Have you ever had to deal with a drunk parent?

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When I lived with my mother as kid and teenager, some evenings she would come home drunk, or had stayed home and drank during the day.

That said, she wasn't abusive or violent, she'd get extremely sentimental and docile in letting me help her to bed or washing her, and I admit that sometimes I would manipulate her into signing bad school marks or getting money or cigarettes from her.

She regrets this now and although she still drinks occasionally she never gets drunk - hell, when sometimes when I drink she takes away the liquor saying I had "already seen the bad example" and to not overdo it.

Telekinetic-Potato · Accepted Answer

My parents were very much against being loose around their kids. They didn't like to watch certain movies, I never got the talk about the birds and the bees. He always treated me like we were in a corperate office or something.

By the time I got old enough to drink he was in his second marriage and this woman really opened him up more. We went to a concert just me and my dad and I don't know what happened but he had two glasses of whisky and he was sick as hell.

The irony of the whole situation was I was totally fine and he used to always say I was irresponsible.

He was throwing up out the window on the ramp to get onto the highway and we were laughing so hard about it.

Next time I saw him drunk was on his 50th birthday where when we got home he started demonstrating his judo skills which at that point mostly consisted of him laying on the couch and being a goofball. 5 years later I think he's decided he's just gonna go back to sipping.

I get why for other people maybe these stories would seem really bad but I was just greatful I got to see a side of him he probably repressed when my brother and I were born.

Made me remember that your parents are just regular people who had to grow up and form opinions about stuff. Their as lost in life as anyone else and it's unfair to blame them for it. Especially when they're only doing what they think is best for their family.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

My mom is an all-out drunk. She'd get drunk and drag some dude home to hump so loud that my sister would be screaming for them to STFU. I only dealt with it from 13 to 16, but it was enough for me to realize she was nothing but a shit bag slut.

She was abusive... she would turn it into a game though like she's just having fun. Shit like grab me by my hair and yank on it until I yell out "awoooga" to make her laugh or tickle me until sores broke out on my face and the other people there were begging her to leave me alone. Other fun stuff like her losing her beer or cigarettes and then accusing us of stealing, flipping over all the furniture and tearing our rooms apart (she left it in the car), and if you tell her where her keys, cigarettes, beer is... that's when you get accused of planting it there.

I just had a heart to heart with my sister about our Mom... my Mom is such a stupid bitch. She's mentally fucked our minds. She's the kind of mom that likes to hold loaded guns against your head and constantly play mind games. If I ever see an adult acting that way I'm going to break their fucking face in.

Rania05 · Accepted Answer

Thankfully never had to. My dad was alcoholic (not abusive but the joking and dizzy type) according to my family but he quit it when I was in kindergarten and the only time I recall curiously holding a glass of unfinished alcohol and smelling it and he snatched the glass away from me. He told me it's bad for me and yelled at me to not approach it again, I was frightened and nodded (I had no intention to drink it since I knew my mom hated it for some reason).
I said yes and that I understand but why do you drink it then? My dad was silent, my memory ends there.

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

Thousands of times. My mother was an alcoholic all my life. Doesn't matter how sick she got, she never stopped, no one could make her stop. (She had high blood-pressure, went off her pills, had two strokes, and had to spend the last year of her life in a hospital.)

Account · Answer

Honestly, no.
I consider myself very lucky when it comes to having the parents I have.
It is probably the only area in my life that I have been blessed and I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world.
I am really sorry you had to go through that, it must have been extremely hard.

Potteplante · Answer

Both my parents were alcoholics. My mother married another alcoholic - who would at times become abusive, I followed their ways.

Not only did I deal with my parents drunk, but I'd also take care of my (step) dads shipmates - often while drunk myself.

melanieeeB · Answer

Not in a bad way and not alcoholic drunk.
Like my mom loves beer and when family comes over all of them drink together hard liquor. I was always allowed to have a sip, so alcohol was never something bad to me and I learned early on to not miss use alc and drink not too much etc

Heterosketero · Answer

Muly mom smoked a lot of pot and kept to heself. 20 years after her death, my brother and I have both become her, in the reclusivity at least. Stole my fair share and smokes and such. Your story reminded me of us. I wish it had gone better, but sue was very broken. A lot was left unresolved. Youb are not alone. Reach out if you want to relate.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

Yeah. He would drink til he passed out, later on would vomit at the toilet with the worst sound. I'd help clean up and make sure his cds weren't damaged. Eventually, he stopped drinking to raise me.

SnowedIn · Answer

Yes. My mom. A LOT. Especially after she and my dad separated and then divorced.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

No, I have seen my father drunk once, and immediately upon comng home, he went to bed. I have never seen my mother have more than one drink. I occasionally have a drink at home but my girlfriend has never seen me have more than two drinks.

soulbabe · Answer

Lol I don't know if this is something to brag about but I come from a long line of alcoholics both my parents are alcoholics my grandpa, aunt my second cousin and at least 3 of my regular cousins Im the only one who doesn't drink

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Nope, luckily both of my parents drank socially, but knew their limit.

Apulu_Imback · Answer

No, not at all. No one in my family drinks, smokes cigarettes or do drugs.

exitseven · Answer

I think I saw my father drunk only once. It was just before I went to basic training in the Air Force.

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

My parents are drunk all the time now, but not when I was a kid. It doesn't bother me, they're just having fun

lightbulb27 · Answer

yes, generally no bad, but sometimes hurtful. wasn't often and I'm thankful wasn't worse, but have to do repair work the damage.

wittymilf · Answer

I drink with my kids 🙄 they’re always trying to get me drunk

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

I’ve dealt with a drunk parent till I was 5 and they left  I still have the scars on my back from the stitching cord 😂

Jersey2 · Answer

I remember my drunk grandfather being brought home by the police a few times when I was young. I didn’t understand very well at the time.

AsaKyo · Answer

Yeah, my dad is a drunk and still is to this day

ChiTown33 · Answer

No. My parents were almost teetotalers. Rare was the occasion where they drank.

annabananna · Answer

I’m not sure if I ever had to deal with my dad sober.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Yes and I was just a newborn/infant. Traumatic moment got me to remember it even though I shouldn't.

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