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I've never been able to get along with any guy but from THEIR lane so to speak
7/10 guys in general seem to always want to spark some drama towards me when I'm just as curious as to why?
No, I'm not a "ladies man" nor am I $$$$, or a leader in anything
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To be honest, I've never experienced it myself, but if I had to guess, I'd say they perceived you as a threat to something they want. Or they want to appear better than you in some way.
Girls are more at ease with me in comparison but there not attracted towards me
It's a bit odd because the average gal isn't afraid of being diplomatic towards me to an extent
If other men want to be unnecessarily rude to you, so be it; they isn't much to be done when it comes to the opinions of others. I'm sure you're glad women aren't exceptionally rude though! A lot of men can't even get that.
But it's the "WHY"
The average woman doesn't mind smiling at me when I go out & surprisingly may of them don't mind if I stand too close to them
But the males are the "drama queens" in this case
Again, I couldn't tell you. I've nor received this attention nor do I treat others this way, so its an unexplainable phenomenon to me.
Lucky you
I'm being serious
You wouldn't want my problem because you'll be walking on egg shells almost constantly daily
I mean, after reading the other reply, I think you pay far more attention to the folks around you than what's neccesary. And you brought up activities in your yard twice; perhaps having activities and conversations elsewhere would eliminate the snooping of others?
And I also agree with the other commenter, you do put off a (and I hate saying it, but it's fitting) 'small dude energy' by seeking unnecessary conflict while implying that you're the innocent party; or that any negative attention stems from jealousy or interest. It's not really an attractive look to anyone.
With that in mind, I think I understand why folks treat you the way they do.
Many men do try to "size me up" in my own neighborhood but eventually drop the drama ONLY after they see how emotionally damaged I am because I don't have a father figure & how I isolate myself completely
But I swear... the negativity comes to me... when I moved to many neighborhoods... it was always the males who always wanted to push their weight or try to TEST me
But like I said... they drop it only after they see how emotionally damaged I am
See? There's a perfect example.
You bring up your lack of a father and your emotional trauma. That ensures that no matter what, you're both the constant victim AND at the same time, completely irresponsible for the way you're treated. How would these strangers know these things about you? How can they TEST you, when they can't be on a level playing field, with you having both a "NO FATHER" and "EMOTIONAL TRAUMA" card ready to be put in play at a moments notice.
I dont mean to sound callous, but bad shit happens, dude. That's life. You can wear it on your sleeve and get the universal currency- pity- and you'll be exactly where you're at now. Or you can just accept that things happened and move past it. So you didn't have a dad, that blows. Really. You and a couple million other men. You're also an adult and extremely capable of developing your own agency and goals. You're old enough to know right from wrong, or at the very least, be responsible for your own actions. So you didn't have a dad? Then become the dad you needed. Before you say something, counsel yourself. Before you make a decision, change your view and look at it differently. Go on YouTube, look up how to videos, teach yourself some trade skills. Get some books or read some articles on philosophy. Look at the world through they eyes of someone who wants to make it better. Don't let yourself get caught up in what others say or think about you. Don't be afraid to step outside your comfort zone. Don't project either. Just be a better person.
I appreciate your advice
(very rarely do I get it)
But that still doesn't stop the "stench" (bad vibes?) I might be giving off to males
The females are soso with me on the other hand
Okay, well if you want to avoid a 'stench' then don't draw attention to yourself. It's that simple. Don't dress odd, don't walk with a swagger, don't make an odd 'face'. Just adopt a Gray Man principle. I'll be honest, the only men that notice other men are ones with something to prove. People don't care unless you give them a reason to care. So don't do anything to put yourself on the radar.
To be honest, I don't think you need to be worrying about women at this point. You're alone and you think strange men are trying to test you; how will you react next to a woman you care about? Probably not well. It doesn't even matter at this point, because it sounds like your entire base of perception is due for an overhaul. Might as well hold off on dating until you've done a fair amount of re-evaluating and self-education.
What I meant to say about woman was that for whatever reasons many of them don't mind my presence or if I gawk at their ass or whatnot
Men are the ones who throw tantrums
I don't date or plan to... ever
You must have a fighting and challenging sort of energy about yourself. It may be thar you do not get social cues or boundaries...
What do these men plan to get out of me?
I do not know but it is strange. Update with an contextual example?
I've had grown men who were previously neighbors gawk & "care" how much I lifted or how many reps i performed in any exercise
How do I know? They literally stood outside everytime I lifted weights in my yard
Many of these guys literally snoop to everything I say when I was speaking to my family in our yard
They actually cared about whatever came out of my mouth
There were even men who sarcastically said to their wives or friends who lived beside or around me..."where is he going" anytime I had to leave my house to run errands
It's odd because the females ignore everything I say & do... only in very rare exceptions does a gal even acknowledge my presence or anything I say or do
Keep a lower profile. Working out in the yard is challenging the Neighbors and asking for issues….
But what do you think the issue is?
Back off from the world. you come off too strong.
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