Would you drop your bestie?

[guest2625]

Would you drop your bestie if they get mad at you for random things that you aren’t in the wrong for and they never apologize when they’re wrong?

Yes

No

Depends, explain below

[itsalyssaagain]

Yes and please please please please listen to me - that girl is NOT your friend.


Ah if only I knew what I know now.


Girl the moment you don’t allow them to get away with this behaviour their entire demeanour changes. Suddenly you’re the bad person.


I’ve been called names. I’ve received threatening text messages after I blocked. I’ve had a “friend” start hanging out with all MY other friends. I’ve had a friend who hasn’t responded to a “happy birthday” text since 2 weeks ago.


Always set your boundaries so that you are happy and NEVER let anyone cross them.

[guest2625]

Yes!!! exactly!!! Our last recent argument where I told her how I felt and called her out on her behavior, she said she’d read the message later because she’s having a bad day and she’s not doing okay and to leave her alone. It’s been two weeks. (Our 3rd friend just said she just wants to quit her job)
So I feel like that makes me feel really shitty for not understanding that she’s in a bad space but at the same time, it’s like how convenient to make herself the victim? She still uses my Netflix account everyday too. So when she comes back in a week or two I don’t know if I should just say what’s on my mind or if she’s expecting me to see her as the victim because she’s “not okay”?

[guest2625]

I want to set my boundaries like you said but i feel like she’s going to try to justify her actions by saying she’s not okay and how she’s going through a tough time and she’ll be expecting me to be understanding on that so she doesn’t have to be held accountable for her behavior. What do you think?

[Guccigabbana18]

It really depends on the specific situation. If I feel like I’m being disrespected by them or the friendship is one-sided, I would try to talk to them first, and if the behaviour continued and things didn’t get better, I’d have to distance myself or even “drop” them. You need to respect yourself even if you love them.

[ohsheeT]

Having a bestie is almost like being married in time you start to grow apart you start wanting to do different things you start getting different friends and just like a marriage it sucks when it happens but life goes on and you just keep going or one who is in the wrong stands up and says they're wrong it's not that big of a deal to be wrong I've been wrong many times and one of the best feelings in the world is when you can admit you're wrong

[Leapfrog00]

I've had friends like that, and they make horrible friends. Your voice is never heard with them. Your opinion doesn't matter. Eventually, they begin to make up lies to support what little evidence they have to support their "Facts".

I'm a writer and even I do research before writing the next chapter in my novel!

[Rosexøxø]

oh hella for sure. I drop people like a person with arthritic hands.

I drop people like it's hot.

I almost dropped my own sis for her psychotic ways.

[Rosexøxø]

do a count down and drop her like it's new years.

[Rosexøxø]

your friend may very well be immature.. but that's just toxic. She at least needs some level of respect or mindfulness. Weigh the pros and cons and come to a decision. Best to you!

[guest2625]

LMAO. We’ve had so many stupid fights and I don’t have any fights with any other friends. She gets mad at me when I say maybe to plans and then I have to apologize or she demands me to change the music in MY car because she doesn’t like it (several times) and she got mad at me because I got a purse she liked (but then I get sad because besties match) and I had to apologize and explain myself. We had 1 recent fight and told her how I felt and she didn’t even read it, she said shed read it later because she’s having a bad day and it’s been 5 days since but she’s still using my Netflix account like?

[Rosexøxø]

okay this legit makes me sad...

you want it to work but if you stay in a friendship with her, you'll both do more harm than good.

You can't enable her wrong behavior because she'll just keep doing it, but correcting her won't help. She needs a doctor or some friend who wouldn't be emotionally involved and can give her some patient reference points and things to think about.

She's emotionally charged and you are a passionate friend...

give her some space at best? Try the twinning bfffffffffffffffffffff <-- (for ever EVER) lol with someone who will reciprocate that same desire or ability to vibe with it at least ://

Just seems like she isn't in the place to listen, and that's gonna end up MOST LIKELY 9not facts here) hurting/ tiring you out, and if you eventually burn out and rage at her, it'll only worsen whatever she may have been through or struggled with internally.

BY THE WAY- you don't owe her any sorry! you didn't do anything wrong to her, and you're not the reason she is as sensitive and charged as she is.

From the little you shared, I see a good friend (you) (it's more evident and you're emotionally mature for it), but I don't see anything bad that you have done.

Don't desensitize yourself or become accustomed to her behavior. You may allow her, but it'll be a serious issue if subconsciously you start allowing others to do similar. Value self before friendship.
Have some self-love in there, so you don't get mistreated :,)

Best to you!

(apologies for any offense/ and nice job on being an understanding/mature friend- also understanding doesn't mean internalizing or tolerating).

[guest2625]

Thank you so so much, that was really helpful and I’ll remember that next time we have a conversation when she eventually reaches out. <3

[Rosexøxø]

a 100%! a 100%! I hope things can be reconciled or this be a learning point for the both of you guys.

Maybe something both could look back on and laugh at, once past it?

much love! <3

[sheenagwapa]

if they are frenemies... if they secretly hate me. there are people in my life that i wannq hang our but i feel that they're just beinh plastic. they secretly hate me and just want to hurt me. i don't like that.

[OfMiceandMen]

If they never apologize when they know they're wrong, then they don't respect you or your opinion.

[jujus]

There was this girl used to hangout with a lot more and more everything seemed great she was all nice and everything until 1 night she totally changed for some reason. Ik it was specifically towards me cause I watched how she acted towards me and other people. I can’t think of anything wrong I’ve done to her and she won’t say anything about it but now I just say hey to her and how is she? That’s about it nothing more…

[ImalwaysrightOK]

I would explain to them how hurtful that is as a bff that they do that and give them am opportunity to do better.

[ShesRad80]

that isn't a friendship so yes i would and i have before with people

[FreyaRed]

Besties come and besties go like everyone else.

[Nikki1989]

No, my best friend is my soul mate.

[kevypatyy7]

Yeah I would because I don't like people who give me headache. I will talk to you about my feelings but if you don't change then, sorry but I can't be with

[LovelyJaneDoe]

I would never drop my bestie but she ain't acting like a narcissistic bitch 🤣

[Summeroflove]

Well. If they were always doing it. Unfortunately sometimes you have to let people go

[BoopBoopBeep]

Life is too short for drama and those who bring it.

[LiamJHayden]

I cannot think of any likely circumstance under which I'd bail out on the person who's been my bestie since I was four and who helped me through the deaths of both parents.

[Simslover92]

Yeah that wouldn't happen with me and my bestie so I said no.

[yourloveistoxic]

Yes. Bitch be gone cause I don't need added stress in my life.

[Tiffany1996]

Depends on what. I stand by my friends for most part.

[DizzyDesii]

Been there done that

[Luopio27]

Im done with toxic friends.

[helva]

No, because we need each other.

[collie22]

Dose she need help or is she just a but?