Does this ever happen?

[Anonymous]

I got this friend from my second year in high school. Back then I was pretty hostile and easily pushed people away, he texted me via a social group and I felt he was invading my personal space so didn't give him much attention. Fast forward we became friends and he had usually text whenever he had the chance to come home from boarding school. I was also in boarding school so he often ended up chatting with my sister. About a week before we completed High school, hw asked for us to be together and I declined. High school ended, we went to different colleges in different cities and we were still in touch. We're both done with school now, each trying to work around our career, I was quite not stable mentally last year so I went off for a whole year, upon my return nothing seems to have changed with the exception of he telling me I left him all alone. It's been 8 years and over and we still haven't met in person, seems we're not bothered by that though but does this friendship look like it's going far?

[Anonymous]

You shouldn’t cloak your true intentions under the veil of friendship. Like you saying ‘is this friendship going far?’, where exactly is a platonic relationship between two people supposed to go? If you’re really asking if it’s gonna turn into something then you have to be straight up honest with him. That way even though you’re friends now, you both know you’re working towards something. What you’re doing now is only going to complicate things.

[Asker]

Thanks but he asked me out 5 years ago and about two weeks ago, he mentioned something about us being compatible or so

[Opinion Owner]

That’s all great, so it seems like a good opportunity to have a conversation about what his intentions are. Compatible doesn’t always equate to being interested in investing in someone. Could you go with the flow or whatever? Sure, but after a couple months and no talk of a relationship, well, you’ll have to face this question sooner or later.

[Asker]

Alright