Am I wrong for feeling like my child’s father doesn’t do enough as a parent?

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He’ll get him diapers, wipes etc when I tell him our son needs them. He’ll come and see him but he’s not with him 24/7. He’s not the one calming him down, making him smile, laugh, putting him to sleep. He’s not the one stressing about a sitter for him when I have to work. I’m still searching for the right day care him. He can’t offer a hand in transportation because his car isn’t that reliable. So it‘s on me to get our son everywhere he needs to be, which I get, I’m his mom, but a helping dad works a lot. He doesn’t work. His only source of income is selling weed or scamming. He always says a job called him for an interview but nothing happens after the so called interview. He never mentions an actual schedule. It’s always “I have an interview”. Or “I’ve been looking.” He says he has receipts of the things he’s bought him that he can show to a judge to prove he takes care of him but I have the same kind of receipts because I purchase the same things. That’s not being a good parent, it’s getting your child things they need. He thinks buying/doing bare minimum things is enough to call himself a good father. He has low patience. He gets angry fast, so I don’t trust him enough to have our son stay with him overnight when I work early mornings. When he was only a few months old, he was trying to give him water and babies aren’t even suppose to have water before 6 months and when I told him that he got mad at me and said I think I know everything. I couldn’t even trust him to make a bottle the right way with the right amount of formula scoops or water. Now, he is almost six months and is much more active. He can roll over, grab at things. He can lift himself up and he’s scooting, so he’s close to crawling. He’s busier now than before and needs to be paid attention to more and I don’t trust that his dad will do that. So on top of him only doing the bare minimum, I can’t rely on him to keep him safe. Yet he claims he’s such a great father.

Am I wrong for feeling like my child’s father doesn’t do enough as a parent?
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