My dad gave me an old ugly car, am I ungrateful?

[Anonymous]

I don't have a car,
but I just feel I don't need one right now.

My dad decided to surprise me with a used old car.

This car is not my style at all (not because it's old) even if it were the newest model, I just never liked this style of car so it being old just makes it that much more unappealing to me.

I feel horrible, awful, and ungrateful.
I want to cry because I feel I'm being unappreciative but I just do not like this car at all.

I asked many times why did he do this?
He said he wants me to go out placed.. I don't like to go out.

while at the same time I thanked him and put on a smile as I'm happy for the gift.. but I felt sad.

The car in my opinion looks like it belongs to a 70 year old lady

it has no cameras and just looks unappealing to me

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the only good things about it are
1. it almost has no miles on it despite it being old, so it's like a new car just very outdated.
and
2. it's a gift so a free car.

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Am I a horrible person to feel this way? I don't want it. even if it's free.. f

but it's my dad's present. I feel ungrateful.

What would you do? What do you advice?

am I really being ungrateful?
Should one pretend to like something to not be ungrateful?

is saying the truth being ungrateful?

why should one pretend to like something or else they call you or think of you as ungrateful?

Yes I know my age says 45+ it's not real. YET even if it were, just I never liked this style of car. I wouldn't want to drive it even if I were 40 or 80 It's not my taste and I don't see me driving it. EVER. Why I feel sad about this? I have no idea I just feel sad.

the car does not look beat up. it looks in good condition just the style is not my style.
the inside needs a bit of cleaning up but I wouldn't mind investing in cleaning it up and making it look cute if I liked the style of it.. but I don't so I don't see me ever enthusiastically trying to spend money to clean it or making it looks nice on the inside. I have zero interest to spend money on it. :(

[Anonymous]

It is understandable to feel conflicted and unsure about how to react when you receive a gift that does not align with your personal tastes or preferences. However, it is important to remember that the intention behind the gift is what matters most.

While it may be difficult to express your true feelings about the car to your dad, it is important to communicate openly and honestly with him about your perspective. You can express gratitude for the gift and acknowledge his thoughtfulness while also being honest about your personal preferences and needs.

It may be helpful to have a conversation with your dad about why he chose this particular car for you and to discuss what your transportation needs and preferences are. By communicating openly and respectfully, you may be able to find a solution that works for both of you.

Remember, it is okay to have your own preferences and to express your feelings in a respectful and constructive way. It is not necessary to pretend to like something that you do not, but it is important to approach the situation with empathy and understanding, and to prioritize the relationship and the intention behind the gift.

[richardcory]

Depends on your financial situation. If he could have bought you a Lamborghini without thinking about it, then sure. But if the car represents a lot of money to him, the be grateful. Doesn't matter how ugly the car is, it represents a huge freedom of mobiliyt

[midnightmoon05]

You are so lucky! At lease he was thinking of your welll being. Go out have some fun since you are 45 years. old.
your dad wants you out of the house. I just spoke to my two kids who soon will need cars. Their grandparents just got rid of two low mileage cars. Nothing I can do. The kids can use them for maybe very very low price that we would pay the grandparents… now we have to buy full price used cars who we have no idea what the previous owners have done to the car…so yeah… lucky yiur father is so kind. My kinds don’t care, they even said even if the car is all beat up and cheaper, they wooo drive it.

[Anonymous]

Sorry I read the details just the title. It's fair how you feel. BUT use this old ugly car as a motivator to get anything you want. Yes a bit ungrateful sure. BUT you have to power now to get from point A to B that's the most important.

If you don't like it but some stickers on it add some cute assessors to it. Put your mark on it right. Spruce it up a bit. Learn to make the environment how you want it to make you feel or be okay.

If you are truelly embarrassed invest in tinted windows.. etc..

You have the power to change and a choice for everything

[noohair]

Your style? He should have payed for your psychiatric care. You are a child. My brothers fought over the Firebird. I took any car that we had. It is transportation.

[exitseven]

It is a older car with low miles. He was trying to do a good thing for you. Try to look beyond the model of cr and see it for what it is. Give it a cute name, drive it around. Cars have a way of becoming old friends after a while.

[EmmaMary]

How absolutely wonderful... I'm so envious. 🤢

[Alpha714]

He gave u best thing he had... Men love their car more than their wives

[In_Trance]

What kind of car is it?

[MementoMori777]

What car is it?