Do you think my parents are being unfair of giving me a 30 day notice to find a job or I’m out?

[Anonymous]

I am a party girl. I love to party and go to clubs. I’ve worked jobs before but I got fired from my job six months ago and I’m done working. Why should I work when I came from a wealthy family?
I know my parents was saving for me to go to college for or whatever when I was a kid. I know they told me about the value of a dollar blah blah. I pay for some bills. I like to party and shop. That’s my life but the thing is my parents told me that they’re tired of my laziness and not making enough effort to look for a job and my dad for frustrated and yelled at me to start thinking when I keep rejecting job offers or when they showed me the job cards. He didn’t have to yell. My mom said they’re tired of me wasting money on worthless crap when I can be using that to invest or go to college. They gave me a 30 day notice to find a job or I’m out. I thought they were joking but they aren’t. Now I have 28 days left! I can’t believe they would throw their own baby girl out. I’m only 22 years old. They always compared me to my older siblings who are 26 and 30 and why can’t I be like themselves. Too bad they have to work hours.

[Rtylerturek]

My friend, I’m going to try to be as kind as I can while also being candid.


It sounds like you are used to a certain lifestyle living with your parents, so it’s understandable that this turn of events might come as a shock to you.


Try to see it from their perspective for a moment, though. From their perspective, it is likely that they see their beloved daughter failing to spread her wings and leave the nest. They may or may not have said that this was what they expected you to do. If they didn’t, it might be because they thought it was already obvious, and didn’t realize that it needed to be spelled out.


They may have made some mistakes in parenting you, which is not your fault, but you are an adult, and as such, are responsible for your own choices, your own upkeep, and to be blunt, financing your own purchases and partying. Once you’re an adult, your parents are not responsible for taking care of you. You are responsible for taking care of you.


If they have been paying for your room and board, and even your purchases and partying, it’s because they loved you and wanted to help you and show you they loved you, but I feel like they have started to see that paying for your lifestyle and providing you free room and board is not the best thing for you. You asked why you should work if you come from rich parents. It’s because your parents became rich by working, and if you want to live a rich lifestyle, you need to work and become rich yourself.


If you try to make your parents pay for everything, well, you’re seeing that they may well cut you off and throw you out.


This is not because they don’t love you, but because they do love you, and they’re seeing that letting you live as a party girl on their dime is not setting you up for future success, and while they likely don’t want to be so harsh, they can’t see any other way of getting you to come to grips with reality.


I admit that this may be uncomfortable to consider, and the idea of working to support yourself might seem unpleasant, but I can tell you that working is much better than being homeless and unemployed.


I apologize for all of the mean and inconsiderate replies other people have given. I have tried to be kind in mine. I wish you luck if you choose to seek out a job. I wish you even more luck if you don’t. Either way, you choose

[inhua]

find yourself a rich husband. problem solved

[sheikalana]

They're doing the right thing. Money doesn't last forever even if you come from a wealthy family. Never take things for granted. You need to take things more seriously and be more repoinsible.

[Anemone978]

Nah.. if all my kid did was party I would kick them out with no warning.. grow up..
You probably are an embarrassment to the family and a huge whore no doubt..

[Asker]

Wow….. that was harsh. You sound like a mean mom. I feel sorry for the kids. No offense.

[Anemone978]

I rather raise good upstanding people if not then I failed and at that point fuck them.. let them face the hardships of life on their own since they don't want to listen to me.

[Asker]

Whatever.

[Shamalien]

You’re being a useless degenerate and you deserve this. Get a fking job

[Asker]

You’re just jealous because I’m young and hip and you’re an old man. You’re almost 40.

[Anonymous]

“I’m only 22 years old.”

You should have had your life together years ago.

[Asker]

Excuse me? I do have my life together. Even my friends told me I need to stop being lazy, and get a job. My best friend got frustrated and schooled at me, “Why don’t you just get a JOB? You’re mooching off mommy and daddy and they’re NOT going to be around forever. They’re NOT and you are taking them for granted and you have no common sense. You’re a waste of a woman and that’s the truth. Be a WOMAN.” My friends agreed.
I can’t believe my own best friend is audio with my parents! Traitor!

[Asker]

My friends are traitors.

[Jmmmfi4]

I mean I get your point that you're young and want to have fun but you're also an adult now

[Anonymous]

I don’t believe any of this.

[Opinion Owner]

You’re the same one who whines about parents grounding you for pulling a fire alarm at school I bet.

[Asker]

Excuses me? All this is the truth and I never do a stupid ass thing like that.

[Opinion Owner]

Get a job then.

[Asker]

Whatever fine

[In_Trance]

I consider yourself lucky you're even getting that

[Asker]

What’s that supposed to mean?

[Darkest-Knight]

Troll.