'm sorry you find yourself in that situation.

[goodman101]

What do you mean? How could I be the reason?

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry for the late reply, I don’t think I ever saw your comment.
It’s been a year and I hope things are going better for you.

I meant, hopefully your sister didn’t approach that guy because he was messing with you and ended up falling for him instead, or that you were otherwise the link that connected them.

[NewJunkAesthetic]

I have been on the other side of this situation. I started dating a guy and thought he was amazing, and kind. He had been through some emotional stuff and just overall was so great. I talked to him about my family and he admitted to knowing my brother. It wasn't until a year after us dating that my mother told me why my brother didn't like my boyfriend so much. My boyfriend bullied him in high school. Now they were 24 year olds at the time. But I confronted my boyfriend who didn't want to buy eventually admitted to it. I told him the maybe my brother and him could work on their relationship if he apologized. He was hesitant because it had been so long ago and he felt bad, but he did and my brother appreciated it a lot. They now talk more and have started to move on from the past. Bullies can change, and people can get closure and move on. I'm not saying it's right, but when two people love each other, they are going to want to try to make it work. Especially if the bad thing that happened was 7 years before they started dating.

[Bananaman177]

That's fucking evil, but on the other hand, you know what kind of guy he is, so how much you want to bet she gets fucked over here?

If I was you, I'd cut off all contact with her and him both, don't talk to her, don't have anything to do with her, don't even look at her anymore. And as for the bully, I'd just start carrying a knife, maybe a wrench in my pocket. And if he so much as makes the slightest move towards you, I think you should make him afraid of you from now on.

Your sister's a complete and total cunt and so is ANYBODY telling you to just "grow up" and "get over it." I hope their kids get bullied.

[darklandrunner]

Personally I love your opinion because if you did that I wouldn't mess with you dude. Carrying a wrench is a pretty demented idea but I don't know as far as cutting her off. Is that something you would do?

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

Yeah it's understandable that you're mad but you're 25 now. Is he still bullying you now? Stand up for yourself, shit. You're all grown ass people, deal with it like adults. How is your relationship with your sister? Are you and her close? Or do you treat each other with sibling annoyance? Cuz if y'all werent even that close, why should she care if your feelings are hurt by who she chooses to date.

[dmac111]

Well if that happened to me i would be pissed. The bond between siblings is supposed to be tight. Yeah we may get mad at each other and yeah we may do thing that will annoy the other, but at the end of the day Family has Families back. Just as you wouldn't date her friends or a girl she had/has problems with she shouldn't date someone who made your life a living hell for 4 goddamn years. As for the people saying to forgive and forget or that maybe he's changed. Your memories of the humiliation, the sense of self-doubt, and the damage that was done to your self esteem and your mentality won't ever go away. I say you just tell your sister how you feel and then just avoid them when they are together until a time that YOU feel comfortable to be around them.

[MarkRet]

I can understand you being pissed off about it, but your sister is making her own decision, so there's not much you can do about it. If this guy is STILL bullying you, then you need to stop his bullshit, cause it's been going on for too long. First, tell him to knock it off. If he doesn't listen, then it's time for you to beat his head in with a baseball bat, and I mean beat him down HARD.

[witherwing]

I voted 50/50. While it sucks for you, it was in high school (a long time ago) which means the person probably has changed. And if you believe your sister doesn't lack judgement, when she clearly knows who the guy is, it's pretty obvious he is not the same guy he was in high school. You can be mad if you want to, but you have no right to stop them from dating.

[goodman101]

Who said I did?

[witherwing]

No one, I just stated it. I wasn't saying you would, I just said you shouldn't.

[Sara413]

Has he changed since then? Lots of people are dicks in high school and then grow up to be decent adults. If he is a good guy now and treats her Well, then I'd say you need to get over it.

If he is still a dick and treats her or you poorly, then you have every right to be upset and she should consider what you have to say about it.

[darklandrunner]

I hope you get through this. I was bullied mercilessly because i was a very white Hispanic growing up in a black and brown community. I had to fight for my respect and it's funny because after I gained respect I eventually in a few cases became a bully myself. I didn't like it so I dropped that. Hopefully you and this dude can get along most of the people that did bully me give me respect saying that I'm a crazy motherfucker for always standing up for myself which is funny because standing up for myself was the hardest thing to do.

[BrittBratt2416]

Does she know he use to bully you? If she did then that's kinda low to do that. I couldn't date anyone who was messing with my family member, mess with my family and you gonna catch some hands.

[goodman101]

She knew

[BrittBratt2416]

O well in that case, you're sister is low down for that but I'm guessing she doesn't think it matters anymore cause you're 25 and think you've outgrown/let go of the situation without thinking the pain and hurt that person put you through was scaring. Scars stay with you, over time they heal and you forget about it until someone brings it up, by dating him she has brought this scar to the surface again. You need to explain to her that the fact she knew and still thinks its okay to date him, hurts and feels like she doesn't care and is also on the enemies side.

[BrittBratt2416]

put it out on the table in front of them and let them both know how its still hurting you.

[goodman101]

Ok thanks

[1truekhaleesi]

A lot of people answering this question clearly don't have siblings. In high school, I refused to be friends with a girl because of how she broke up with my brother. Completely understandable to feel this way, especially if he didn't apologize. Try to give him a chance and see if he changed, I doubt if he did though.

[lMike]

Ur sister sounds like a cunt and she's dating a douchebag. Its a universal match up just make sure if he fucks with u again or anymore u hit im across his dome with something thick.. Blunt and preferably spiked.

[lMike]

nd tell ur sister to eat shit.

[goodman101]

TY exactly

[Izumiblu]

Its really not any of your business. If he's not treating you badly now then let things be. I mean you are 25 ffs. And you are worrying about shit from over 7 years ago.

[goodman101]

He still is

[Izumiblu]

He still is what?

I mean you started out by saying that he bullied you in high school u or 8 years ago. Now you are adding to the story and saying he's still bullying you? Don't you think if you are gonna ask a question you should put in the relevant information?

[Bshosuite]

Bruh don't listen to this lady, if he's a dick then fuck that dude. Not literally like get some boys together and whoop his ass... I didn't mean like yeah well you know what I'm saying even though it sounds yeah nvm.

[Izumiblu]

@Bshosuite he's not gonna do that. That's why he's having this problem cuz he doesn't know how to deal with it. You can't force the guy to stand up and suddenly start kicking peoples asses... even if he should. The whole point is that its his problem to solve that issue if he ever wants to get respect here. Is he really gonna have his sister fix this for him? What kind of shit is that? You even see that.

[Bshosuite]

Yeah but it's still insensitive of his sister to date a dude who is bullying her little brother. That's a bunch of bullshit, if he's still doing it then double wtf you don't punk out your perhaps future brother in law you try to befriend him and you make your girls family your family.

[Izumiblu]

@Bshosuite all the guy has said is she is dating a dude that bullied him in high school.
Well that sucks but really, its not on her to make sure her brother can manage himself with her love interests. What's she gonna have to do? Have all her potential mates fill out a personality inventory to get her brothers approval so his feelings aren't hurt?

Until he gives more information on what's actually happening it just sounds like he's butt hurt and ego deflated over being bullied nearly a decade ago. Is it insensitive of her? Maybe... but maybe he should learn to manage himself better for his sisters sake.

[Bshosuite]

Not all men are prone to violence that's why we only had a certain personality type with us in Afghanistan. Most guys aren't good at sticking up for themselves and he did say the guy still is a dick to him. No she doesn't have to have a questionnaire but if the guy she's with is picking on her family then fuck her, she deserves to date a piece of shit. What if it was my sister and I beat his fucking ass would i be the bad guy or would she for putting me and herself in that situation. She can do what she wants but I won't fuck with her and when her man leaves her or cheats on her what she's going to come crying back to the family? If that's my daughter and my son that jack off isn't coming to my home, you wanna be with that then so long don't come crying back when you piece of shit man breaks your heart.

[Izumiblu]

@Bshosuite a 25 yr old says he was bullied in high school and he's mad at his sister. I mean if he is depressed or suicidal or having some mental issues then sure they need to help him somehow
Otherwise there's nothing here that says this is really unusual or the the dude is actually a dick or that he is even doing anything more than being disrespectful to a milk toast little cunt. If he can't stand up for himself it sure as hell shouldn't be up to his sister to do it for him cuz he does actually gave to be responsible for himself in the real world.

[Bshosuite]

He told you he still is bullying him. Like I said his family should step in and then it's up to the sister. Choose your family or choose your dickhead boyfriend. Because if he was my brother I would have already handled this dude being a bully to me after I'm an adult at my family get togethers.

[Bshosuite]

In my world when someone is disrespectful to you, you throw hands and settle it. The sister shouldn't be bring around a dude who is disrespectful to her family or everytime he showed up he would have to fight.

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

@Bshosuite When you're 25, you settle your differences like adults. You don't hide behind your sister and expect her to coddle you like an infant. Yeah, that boyfriend could be secretly beating the shit out of OP but on the other hand that "bullying" could be entirely benign and OP is just blowing things completely out of proportion. Has OP tried standing up for himself? He's he tried to settle shit with the bully? Or does he rely on his family to protect him.

[Bshosuite]

Adults don't bully other goddamn adults without the expectation to get hit with a baseball bat. I'm not asking her to coddle shit, I'm asking her to not bring around a dude who fucking bullies her family. You can date a dude who's bullying your brother all you want but your a piece of shit for doing so. Fight your own battles sounds good on paper but I went to go fight whole countries battles for them because they couldn't handle it themselves. I spent years of my life fighting other people's battles, lost bestfriends on the battlefield. Not everyone can handle their own shit, it has nothing to do with being an adult it has to do with being a pack being a family and having each others backs. As human beings we take care of each other and especially family takes care of each other. If he was my brother this dude would not be coming around and like I said my sister could fuck off as well and for what? A new boyfriend? Pffft yeah right.

[Bshosuite]

You turn your back on family and there is a special place in hell for you.

[Izumiblu]

@Bshosuite have you thought even for a second that the easiest way to turn your back to a family member is by coddling when they need to stand on their own? Pizza dog is correct. Who has he talked to? What bullying is actually going on? He's mad... so what? The asker has posted so little information and you have filled in all the blanks. Maybe the asker should be more clear, until then I have no reason to think he's anything but a butt hurt overgrown baby. Why? Because it seems like within his family he is the only person that is concerned about this. So I guess we are just to assume that everyone else is just wrong. Nahhh, I'd like to hear the rest of the story cuz I'm not buying what he's selling. To much left unsaid.

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

@Bshosuite Let me put this in terms of another kind of family. If my little brother or my little sister started dating someone with whom I had a history with - and they *know* when I have problems with people they know. If they started dating them I wouldn't cry for them to stop dating them. For all I know they're dicks to me but they could treat my siblings like royalty. I definitely won't take their shit should they fling it my way BUT at the same time I'm not going to ask them to let go of something they want just to appease my hurt feelings. I'll deal with it without complaining. And my siblings would do the same. I would NEVER turn my family out just because they're doing something I don't like.

[Izumiblu]

@TheLuckyPizzaDog

Well here's a possible solution. Maybe he can purchase his bullys girlfriend... like this guy.

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2657729-i-purchased-my-bully-s-gf-i-offered-her-money-to-cheat-on-him-is-it

[Bananaman177]

Really? If I knock your teeth out, can I wait a few years and then start dating your sister? I'd love to see you take your own advice in such an instance, lol.

[Bananaman177]

I think you'd change your tune real fuckin' quick if some guy who used to hold you down and have his way with you and terrorize you started hanging out in your house, sitting on your couch, watching your TV, and getting all lovey-dovey with your sister, while they gave you little knowing smirks and giggled about it in your hearing.

I would just love to see you have to go through that, I really would.

[Izumiblu]

@Bananaman177 dude chill... I simply wanna hear the whole fucking story. You've gone and drawn a whole lot of blanks and simply assumed that this guy is the helpless victim based on two tiny sentences and something that happened damn near a decade ago. Where's the sisters story in this? Why doesn't he go and talk to the dude or his sister or his family? For all you know this shit is all in this dudes head. Why? Because adults work through this shit. They don't complain about being bullied years ago. Being bullied happens to just about everyone. He's mad... so what? Get over it or do something about it. Don't just sit there and sulk and expect the rest of the world to handle stuff for you. I honestly think this guy has some depression or something like that that he needs to work through cuz this isn't normal for a 25 year old adult to feel so out of control that his sisters boyfriend is this big of a deal. The only way he can really help. himself is by finding a way to face this.

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

@Bananaman177 Has OP gotten his teeth knocked out? Has that guy sat on OP and pinned him down and had his way with OP? You don't know if the bully was actually sending OP to the hospital or if he just steals OPs homework. Sorry if some of us were raised with tougher skins than you and your like.

[Bananaman177]

@TheLuckyPizzaDog I'd love to see how tough your skin is, sweetheart. Anytime.

[Izumiblu]

@Bananaman177

Big man talking after posting an emotional rant about bullying based on nearly nothing the asker said its clear who is tough and who isn't. So take your awfully intimidating... you know... words, and go back to the playground you used to get bullied on. Otherwise, quit hiding behind veiled threats and have a real discussion.

[Bshosuite]

You guys are seeing this for that, male bullying isn't just name calling it's a total domination of being. You enact your persona and dominance onto another male making them inferior.

[Bshosuite]

Men are physical and I've never seen a bully not lay hands on his victim and it's such a dominating force that the bullied male must submit to it. This works great in nature as survival of the fittest will dominate and breed future more dominating offspring but we are all equal and everyone deserves to not have to fear oppression from the same sex. I'm saying family is a pack and you take care of your pack. My country is my pack and we took care of our pack, men naturally have a hierarchy.

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

@Bananaman177 go a fucking head big boy. Do your worst. Maybe ill even let you date my sister.

[Bshosuite]

Watch two alpha type males in the same room, they constantly are mentally sizing each other and never letting their guards down. It's exhausting when you have a natural violent alpha streak but are a "hippy" because you just want to get along but you won't let anyone dominate you when they assume they can. I agree if he was a nice guy now then by all means let that shit go but he said himself to your comment that he still is bullying him which means dominating him as a man. Some people need support to stay a float not everyone can be thrown in the deep end and told to stand up for themselves... what if they drown and you sat by and watche

[jdoutworld]

@Bananaman177 wtf, you're threatening a couple women with some kind of strange pervish sounding bullshit. Its just weird and creepy. Over a very basic question too. Just shut up if you can't do better than that. That's just weird man. What kind of guy challenges a girl to a toughness contest. Lol.

[Bananaman177]

@jdoutworld Yeah, white knight it up, buddy. Who's a good ally? You are!

[Bananaman177]

Yeah, but my point stands. I'd love to see you follow your own advice if you were in this guy's shoes.

Because you and I both know how fast you'd turn hypocrite.

[Bananaman177]

@TheLuckyPizzaDog I'll date your sister if you give me $20.

[Izumiblu]

@Bananaman177 lol, apparently I'm tougher than your pansy ass. Living in your own pretty little made up world. Or I guess shitty little made up world cuz you don't really sound like you're coming from a... stable place.

[Bananaman177]

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[Izumiblu]

@Bananaman177 lets here some more about how ill cave and like a giant baby if a high school bully calls me names and pushes me to the ground..
So far I think that's been your best line of attack on this. I mean its... pretty silly... but whatever.

[jdoutworld]

@Bananaman177 I'm sorry man! I think you got a little mixed up in what I was saying.

I wasn't trying to help the ladies at all. Seems like they're doing just fine without me.

I was just making fun of some of the weird creepy shit you were saying. Because its weird and creepy in case you didn't realize. I mean look at you you're talking about how you wanna see a girl held down and beaten, talking about how you wanna see how tough the other one is and calling her sweetheart. and then offering money to date someone else. And that's after you get all bent about someone else that got bullied. Lol. Ok.

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

@Bananaman177 are you done yet? Are you done metaphorically pushing us around on the proverbial playground? Ae you done being a...***bully***?

See how easy it is to throw that word around?

You don't know OP. We don't know OP, which is why we *asked for clarification on his situation* because OP wanted 'opinions' which, while some people like to give opinions based on random assumptions, other people sometimes like to give advice based on what's actually happening.

Ps: Lol sorry bro. My sisters too good for you, you wouldn't be able to afford her. Maybe you should try the back of the yellow pages. I'm sure your hard earned 20$ can get you someone more to your level.

[Bananaman177]

@TheLuckyPizzaDog Are you done replying to me?

I think we've established that you think being an insensitive asshole is the same thing as being "tough."

We've established that you conflate ad hominem attacks with real arguments.

And we've established that the only card you have left to lay besides doubling and tripling down on bitchiness is to try and get the last word in, which is why you won't fuck off, you'll reply to this post. Forever.

[Bananaman177]

I don't get how your personal incredulity is a counter-argument, but whatevs.

Like I said, I only wish we could really put it to the test. Maybe you're right. Be great to design an experiment, huh? It'd be easy.

[Izumiblu]

@Bananaman177 I know I'm right. I'm rarely wrong and this isn't one of those situations. It is literally impossible for me to be bullied and have it impact my life in any meaningful way. I know this for fact.

[Bshosuite]

Rarely wrong? To whom? Wrong is a matter of opinion in these cases, of course you think you're never wrong you can only see things from the way you see them... Rarely wrong hahahahaha that statement in itself is wrong.

[Bshosuite]

"I rarely don't think when I think"

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

@Bananaman177 Well, let's not make a liar out of you, am I right? I've never claimed not to be an insensitive, immature, bitch of an asshole. I admit that I am that, it's fine by me. I use ad hominem attacks - yeah? Congratulations, you can dissect an argument. I'm going to keep going for the last word? Well, now I am.

You started off assuming a lot of things. You assume that we're hypocrites in that should we ever find ourselves experiencing this exact situation we wouldn't take our own advice. If some guy knocked my teeth out and my sister later on dated him, would I take my advice of "moving on and settling shit with the guy directly without depending on my sister". Yeah. I would actually. However, that is a useless question, as you can't prove that I'm lying and I can't prove that I'm not lying. So what was the point of asking us that? So you can say we're lying? We just saved you from an ad hom attack yourself then. Oh no. Wait, we didn't. Whoops.

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

There's no point debating with you over what our course would be in that situation because ultimately we're dealing with OP and his problems. So let's try to apply your circumstance to OP's problem to keep you relevant to OP's question. Oh wait... we can't because OP won't provide context. So really, you're just extra.

Oh. Before you accuse me of anymore logical fallacies, maybe you should check your use of emotional appeal first.

[Bananaman177]

@jdoutworld Congratulations on summarizing about half of my key points while conveniently ignoring all context. So you're not a white knight, you're just a straight-up dumb fuck? Okay bro, I can accept that.

[Bananaman177]

I know for a fact that you've never been bullied and have no idea what bullying is. You've probably been teased. That's probably what you're thinking of.

[Bananaman177]

@TheLuckyPizzaDog "I've never claimed not to be an insensitive, immature, bitch of an asshole. I admit that I am that, it's fine by me."

Thank you, that's all I really wanted you to say, lol.

[Izumiblu]

@Bananaman177 I agree with her, she is an asshole immature bitch. Curious that the asshole immature bitch is right is right on this. You probably should reflect on that a moment.

You seem really emotionally invested in this. I wonder if you are actually the asker.

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

@Bananaman177 Its not the worlds biggest secret. It also doesn't change how you just keep assuming things, which seems to really be a personal failing and you should work on that.

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

I learned it from you! I learned it by watching you!!!

[Bananaman177]

Check the vote, dumb-dumb.

Everybody else knows that it's not okay to literally FUCKING DATE somebody who spent years terrorizing your family. Everybody except certain hypergamous, degenerate, filthy animal sluts.

[Bananaman177]

@TheLuckyPizzaDog I assumed you were a mean, stupid cunt and you just confirmed my assumption, so I'm not sure if that's the best way to convince people not to make assumptions.

You have an emotion. I have arguments. I win.

[Izumiblu]

@Bananaman177 Lulz..."you're a degenerate hypergamous slut"

"You have emotion, I have an argument, I win".

Lmfao. This is the most entertaining shit I've seen here in weeks.

[Izumiblu]

Bananapeeps: don't be mean to bullying victims you stupid hypergamous animal slut that I wanna see held down and beaten !!!'

Hahaha...

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

@Bananaman177 That's a brazen declaration. It's a shame the poll was for OPs question as to whether or not it was understandable he is mad because of this. Not "should my sister dump the guy she's seeing because my feelings are hurt".
You can keep trying to derail this subthread all you want. The point still remains: OP needs to move on. If the bully is still coming after him, OP needs to stand the fuck up for himself and do something about it. Don't rely on the sister to handle his emotional well being for him.

However, if OP really just wanted to cry to internet heroes like you over the unfairness of his situation, then by all means don't let me impede that.

Ps: I'm an asshole, not a sociopath. Not sure how having emotions is a bad thing.
Pps: You came busting in with some "how would you feel if someone held you down and beat you" bs. Was that rhetorical? Why even bother then.

[Bananaman177]

Your mocking jibe would be completely fair if it wasn't for the fact that your original comments exist. You should go delete that shit, then leave my replies here if you want people to think I'm being some crazy asshole for no reason.

You want to make comments about other people, and infer things about other people, and then get on your high horse when somebody else turns the same critical eye on you?

Yeah, no wonder you can't find a good man, huh? Don't worry, when you're old and wrinkly, you'll figure out why you shouldn't have been such a bitch to everyone. We'll see how tough it makes you feel...

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[Bananaman177]

@TheLuckyPizzaDog Technically, you already admitted to being an asshole, so I'm not really sure where to go with this conversation. I got what I wanted, now why would I want to "converse" with you?

I'd pay money to a company that kept people like you out of my life, so would any man. I think the world is plenty vicious and plenty cruel even without pieces of shit like you helping to make things worse. Good luck finding true love, lol.

[Izumiblu]

@Bananaman177 I really don't need people to think one way or the other about you. What I know is this guy will be much better off as a person when he learns that he is not a hapless victim that needs to rely on his sister or other people around him to protect him from life. He's 25 and not in high school any more. Time to behave like an adult and think for himself. Feeling justified in his anger accomplishes nothing. In trying to prove your point you have called people sluts and implied you can pay to date peoples family members for money and said lots of other things that do far more to prove you are the person you are imagining yourself to rail against. Its laughable and that is why I'm mocking you.

I think maybe you have been a bullying victim and this makes it an emotional issue for you and this is why you have become so vitriolic over it. Its not a big deal to me, there's nothing you can say or do that will affect me more than a giggle here or there.

[Bananaman177]

I'm glad you typed all that out.

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[Izumiblu]

@Bananaman177 ahhh the baby so cute

[Bananaman177]

Order the "long pork" next time you're in Chinatown.

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[Izumiblu]

@Bananaman177 keepin it classy lol

[Bananaman177]

I'd rather sit next to a guy who eats baby soup on the bus than you. Nyah!

[Izumiblu]

@Bananaman177 lol... ok.

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

@Bananaman177 lol tell me more about how my love life factors in to OPs dilemma. If anything, you're way too emotional about this yourself. Getting mad and blaming the sister isn't going to help OP.

Seriously. Were you bullied as a child? Because it's okay to admit that you were.
Did someone hold you down and threaten to knock your teeth out?

[Bananaman177]

@TheLuckyPizzaDog Gosh, I just feel so bad, I wanna let it all out, you know? All that pain I've been hiding inside for so long. Do you think I could talk to you and you could be like my big sister for just a little while? I'm just so. . . emotionally vulnerable right now. . .

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Do you think I could open up to you for real?

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

@Bananaman177 yes, child. I'm here for you. Show us on the doll where the bad man touched you.

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[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

Deflection and refusal to stay relevant to OPs problem is tacit agreement that I'm right. OP this means you gotta stop being a pussy about it and move on and get over it, or settle it with the bully. Be an adult.

[Bananaman177]

@TheLuckyPizzaDog Little girls love playing with dollies.

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[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

@Bananaman177 oh, yeah, right. You're an adult, sorry forgot.

Show us on your body pillow where he touched you.

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[Bananaman177]

@TheLuckyPizzaDog Four more years for you.

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

@Bananaman177 til what? I'm 30? U wanna inv to my cakeday bonanza? U gna buy me my own body pillow to welcome me to adulthood?

[Bananaman177]

@TheLuckyPizzaDog I'll welcome you to adulthood when you get there, but yes, you have four more years.

And you'll be surprised how soon the last day sneaks up on you.

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

@Bananaman177 The last day of what? The 4 years til I'm 30 or last day of my life? Because neither would be surprising, really.

[Bananaman177]

@TheLuckyPizzaDog No, no, the last day of that four year period.

I'm saying time flies. You think you have a lot, and then POOF, shit's over.

OF COURSE you scoff at this, OF COURSE! You can do that! As much as you want. For four more years. And then POOF! All your jokes and jibes turn to ashes in your mouth.

You'll know it when you get there.

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

@Bananaman177 So... are you saying I'm going to burn to death before I'm 30?

Hitting 30 isn't really that momentous of an occasion though. Tbh, the years don't really register anymore for me, haven't since i hit 21. The next big milestone is prob menopause and that's more than 4 years so...

[Izumiblu]

@TheLuckyPizzaDog well he's thirty... so I think judging by this thread what he means is that at thirty you'll become strangely irrational and over emotional to nonsense internet questions. But didn't happen to me when I hit thirty so it must be a guy thing. I wouldn't sweat it if I were you.

[Bananaman177]

@TheLuckyPizzaDog Holy fucking shit, lady.

I'm saying you have an expiration date that is much shorter than your shelf life.

You're gonna enter a new phase, a brave new world. Up will be down, day will be night, all these things. You'll see. And until then, you'll make fun of it. For four more years.

And here you are pissing away precious seconds with little old me!

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[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

Well, but rule 63 tho. What if i turn into a dude when i hit 30? D: Also you can't be absent for basically half the thread and then pop in during the last dregs and snipe the last word. I'll beat you too.

[Izumiblu]

@TheLuckyPizzaDog I thought you turned into a dude when you responded to this thread and that was why you're an asshole. I don't know.

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

@Bananaman177 Yeah, it's the power of YOUTH!!✊

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

How can I be a dude if I'm too busy being a hypergamous cunt lol.

[Izumiblu]

@TheLuckyPizzaDog maybe your trans?

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

Go away chef Izumi. You're just here to stir the shitpot. Go stand in a field and wait for menopause to hit you or something. 🦑🦐🦀🐠🐟🐡🐬🍤🍣🍕🍍🍕🍍🍕🍍🍕

[Izumiblu]

@TheLuckyPizzaDog I'm just trying to make sense of this undoubtedly enlightening thread... it feels like I should be mocking this more than I should take it seriously but I just can't help but take it kinda hard cuz I'm very sensitive

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

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[Izumiblu]

@TheLuckyPizzaDog Ohh is that the ring girl?

[Cosytoasty]

This guy got all hung up over his sister dating a man too...
https://i.ytimg.com/vi/hH29WFUskK4/hqdefault.jpg
Look what he ended up doing, don’t go down that road @bananaman177 because aside from the original you’re sprouting the exact same nonsense as he did about “hypergamy”. And yes our favourite Elliot was bullied at school.

Check yourself before you turn into him.

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

@Cosytoasty you posted your fanfiction on the wrong site buddy

[Izumiblu]

@TheLuckyPizzaDog I agree with her

[Cosytoasty]

Haha, most of these "scenarios" asked are fan fiction anyway. We have so many Elliot's on here, they all follow the same pattern of behaviour/speaking that it's crystal clear.

[Izumiblu]

@Cosytoasty its raining here

[Cosytoasty]

@Izumiblu raining here too :( dull, grey, chilly.

[Izumiblu]

@Cosytoasty yah

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

@Cosytoasty Tho like... tbh... should you really be giving OP ideas like that? We're all like, "bro move on" and you're like "bro, get a latte n then murder everyone".

[Izumiblu]

@TheLuckyPizzaDog what she said

[TheLuckyPizzaDog]

I second that.

[Izumiblu]

@TheLuckyPizzaDog no you dont

[josh44]

It is his business that is his family you dumb cunt!
I would never date a girl that bullied my little sister, never, grow a spine and fight for the family who loves you and not those who tries to harm it, never forgive, never forget!

[FýrdracaDócincel]

Don't bother wasting your emotions on cunts like that ((yes, I just called your sister a cunt)).

Clearly she doesn't value you enough to put that before her hormones. If my sister ((or any other girl I viewed on such a level)) did that, she'd be dead to me faster than you can say "don't touch that cactus."

[Bananaman177]

This. You are absolutely not obligated to forgive her. Ever.

[goodman101]

@Bananaman177 Yes I've come to notice that women can be brutally selfish and insensitive when it comes to their satisfaction.

[Bananaman177]

You need to realize that as a man, you can't actually warp your own perception of the world enough to model the true selfishness with which women perceive their world.

They are not only more selfish than you realize, they're more selfish than you CAN realize.

The instinct in your heart to seek out a lifelong pair-bond with a good woman. . . it's a fine dream, but if you want to actually experience unconditional love, just get a dog. Or a robot. Or a clump of dirt with grass sticking out of it. All of those things care more about you than a woman.

[goodman101]

@Bananaman177 I AGREE

[FýrdracaDócincel]

You two are making my opinion look terrible.

[vjedi]

No it's absolutely not understandable at all. Quite frankly it's kind of childish.
Is this guy still bullying you as an adult? Maybe you should quit wearing your feelings on your sleeve, respect your sister's judgment regarding who she dates, man up and try to befriend this old bully.

[NatashaJ]

Omg this generation is so spineless they do shit just because and not care about other people feelings like your own fucking sister does that how shady she is.

[melendezm651]

If she knew that this guy was a bully to you and still wanted to hook up with him, i would say that maybe you guys might have a strained relationship or something. But nothing you can do about it really. It is her choice ultimately.

[Golden25]

That mean of her. If a guy bullied my sis, I'd hate him.

[Eddieniceboy]

Yes, and get ready to get punked again. Unless you do something about it. If that shit happened to me I would appreciate a good fight!

[fallen_wings]

Totally understandable. If she knows and she cares about it= Good.
If the guy changed and said something nice to you or treats you well= Good.

[azzntittiz]

Put laxative in his drink, it's the most adult solution.