Is it normal if dads are overprotective over their child?

[Anonymous]

What should I do when my husband is over-protective towards our only child?
she's 6months
Some days, he totally forgets that I am her birth mom, if something happens to her with me, he starts a blame game.
Why is he doing this?

Normal

Not normal

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that's a tough situation. On one hand, it's totally normal for dads to be protective of their little girls - we don't wanna see them get hurt, ya know?

But it doesn't sound cool that he's like blaming you if anything happens. That ain't fair at all. You're her mom, you'd never do anything to put her in danger. He needs to trust you more.

Some things that might help:

- Talk to him when you're both calm, not in the middle of an argument. Tell him straight how the blaming makes you feel disrespected.

- Ask him why he thinks that way - is he just nervous being a new dad? Reassure him you've got this.

- Suggest he talk to other dads too - maybe hearing their experiences will help him relax a bit.

- Make sure you're still connecting as a couple too, not just focused on the baby. Date nights help reduce stress.

- If he keeps it up, you may need help from a counselor to work on communication and trusting each other more.

Hope he listens to how you feel, bro. Babies are a lot of pressure but you're a team - gotta have each other's backs! Let me know if you need any other advice.

[JacobJordan]

it is very normal though it doesn't normally appear so early. you tend to see the over protective behavior come in the form of the dad putting the fear of "god" in hapless suitors since the mans first duty is to protect his family. his second duty is to provide for them. what he is doing is not normal and definitely should be addressed in a calm and respectful way. he may not have noticed that what he is doing is hurting you

[madhatters4]

it's natural to be overprotective but not towards your partner. i'm a father and i want to protect my two children to the ends of the earth but my wife and I are partners in this. she is not someone i feel i need to protect my children from

so normal to be overprotective. not normal to sort of cast your partner as one of those who your children need protection from

[Twalli]

I don't know why he thinks he needs to protect her ryom you, unless you are insulting to her. Wait until boys start dating her and then you'll see how overprotective some fathers can be.
A girl remembers the first time she went on a date. Her father was a cop and when her boyfriend came to pick her up, her father was cleaning his gun. When she got in his car, her boyfriend started weeping.

[molonski2]

I don't know about Normal / Not Normal , but it seems to be a trait these days , probably his family was opposite and its actually less dangerous now , your daughter has to learn over time , he should not do it.

[Zally]

From what you wrote. I assume that you think you're more important than a father. I'm not curious to exactly what you would consider to be the "blame game"

[Joshydavid25]

Yes, these days unfortunately that's a good dad, that would get applause.. But it's totally normal esp with the way a lot of men (myself included) think of and see the world..

[Sour-rose]

When you got something to lose, you'll kill a n*gga who dares even try and touch it. Like your own kid. :)

[jahaims]

What do you mean if something happens? If your actions or the lack thereof cause a negative outcome with the child he has the right to blame you.

[FenixG45]

As for me, I would be totally protective of my child, boy or girl. It's called being human!

[AviatorTom]

Totally normal. Ask my daughter.

[sheikalana]

Annoying but super normal.

[exitseven]

it is pretty normal.

[Joker_]

normal