Do you think my best friends were cruel to get in my face to prove a point?

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

Be honest.
My friends were fed up with me crying and complaining about not getting respect and people disrespecting me but I don’t do NOTHING about it and they tried helping me stand up for myself but I am too afraid. My guy best friend said, “You know what? We don’t know what to do anymore. I guess you LOVE being treated so badly do you? We tried helping you. I guess you’re too much of a coward to have self respect. You want someone to get into your face huh? Yeah you like when I get in your face don’t you? Don’t you? You wanna man to get into your face and disrespect YOU! That’s what you love.” He got in my face. Then my girl best friend said, “Yeah you LOVE when people disrespect you huh? You want people to yell at you IN YOUR FACE. You wanna be the weak ass woman that has no respect for herself? Yes I will get into your face. YOU won’t anything since YOU DON’T HAVE THE HANDS TO FIGHT!” She got in my face. They kept doing it until I screamed at them to stop and then they said, “Then start standing up for yourself then! Instead of being a coward and acting like a little girl, be a woman and stand up for yourself damn it!”
Don’t you think they were being rude for getting in my face to teach me a lesson?

No they did it to help you

Don’t know

Yes

[AmandaYVR]

"They were supposed to help but they said they tried to be nice but they said they had to get mean.

They’re special needs too. One has ADHD and I the other has dyslexia/developmental delay but they just don’t understand what it’s like to be autistic."

Wow, what a bunch you are.

It sounds harsh, yes. But they were doing it for a purpose, to try to get you to break out, and, in a safe space, learn how to defend yourself, and stop others from abusing you mentally. It was a pretty aggressive tactic, but you, yourself, know why they did it. You're asking for sympathy, and support right now, but that's exactly what they were trying to teach you - how to be your own advocate.

I suggest you really consider the lesson they were trying to help you learn.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

They could have helped me in a more decent way but they didn’t have to insult me and call me a coward or don’t have the hands to fight. Best friends don’t do that and get into my face like that.
After I screamed at them to stop, they told me, “That’s what we wanna see! See? That got your to stand up for yourself and you’re going to remember this and thank us. Sometimes as best friends, we have to give you that hard tough love to help you. Hated to be mean but we’re tired of you crying and complaining to us that you get no respect when you’re doing nothing about it and let people disrespected me and whine like a pathetic bitch.

[AmandaYVR]

Your friends were harsh. I already agreed with you on that.
But I can tell that you have an issue with confirmation bias. You look for support, but are not strong enough in less-than-ideal situations.

You all have psychological issues. Autistics are blunt. But these are your friends. And as much as their execution was poor, their motivation was pure.

[Flower7]

They don’t seem like very good friends and this shows that they don’t respect you.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

I told them that didn’t help me but they told me I kept complaining about not getting respect and not doing anything about it.

[Hithere4567]

What kind of "best" friends are these who treat you that way? I'd be fucking pissed off, honestly.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

They were supposed to help but they said they tried to be nice but they said they had to get mean. I mean WTF?

[Hithere4567]

Right. WTF, indeed. I'd cut them off. Like sorry, I get too fucking pissed to put up with that kind of bullshit.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

They told me it’s the only way to get me to stand up for myself because they’re tired of me complaining about not getting respect and pushed around.

[Hithere4567]

Yeah, right. Cut them off.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

We’ll they cut me off because of the way I treated them

[Hithere4567]

So good riddance to them. You won't have to put up with their bullshit anymore.

[Hithere4567]

Thanks for the MHO.

[LiamJHayden]

They were and do not seem to understand ASD in the least.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

They’re special needs too. One has ADHD and I the other has dyslexia/developmental delay but they just don’t understand what it’s like to be autistic.

[SnowedIn]

Wow. That's over the top. Not good at all.

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

Thank you. This older lady was telling me that they did that to help me stand up for myself and they had to give me that tough love to break me out of being a pushover to stand up for myself. They could have done it in a nicer way. They told me being nice doesn’t always work.

[SnowedIn]

Like yeah, I suppose, in theory the whole being mean thing might work but that's a theory and a shitty way to go about it. Not nice that you experienced that.