Why does my boyfriend's sister hate me for no reason?!

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. We are very close and have met each others families and gone to a few family gatherings. We also sleep over at each others houses as well. He is always all over me - hugs,cuddles, caresses, kisses, etc. even in public and around his friends! people even ask us if were a married couple!

His family likes me very much - they say I'm a thousand times better than his ex - my personality and looks (his ex was a bitch, plus me I'm their own kind). Everyone in his family has welcomed me with open arms and they all recognize I'm a good girl/ wifey material. I have always been nice to all of them - except I'm sometimes very shy (they all know that)

At Christmas time my boyfriend bought me a real diamond pendant which his younger sister saw...

My boyfriend gave me the OK to come over at x-mas time , but for some reason his sister was in a very bitchy mood all day long and she was very rude to me (her excuse was that I didn't say "hi" to her, but I had a feeling she was moody that day so I kept quiet). His sister was even banging the kitchen cupboards and his mother was telling her not to do that. She was very rude to me that day for no apparent reason... I never gave her a reason to not like me and I was always very nice to her.

p.s - my boyfriend and his brother received more money than her at Xmas...

Jealously/attitude problem

She feels I'm taking her brother away from her

[ShesSoSilly]

Well she might of felt bad that Christmas day but since you're asking this question in July I'm assuming the attitude never went away?

I would just continue to try and be nice to her, maybe try to come out of your shell and see if she'll talk to you about her problem(s). If there is no progress that way maybe you just need to ignore it because there's only so much you can do. We cannot control others actions or feelings and cannot help if someone doesn't want it.

I'm not going to vote on your poll because I really don't know what her problem could be and it could even be a mix of both A and B. If its a serious ongoing problem maybe talk to other members of his family since you have been welcomed by them and might be closer to them. Ask them to see if they could figure out what her problem is IF she wont' talk to you first.

[XNicholex3]

She was probably in general in a really pissy mood, probably PMS.

I wouldn't let it bother you though. She probably is a slight bit jealous, and you didn't deserve the behavior you got from her.

[Anonymous]

dont worry, she was probably just having a bad day. If it continues, talk to her about it.

[bluisea]

So many years he and his sister live together.His sister may think she can't get brother's love any more after you show up. She is too young to accept the truth that everyone has his own family one day as well as his brother. You should try to understand her feelings and talk about what she like or dislike. Maybe this is a good way to get closer to her and ease the tension relationship between you and her.