How to avoid a really annoying and entitled family member and their kid?

[Anonymous]

When they come over.

I really don’t want to be around them and I have my reasons

[SnowedIn]

Can you go to your room and be away from them?

[Asker]

The kid follows me🫠

[SnowedIn]

Hmmmmm. Sounds like a talk with their or your parent. One thing for them to be at your house but totally another for your space to not be your space.

[Asker]

The parents don’t care and spoil the kid to the point where if I say anything else I will lose my temper so I’d rather eliminate myself from the situation altogether.

[SnowedIn]

That's actually a good plan. So, what about that? Go to a movie? Concert? Volunteer at a school or library when they come over? Hang at the mall? Friends house?

Like, this sucks that you have to think about leaving your own home. Can/will your parents help and have you laid this out in an unemotional, objective way that lists specific examples and times and actions?

[Asker]

Yeah I could but sometimes they stay at my house until late and I do want to come to my own home any time I want.

Also yeah, my parents know what they’re like and understand me more now but I’m not sure what they can do to help me

[SnowedIn]

So, my advice would be to sit your parents down. Explain to them how you feel that you can't even go to your room. Again, have an unemotional, objective list of specific things that the child (and the kid's parents if they do it to) does and why those things are a problem for you. Explain that it's impacting your ability to exist in your own home. Ask your parents to speak to the kid's parents and/or control that child.

I know this is easy to say and much harder for you to do, but it's the answer to your statement about \what your parents can do to help you. It's their (and your) home and they can (should) control who is in it.

You have to help them see that as their child, your needs are more important than the kid and its parent.

[Asker]

My parents have actually done this at one point but they’re thick headed entitled people that don’t give a shit about others. (One of the reasons I refuse to mix with them.)
I used to be seen as the bad one until one day they saw it for themselves and they’re much more understanding now.
If anything I need to use the time to find a way to move out lol

[Asker]

Im referring to the kid and their parents as thick headed by the way

[SnowedIn]

Yuck. I really am sorry. That is a terrible position to be in.

Makes me wonder why your parents keep having them over.

[Asker]

Tbh it’s not frequent, but whenever they do it’s usually uninvited too.
Being this time of year too doesn’t make it any easier

[SnowedIn]

Wow. Well blah. Best wishes moving out. Rough place to be in.

[isvood06]

Come to me