Does this make me an a**hole?

WhiteSteve
I got in a fight with my girl tonight (that's why I'm bumming around on GAG on a Saturday night, haha. Basically I was a hanging around all day watching football Because I have weekends off, and she was at cosmetology school til 5. She wanted to go out to a bar tonight with her sister and her boyfriend. I'm on financial lockdown right now. Just bought a new car, paid my insurance in full, paid my gym membership, paid rent, and paid like 3 months of utilities she hadn't collected from me. I'm broke, all I can afford is food and gas money for work, and now I'm just living cheap to play catch-up.

The other issue is that she never drinks just a little, especially with her sister. So I usually have to carry her out of the bar and into the house, and I HATE taking care of drunk people. Thankfully she only drinks every couple of months, but it's a scene every time. Plus, her sister and her boyfriend are hipsters, and I'm kind of a jock, or a bro, or whatever the hell you call it these days. They're good kids, we just have nothing in common, and we all sit there awkwardly trying to make conversation.

So when she asked, I was like "ehhh, I guess. I just can't buy any drinks and I want to get up early to go the gym so I don't want to stay out late." She seemed displeased and was like "what's late?" and I was like "midnight, one tops", then I said it kind of sucks if I can't drink, even if I'm driving and am only having one or 2. I'm also not a big drinker anymore, especially since I need to be able to take care of her. So in my situation, I'm getting dragged out to drive a half hour each way to drink water and hang out with people I don't want to hang out with. Still, I was willing to go because I didn't want to be boring .

But when I said it sucked that I can't drink, she starts challenging me. "Oh, what, you drink now?" I said that I always did but since she gets real drunk I have to maintain. "When we first started dating you said you almost never drink. Now you have to have a drink at the bar?" and I explained that if I'm going to a bar I don't want to sit around and not drink, plus I hate bars Because I can't hear people talking over the noise and I just have to sit there quiet like a dumbass.

Anyway, I got upset because she challenged me. I know that sounds like a wifebeater thing to say, but it goes for everyone. If I said something, then that's it, no further discussion, at least when we're talking about who I am. Don't ever call what I say about myself into question, I wouldn't say it if I didn't know it was true. Have your opinions and all, that's fine. But if I say that I do drink, just on my terms, don't tell me I don't. She of course got mad and we're not talking right now.

My thing is this: I know myself, and I don't lie. Don't come at me with past out-of-context statements and fight what I'm saying, I wouldn't do it to you. And it's not a male dominance thing, it goes for every man, woman, and child. Is there something wrong with that?

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Does this make me an a**hole?
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