Why are fathers overprotective of their daughters?

[girlpower452]

They are not that overprotective towards their sons

[DrPepper12]

Okay. I'm not overprotective of my daughter but when people told me before I had kids that there is such a thing as "Mama's boys' and "daddy's girls" I said bullshit. 22 years later it's a fact! My daughter and I have a very close relationship where she confides in me things she doesn't want to talk about with her mother and vice versa for the boy. It's really weird but I've also noticed the same pattern among my students. It really does exist!

Returning to your question, I am the "go to guy" for all my friends / family's parent decisions that involve risk / anxiety because my motto is as much Independence as possible n let them make their own mistakes far away from parents ever present and judgmental eyes. If I say no, you shouldn't allow your kid to do X then you KNOW it's a bad idea.

Upon reflection , I do however ask that she use the buddy system as much as possible, and I offer things to my daughter I didn't to my son like walking home in rain or ride to work. I guess yeah in minor ways I'm "kinder" but I would like to think based on her feedback that I am far from overprotective. I've told her more times than I can count if the school has a problem with dress code or you walk out of class to go to the bathroom just go along with them politely while they get their panties in a bunch and call me, I'll take it from there. There's ONLY TWO ACCEPTABLE answers when student asks to use bathroom: 1) YES 2) Can it wait? Please tell your kids to walk out too - dignity comes before anything else! I've offered her birth control when / if she wants it; I've told her don't trust men til they earn it; same for authority figures - respect goes both ways or fuck off; told all kids never say a single word to cops at any time and record entire interaction; we have a safe word to come get them anytime anywhere no questions asked.

I want fully independent kids but tbh millennials in general don't seem equipped to handle it after my generation fucked it all up with supervised played dates, rigorous extra curriculars, caller ID and pressure for AP classes. From Gen X to Millennials: I'm sorry! It wasn't me!!

[Arav210]

Lol, I would say being a man himself, he knows how cruel men are towards females. So, they tend to keep there loved ones safe but treat rest of the women bad or view them in a bad angle. Not saying this is true but it might be one reason along with so many other reasons. Like they might think there daughter is precious. They might think she is weak and world thinks sometimes like “being weak is cute” and they love to protect cute stuff because they can feel themselves strong. Obviously I don’t really understand these relationship bonds. I would say there is no love in this world in away. People are either smart enough or stupid enough to handle others. How a father is overprotective of his daughter might have a reason but I wouldn’t call it pure love. If he knows what he is doing and how it is going to effect the child, that’s what I call as smart. If he is overprotective and that’s causing trouble to the kid or the daughter when she grows up, that’s just like having a stupid father. All I would say is, we can’t point the exact reason why someone does something but they should act smartly.

[PeachyPie93]

My dad was protective of me because he didn't want to see me get hurt, by men like himself. Yet he also trusted me enough to not embarrass him by being a slut lol.
He was way more protective of my sister because she always had bfs around but my dad knew I wasn't like that even though I always had guy friends.

[DishLady]

It’s just a natural instinct to protect a little helpless looking child. As the child gets older and hits their rebellious phases, though, it’s harder to be a good dad because the dad is still in protective mode while the child is trying to branch out intellectually, emotionally and socially.

[RebelinSteel]

I don’t have a daughter but do have a younger sister and I’m protective of her as is my older brother. I can go to a party with her and at the party and the separate walk home we would have completely different experiences, that is why family tend to be protective of their sisters and daughters (and mums tbh). For every assault there are likely multiple (100’s?) of harassment etc, it can be bad enough during the day but after the sun goes down, the dark seems to bring out more weird guys or gives them confidence with the dark around them. I know me and my brother have had to explain to a few guys that they need to change their attitude to our sister.

[ManOnFire]

Because they believe that their daughters are more in danger from the world than their daughters being part of that danger. This is what causes a lot of girls to grow up thinking they need support and protection, and that they can never do any wrong. They get spoiled by too much daddy love and him putting her up on a pedestal.

Imagine protecting your daughter from the world, when you're daughter was the one who ended up killing her classmate or boyfriend, or molesting young students.

[lightbulb27]

if daughter is strong, I wouldn't be.

As it is, she's as gullible as a? and as easily led astray as a roped cow. No way in H I'd trust her to make life altering decisions at this point... but getting better...

Why do you want to throw an immature human into the abyss of humanity that will tear them to shreds... without sufficient training?

[erikli]

Traditionally, society has placed different expectations on boys and girls. Fathers might feel a stronger urge to protect their daughters because they perceive the world as being more dangerous for women.

Fathers know how some men think because, well, they were young men once. I think this is one of the reasons why they are more cautious.

There's also a bit of old-school gender roles at play. Some fathers might feel it's their job to be the "protector" of their daughters, while they might see their sons as needing to learn to be independent and handle things on their own.

The father-daughter bond is often very strong and unique. Fathers might feel a special kind of protective instinct towards their daughters, sometimes without even fully realizing it.

In some cultures, the protection of women is a very strong value. Fathers might be influenced by their own upbringing and cultural norms, which emphasize safeguarding their daughters.

[Purpleronnie]

I think fathers are protective over their sons and daughters. Should it be believed that they are overprotective of their daughters could it be that it’s because they understand how men can be? And so feel the need to educate and shield? Isn’t protection a “key” masculine role?

[Lynx122]

Because boys need some guidance but also need tolearn from their own mistakes get life experience. But with girls they can't come back from some paths. Like if you chose a promiscuous lifestyle you can't just change your mind later. Some people do try but it will affect you for your whole life. So the dad wants to make sure the girl doesn't get on the wrong path.

[BadPear006]

That's wrong, what's wrong with girls being promiscuous but not guys?

If women are not going to learn from their mistakes how are they going to be successful in life?

[Lynx122]

@BadPear006 Because women can't go back. It's proven that with every additional sex partner the chance of having a long lasting relationship goes down for women. Maybe listen to your dad and you'll be successful. The idea that women get better at chosing a partner if they try out every kind of guy first is a complete myth. But you can do whatever you like.

[BadPear006]

Prove it. Never heard about that

[Lynx122]

@BadPear006
Well I googled it and there's definitely correlation people are still arguing about the causation.

Women Who Have More Non-Marital Sexual
Partners Are:
1. Less Likely to Have Stable Marriages

2. More likely to have abortions

3. More likely to end up as single-mothers

4. Less overall happiness

5. More likely to be depressed

All this is especially the case when someone has started being sexual under the age of 18. (source: the National Survey of Family Growth, a survey fielded in 1995 to a nationally representative sample of roughly 10,000 women between the ages of 15 and 44)

Research from the Medical Institute for Sexual Health goes on to illustrate the importance of oxytocin when it comes to bonding.

“When an individual chooses to engage in casual sex, breaking bond after bond with each new sexual partner, the brain forms a new synaptic map of one-night–stands. This pattern becomes the “new normal” for the individual. When and if the individual later desires to find a more permanent partner, the brain mapping will have to be overcome, making a permanent bond more difficult to achieve.”

[BadPear006]

Are they talking about women only? Some of the pints seem to be a problem with guys who are promiscuous too from what I seen. Like having unstable relationship and addiction to sex. So I think it goes both ways.

[BadPear006]

www.everydayhealth.com/.../...eaten-longevity.aspx

Men are equally affected according to this article reviewed by Doctors.

[BadPear006]

And LOL at the comment about listening to my dad about my sex life.

I am a 27 year old woman. Do you realise how creepy your comment is?
Cringe.

[CrabCakes11]

Proven by what? Cite a scientific study

[TheSpaceGnome]

"Like if you chose a promiscuous lifestyle you can't just change your mind later."

Guys can't rebound from that either.

[BadPear006]

@TheSpaceGnome this is true

[sheikalana]

That's their little baby girl and they're aware of how other men might behave towards women. Many dad's are also over protective over their sons too but in a different way. Girls are seen as fragile and gentle while boys are expected to know how to defend themselves.

[genericname85]

well men are stronger and women are more easily victimized in this world. i mean for the same reason you'd be more protective with a 2 month old baby than with a 5 year old child. a child that needs more protection to be safe will be more protected. imagine it wan't that way xD

[Mr_twoface]

Because they know how they were in their teens AND also know that today with the free flow of porn out there, there are so much more brainwashed dickheads waiting to hurt their girls.

[Apple1996]

Because they are bad men or have known bad men so they try protecting their daughter from that

[Benjiman19]

Because we know other men. Same as ourselves. We know that men can easily persuade or seduce women if they are not careful. Men seem to be stronger in strength while women seem to be more weaker (depending on how they were raised).

[Chazmatazz269]

Societal pressures, generally. Read “The Myth of Male Power” by Warren Farrell. It’s an eye opening examination of gender values, real and perceived.

[jennifer_bloom]

My dad did not want me to get my feelings hurt, my body hurt, and he definitely did not want me to get pregnant unless I was married.

[Flatmanlewis]

I do not think this is true. We worry about them both but for different reasons and in different ways

[AviatorTom]

Mother Nature built it into men... protect your daughters, st least until they are old enough and wise enough to protect themselves.

[coachTanthony]

because they are a man they know what men are capable of.

[laly520]

could be they they think daughters r less capable of protecting emselves than their sons

[TheSpaceGnome]

Men are treated like garbage by society in general.

[Likes2drive]

Because they know how boys and men think, boys are fine on their own and usually don’t have to worry about girls bothering them

[DextroShade]

Boys aren't as fragile as girls and don't lose their value from having multiple sexual partners.

[CrabCakes11]

Well you have no value so I suppose you can do whatever you want

[loladevine]

@CrabCakes11 LMAO

[DextroShade]

@CrabCakes11 spoken like a bitter woman who has been ran-through.

[CrabCakes11]

Sounds like you’re jealous of all the cock I get. It’s ok to be gay just be yourself we accept you

[DextroShade]

@CrabCakes11 why would I be jealous of a whore? Female "logic" at its finest!

[CrabCakes11]

Nah you want that dick I know it

[DextroShade]

@CrabCakes11 what's truly pathetic is that if I was actually gay you wouldn't be making fun of me for it, so shut up and go back to sucking dick.

[CrabCakes11]

Nah I make fun of everyone, loser incels like you included. Dw im sucking dick as a type this. I’ve gotten very good at multitasking with all the whiting around I do

[DextroShade]

@CrabCakes11 this is just sad, you have no idea how much of an embarrassment you are.

[CrabCakes11]

Funny, I was about to say the same thing about you

[KrakenAttackin]

Because we know what is expected of boys and we know what can happen to girls.

[gorydetails]

Because girls are physically weaker than boys.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Because females aren't as physically stronger than males so we have to be more protective.

[Anonymous]

It's because girls are weaker physically I think. But I seen some dads who are not overprotective

[Pennywise_6]

Because they know what men do.

[alice55]

Don't know mine wasn't

[BonzoInBitburg]

We're more concerned for their safety.

[Gabriel-Chicanito]

Lust & shame.