They are not that overprotective towards their sons
Okay. I'm not overprotective of my daughter but when people told me before I had kids that there is such a thing as "Mama's boys' and "daddy's girls" I said bullshit. 22 years later it's a fact! My daughter and I have a very close relationship where she confides in me things she doesn't want to talk about with her mother and vice versa for the boy. It's really weird but I've also noticed the same pattern among my students. It really does exist!
Returning to your question, I am the "go to guy" for all my friends / family's parent decisions that involve risk / anxiety because my motto is as much Independence as possible n let them make their own mistakes far away from parents ever present and judgmental eyes. If I say no, you shouldn't allow your kid to do X then you KNOW it's a bad idea.
Upon reflection , I do however ask that she use the buddy system as much as possible, and I offer things to my daughter I didn't to my son like walking home in rain or ride to work. I guess yeah in minor ways I'm "kinder" but I would like to think based on her feedback that I am far from overprotective. I've told her more times than I can count if the school has a problem with dress code or you walk out of class to go to the bathroom just go along with them politely while they get their panties in a bunch and call me, I'll take it from there. There's ONLY TWO ACCEPTABLE answers when student asks to use bathroom: 1) YES 2) Can it wait? Please tell your kids to walk out too - dignity comes before anything else! I've offered her birth control when / if she wants it; I've told her don't trust men til they earn it; same for authority figures - respect goes both ways or fuck off; told all kids never say a single word to cops at any time and record entire interaction; we have a safe word to come get them anytime anywhere no questions asked.
I want fully independent kids but tbh millennials in general don't seem equipped to handle it after my generation fucked it all up with supervised played dates, rigorous extra curriculars, caller ID and pressure for AP classes. From Gen X to Millennials: I'm sorry! It wasn't me!!
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Lol, I would say being a man himself, he knows how cruel men are towards females. So, they tend to keep there loved ones safe but treat rest of the women bad or view them in a bad angle. Not saying this is true but it might be one reason along with so many other reasons. Like they might think there daughter is precious. They might think she is weak and world thinks sometimes like “being weak is cute” and they love to protect cute stuff because they can feel themselves strong. Obviously I don’t really understand these relationship bonds. I would say there is no love in this world in away. People are either smart enough or stupid enough to handle others. How a father is overprotective of his daughter might have a reason but I wouldn’t call it pure love. If he knows what he is doing and how it is going to effect the child, that’s what I call as smart. If he is overprotective and that’s causing trouble to the kid or the daughter when she grows up, that’s just like having a stupid father. All I would say is, we can’t point the exact reason why someone does something but they should act smartly.
My dad was protective of me because he didn't want to see me get hurt, by men like himself. Yet he also trusted me enough to not embarrass him by being a slut lol.
He was way more protective of my sister because she always had bfs around but my dad knew I wasn't like that even though I always had guy friends.
It’s just a natural instinct to protect a little helpless looking child. As the child gets older and hits their rebellious phases, though, it’s harder to be a good dad because the dad is still in protective mode while the child is trying to branch out intellectually, emotionally and socially.
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I don’t have a daughter but do have a younger sister and I’m protective of her as is my older brother. I can go to a party with her and at the party and the separate walk home we would have completely different experiences, that is why family tend to be protective of their sisters and daughters (and mums tbh). For every assault there are likely multiple (100’s?) of harassment etc, it can be bad enough during the day but after the sun goes down, the dark seems to bring out more weird guys or gives them confidence with the dark around them. I know me and my brother have had to explain to a few guys that they need to change their attitude to our sister.
Because they believe that their daughters are more in danger from the world than their daughters being part of that danger. This is what causes a lot of girls to grow up thinking they need support and protection, and that they can never do any wrong. They get spoiled by too much daddy love and him putting her up on a pedestal.
Imagine protecting your daughter from the world, when you're daughter was the one who ended up killing her classmate or boyfriend, or molesting young students.
if daughter is strong, I wouldn't be.
As it is, she's as gullible as a? and as easily led astray as a roped cow. No way in H I'd trust her to make life altering decisions at this point... but getting better...
Why do you want to throw an immature human into the abyss of humanity that will tear them to shreds... without sufficient training?
I think fathers are protective over their sons and daughters. Should it be believed that they are overprotective of their daughters could it be that it’s because they understand how men can be? And so feel the need to educate and shield? Isn’t protection a “key” masculine role?
Because boys need some guidance but also need tolearn from their own mistakes get life experience. But with girls they can't come back from some paths. Like if you chose a promiscuous lifestyle you can't just change your mind later. Some people do try but it will affect you for your whole life. So the dad wants to make sure the girl doesn't get on the wrong path.
That's their little baby girl and they're aware of how other men might behave towards women. Many dad's are also over protective over their sons too but in a different way. Girls are seen as fragile and gentle while boys are expected to know how to defend themselves.
well men are stronger and women are more easily victimized in this world. i mean for the same reason you'd be more protective with a 2 month old baby than with a 5 year old child. a child that needs more protection to be safe will be more protected. imagine it wan't that way xD
Because they know how they were in their teens AND also know that today with the free flow of porn out there, there are so much more brainwashed dickheads waiting to hurt their girls.
Because they are bad men or have known bad men so they try protecting their daughter from that
Because we know other men. Same as ourselves. We know that men can easily persuade or seduce women if they are not careful. Men seem to be stronger in strength while women seem to be more weaker (depending on how they were raised).
My dad did not want me to get my feelings hurt, my body hurt, and he definitely did not want me to get pregnant unless I was married.
I do not think this is true. We worry about them both but for different reasons and in different ways
Societal pressures, generally. Read “The Myth of Male Power” by Warren Farrell. It’s an eye opening examination of gender values, real and perceived.
Mother Nature built it into men... protect your daughters, st least until they are old enough and wise enough to protect themselves.
because they are a man they know what men are capable of.
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could be they they think daughters r less capable of protecting emselves than their sons
Because they know how boys and men think, boys are fine on their own and usually don’t have to worry about girls bothering them
Boys aren't as fragile as girls and don't lose their value from having multiple sexual partners.
Because we know what is expected of boys and we know what can happen to girls.
Men are treated like garbage by society in general.
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