Why does this always happen? Is it common?

[Anonymous]

I always become close platonically with a girl, it seems like she’s really into me which then makes me interested, I ask her out/make a move and she rejects me and it ruins the friendship.

Yes it’s common

No it’s not common

[boggboss]

Its because you are confusing the signs of relationship and friendship it happens to women also but less often as women tend to be versed in socialising better then guys

[Asker]

Does that mean asking a woman to observe is better in judging?

[boggboss]

It may help but if you always have a women with you to observe your interactions with other women they may get the wrong impression

[rodeschaap]

It's easy to mistake being friendly for being romantically interested. So yes, it's common for this to happen

[Asker]

Both ways?

[rodeschaap]

What do you mean by that?

[Asker]

As in it happens for both men and women?

[Asker]

That they mistake signs of attraction and friendship.

[rodeschaap]

I think so. But mostly men mistake it.

[Asker]

Hence why I don’t trust myself when I think a girl likes me.

[Asker]

Why are women better at judging? What do women look for that men don’t?

[rodeschaap]

Women pick up details easier than men. And women can hide it better when they have a crush.

[Asker]

Pick up details how? What kind?

[rodeschaap]

The subtle signs of when someone likes you.

[Asker]

What are the signs?

[rodeschaap]

There are too many. They're all over the internet. So google it.

[Asker]

Isn’t everyone different though?

[rodeschaap]

Of course. That's why there are too many signs. But overall men tend to read the signs wrong.