My boyfriend thinks I’m jealous of his child?

[Anonymous]

I found out my boyfriend took his child’s mother out to eat and they went to a birthday party together he claims he only went to the party for his daughter and when they went out to eat it was not a date because there daughter was there. I have had problems with him coparenting in the past and I told him he shouldn’t be doing certain things with his child’s mother because he’s In a relationship now after we had this conversation he told me I just want him to be a deadbeat and I’m jealous of his child. How do I get him to understand that what he’s doing is not right?

[MementoMori777]

i honestly think he is being somewhat rude for the position he's in, like you aren't doing his ass a favor by sticking around after realizing he has a kid with someone else, its unbelievable how he's treating his current girl because he could've had you tag along, he thinks that his daughter is am excuse to just treat you bad because you speak your mind, clearly another girl would feel an emotion about it and he should respect and try to find a solution that works, personally i think you are waating your time with this love triangle stuff, i understand that he has to make time for his daughter but why tf is he excluding the girl he's currently in love with and treat her bad when she feels a type of way about being excluded, its fine that the mother of the child was there but honestly you shouldve been there as well because you are currently going out with him, you are entitled to at least make an apperance as his current girlfriend, he's moving wrong, i think you should save yourself the trouble and find a guy that doesn't have this whole child problem but if you can make it work then my best wishes for you on that.

[Anonymous]

oh sorry i really do NOT agree with you... as someone who has divorced parents, i would not like you if i were the child. this is what coparenting is. it is about the CHILD. put your ego aside. he is not going doing all of this because he wants to make you jealous with his ex... he's doing it because it was his child's birthday!!! i like spending my birthday with my FAMILY regardless of their divorce because that is how coparenting works (yes, at ANY age). don't date a dad if you can't handle this.

[Asker]

He went to his child’s mother cousins birthday party and there child was not there I coparent with my child’s father we don’t spend any time together but we do see each other for her birthday if it was there child’s birthday I wouldn’t have had a problem with it but he’s constantly going out to eat with them and spending unnecessary time around his child’s mother as if they where still in a relationship