Anyone else embarrassed by their parent?

[Anonymous]

I know this is going to get negative opinions but unlike my dad my mom won't even dress normal or dress up. You cannot live in LA county without looking decent and young. First of all no matter what I say she won't wear makeup because she has dark circles so dark and deep in it makes her eyes look like full on holes from far away and to make it worse she always has this worried look on her face then she refuses to wear her hair down and it's embarrassing to admit it makes her look like a man. First of all how she wears her hair in the front gives off a trans man look it's just so embarrassing and then she refuses to wear normal outfit most of the time. Also it's even worse because I'm literally 24 sometimes I go with her places (don't question why) and people either stare because my skin is darker than hers which is more fair or they assume I'm some bratty teenager and treat me like a spoiler child. (Yeah I'm so spoiled from the ptsd I suffered from my dad in the past and bullying at every school oh yes). So anyways she brought those shoes that look really ridiculous and it's so embarrassing going anywhere with here because it's like she tries to look out of the norm and weird as possible and I know I shouldn't care what people think but I have serious social anxiety and rather be invisible and with her she draw attention ( NEGATIVE ATTENTION). WHATS worse is people claim I look like her people just always have to shout "that's her mom." I think I should stop going anywhere with her and then there's the group of people giving me trash for being brown skin while she's more fair. I'm excuse me go to God if you have a problem when I was a baby I was as light as the bright sun it's not until I been in the sun my so anyways... It's so embarrassing also because she doesn't EVEN TRY TO LOOK ATRACTIVE people treat me poorly when I'm with her. Funny thing is guys don't even hit on me when she's around me and I get negative attention or people laughing. If looks are everythin

[Anonymous]

Are you upset that other people are so superficial that they give negative attention to anyone out of the norm—and that happens to include your mom?

Or

Are you upset that your mom looks out of the norm, because you agree that anyone who does or is associated with that deserves negative attention?

If the former, the best you can do is try to hang around people who don't judge like that. Im sure your mom isn't the only person who prefers a "different" look in that area. If your friends won't treat you right around her they aren't good friends, and you unfortunately need to find new ones.

If the latter, have you considered that your mom has reasons for looking the way she does, and probably doesn't like that it can draw negative attention (especially to her daughter)? She's a whole ass person with her own desires and opinions, just like you. And she's probably not trying to make your life worse, is just trying to live life best she can. Some people hate popular fashion and would feel stupid and awful if they force themself to dress up like that in public. It's unfortunate this can result in judgement & bullying from superficial neighbors/strangers, but that's not her fault any more than it is your fault.

[MemeSupreme]

yeah having a dad who is an addict will give you some interesting experiences lol

but it sounds kinda like you're annoyed at her for something else so these minor things are digging at you

[strateguy632]

I am but not for your list!

Those things: no make up, or simple hair Are fine. Nothing to be embarrassed.

[HelpfulWoman]

I hope your mother has better days then being shamed over superficial looks by her daughter.
TROLL

[Asker]

I'm not shaming looks are everything in LA county you do have to try sometimes. Call me what you want this is my honest question

[jahaims]

You are a shallow empty shell of a human

[Maybeyoutoo]

Nope