Yes of course
Thank you for understanding. Nobody else understands why we are so protective of our children because they don't know what it feels like to have a child taken away from them at such a young age, under no fault of our own.
May I ask what happened to him?
@RandomLoser I'll discuss in pm. I don't want to say publicly
@RandomLoser I'll discuss in private
I hope you never become a dad.
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You are right but these dad's tend to criticize women for doing the same for their sons.They massive hypocrites
I know because my parents was also overprotective. It is hard for me even being a boy. And most irritating part is when your parents say they are doing what is good for you.I mean, at the age of 19, I have a decent amount of judgement abilities myself right? Then why try to interfere in everything I do. Lol.
These dad's are even worse because they are aggressive
Sorry, typing mistake. They are still overprotective. I mistakenly wrote it in past tense. Lol.
It's actually both of my parents. My mom always think that whatever she is doing is for my good and she is right. (At least it seems like it) lol.
Besides there is this yin/yang thing there, no? If I had son, I would be harsh towards him. And my wife will play sweetheart. If I had daughter, I would be sweet towards her, and my wife would be harsh. Because empathetic people like us need experience in each other's shoes to be harsh. I can't be harsh towards daughter. I have no idea what it is like to be girl. I can be harsh towards son because I have an idea.
I disagree, I think there is support for both.
I treated my kids equally, one daughter, 2 sons and they are all fine
I think that is good -- but maybe you overlapped our roles? Are you single mother? I think it is noble if so. But in two-parent household, I gotta admit my ignorance here. Good cop, bad cop, you know? I rely on my wife to be bad cop with daughter. She can rely on my to be bad cop with the son.
I can't find it in myself to be cold and harsh and discipline people if I can't click to what tempted them to behave badly, you know? Maybe if I was single-parent, I'll be forced to learn that -- the hardest way. But I don't know shit right now. So I'm almost certainly gonna lean towards overprotective towards a daughter until I know better -- until I know her limits. But I will still put her on a good regiment of push-ups and laps every day -- and triple if she misbehaves. But never hit her. I need my wife to hit her if someone has to hit her.
No, I raised them with their dad.I think it depends on your viewpoints and values, and I interfered with my husbands actions if I thought they were innapropriate and vice versa, with my son or daughter. He did hit her and my dad hit me too, so it really depends. I think you are on the more protective side of dads. I have a friend who had a dad like that. He never hit her or was mean to her, but her mom beat the living shit out of her.
I don't think I could let my wife beat my daughter either. But I don't know about overprotective. I just wanna try to judge what is healthy for her and err on that side before she's old enough to know better than me -- and "old enough" in my book might range from 18 to mid-20s. Well -- as long as she's living in my house, you know. It does get a little bit sexist maybe -- I got conceptions of girls that wants to err on the side of tenderness, protectiveness, more than guys... but not *that* much! If I have a sort of soft son with tender heart, I will do like that towards him too... and if I got badass daughter, then I set her free more. I just think for the sort of classical/stereotypical "girl" -- someone got to protect him/her. I deliberately put "him" here because even if a guy acts that way, he will need to be protected.
Well, I wanna raise a "tomboy"-ish type I'll never to protect. That's my goal. My wife might interfere a bit. But I wanna raise a badass -- son or daughter -- I want a badass child. So I don't need to protect her if I do it right.
But if I fail and she becomes all weakling sissy type that's getting clique-ey and worried about cosmetics and stuff, I wanna err towards overprotective dad. I'll realize it might be wrong. I'm just erring on what seems to be the safe side. Same with girly wimp son.
Oh bless you, I hate when parents do that
Who started it?
That I don’t know, I just happened to be doing dishes and glanced up.
You should investigate before making assumptions
Same thing, they never attribute blame or punish them and are unreasonable
A proper dad punishes their child for misbehaving, protective or not.
Depends on what you mean
Yeah I agree
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