Why do you think some people don't have friends?

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Joker_ · Accepted Answer

I would suspect most people who don't have friends failed to retain their friendships.

It is harder to make friends than it is to keep them. So when a person loses their friendships, often they will stay friendless. Plus the type of person who loses their friends is probably not a social butterfly, so their potential to gain friends is hindered by default.

If a person loses their friends, it was probably their fault. You need to have value, and you need to input value, with respect to reciprocity, into the friendship in order to sustain it.

The type of person who is friendless is often socially inept. Or they may be a parasite, a goblin, or a degenerate.

Out of those 3 options, my good friend @Degenerate best fits the role of a goblin. He and I are a pair of goblins. There is a deep sense of reciprocal comradery here. But he would definitely snake me for a juicy pair of bodacious gold bags. He's a menace like that.

Personally, the way I view all of the friends I've lost over time is with a resounding "good riddance". They were losers, and we can't hang. I'm stringently selective with who I choose to hang with.

That said, I do appreciate that it would be asinine and unwise of me to ignore the implications that emanate from the breaking down of some relationship.

This devolved into me vaguely discussing my personal journey regarding friendships. So I'll conclude by imparting some friendly advice that I've come to learn from my journey: don't have multiple girlfriends at the same time like I did, as it likely won't turn out well for you when they find out about your rambunctious tomfoolery.

Spongebobssocks · Accepted Answer

I myself am very introverted by nature. Meaning I gain energy when I'm alone and loose it when im with others. There are moments when growing up i had no friends and I ate alone at my locker or spend the breaks reading in the classroom at school and I was happy. Some people just enjoy being alone. Also most people who dont have any friends are too empathic for their own good. You see the opposite with narcissists. They seam to love large groups. The loners are almost always miss judged but its a good thing. It gives them more private time.:)

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I think the most common reason is they do not trust others or do not trust that they deserve love and respect. If somebody does not believe they have value, they will not feel peaceful around those they want to be friends with.

Anonnnn909 · Answer

This one hasn't been mentioned yet, age.

When you're young, you are surrounded by people constantly via schools. Easy to make friends.
18+, partying and work. However, the older you get, the more responsibilities you have, the harder or longer you have to work, the more health issues you have to deal with. Your time and energy is spent elsewhere & it's the same for most other older adults.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Some people don't have friends because they are garbage, unpleasant people. Other people don't have friends because they don't know how to set boundaries with people. Others still don't have any friends because they are just tired of people.

DarkLegacy · Answer

They have Autism and/or learning disabilities. They so called equality generation have excluded this group of people from their social inclusion spectrum.

jujus · Answer

Another reason could also be introverted like me who chooses not to have many friends like to stay to myself

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Such an amazing question. I agree with one of your most helpful opinions.

Koneko911 · Answer

Maybe cause they don't really like people? I mean I barely have friends. I just don't like people honestly. I can tolerate some though lol

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

They might not want to interact with people or meet new people. Maybe they can't find the time. Maybe they are just horrible.

CassandraSpender · Answer

Most of those I know who don't have friends don't have friends because they aren't good people

RavVid · Answer

I have relatively few friends mostly because my interests are somewhat academic.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

I have no friends because I got bullied in school and from that on I am way more critical, hesitant and anxious to connect to people.

art84 · Answer

I never felt comfortable around people like I get nervous. I have social anxiety so it's hard plus I don't like talking.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t like friends because I feel uncomfortable in social situations; talking and interacting is very unsettling for me. I see no thrill, novelty or need to be in a situation that gives me no joy and that gives me an uncomfortable feeling.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Coz they choose not to.

Nikki1989 · Answer

They are socially awkward.

FifiJones · Answer

This, for instance:

Iron_Man · Answer

Shy and some have social anxiety disorder

Jltakk · Answer

They simply choose not to go down that road.

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