I still don't feel actually remorse for supposedly bullying my ex boyfriend's half-sister, is this bad?

[Anonymous]

This was in HS and she's still affected 8 years later. We're already 26 year-olds and my now ex boyfriend found out when he caught me dumping her rice pudding and laughing during an argument. The reason I'm not even apologizing is because if I do it, it'll just be to try winning him back, no other reason.

I mean yeah it wasn't nice but I don't really feel actual remorse, the ''oh will you ever forgive me type'' thing. I don't feel that. I don't really understand from her point of view. I can't even think of a moment I've ever ask for forgiveness nor apologize to anyone. The only time I've ever said sorry was if I accidentally step on someone's feet at a supermarket or accidentally bump into people but not apologize for other bigger things.

Is this bad?

[KrakenAttackin]

Classic pathological female. You will make an "awesome" wife and mother... the kind of mother who turns boys into serial killers of women. You go girl.

[Asker]

So in other words I'm not a normal person? I have an understand that's a destructive path and most people would feel real remorse. I can't feel it.

[Anonymous]

What do you want us to tell you? You're an a**hole? I mean that's a given. So why ask?

[Asker]

Is bad that I can't feel remorse for her isn't it?
I'm trying to place myself in her shoes and see what she felt but I can't feel it.

[Opinion Owner]

I mean it depends. If you tell me it was done in response to something. Some slight, some retribution I'd understand. But I cannot relate at all or understand why someone would do this unprovoked.

[Kryzo]

You're a psychopath likely. You'll feel it once you get a taste of your own medicine.

[Asker]

But if I'm actually a psychopath then there is no cure for it? That means I can't ever feel remorse.

[Kryzo]

Well we'll see after you get knocked around a little...

[Asker]

I have a feeling I might be a narcissist and have little empathy but still feel something, even if it's little... to limited people. A psychopath on the other hand feels nothing for no one nor anything.

[Kryzo]

Yup. You'd likely need to get it for yourself to feel it.

[whereismyjohnny]

I'd talk to a therapist about it.

[Asker]

I will. That's why I'm not even bothering winning him back. I have a feeling I'm a narcissist.

[mandyfire98]

Might be sociopathic.

[Asker]

No cure for that I guess

[mandyfire98]

You can get therapy. It would help. No outright cure

[Jmmmfi4]

You're a bitch

[Asker]

At least I'm being honest. Is it my fault I can't feel it? How can I apologize for something I don't feel?