Would you put your elderly parents in a nursing home?

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lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

I took my one surviving parent home until she passed away. Not everyone could do that with the resources. I had $ to pay for help. without that, it would have been nursing home... and that... is not a good option. My mom took care of us kids for decades, I wanted to give back to her best I could for last days of her life.

I can only hope for the same but not likely since I don't have kids of own and haven't built that. End of life is not a great process.

I'll note that it is really screwed up the person that knows they are dying cannot take a pill and die in a few minutes but is forced to suffer until their body fails.

There are cases Id put parents in nursing home... especially if their minds are not operating. In general, I'd try to keep them home, around family, where they are healthier as are others. It is a drain on relationships and families in some cases.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Accepted Answer

My mom, was in 2 different hospital stays and including a nursing home when she passed away, but it wasn't my choice, my mom had cancer that spread all through her and chemo would have not helped her.

Sour-rose · Accepted Answer

I would. Just because my mother... and just my mom... is sitting in that house. Alone. Refuses to use google to fix that damn computer that has ALL MY FI- 🫠 She's alone. I was the last one to stay in that house. My father is doing fine in his own place. But she is getting more older and just letting it happen. So much so, i believe that she might become that old woman who can't do shit, even the simplest of things. Either because she refuses to... or she's just too damn weak.

HelpfulWoman · Accepted Answer

Watching my mother in law struggle with what she's going through? Abso-lutely.
Never mind the fact that with my abusive mother, it definitely would be a case of throw her in and I'd not want anything else to do with her.

Anonymous · Answer

Sometimes it's the best choice, but make sure it's on the high-end not cheap, and nearby so you can drop by for surprise visits to make sure the staff is on the ball and there's no abuse or neglect going on. If the staff never knows when to expect you, your grandparent will be treated better than most.

exitseven · Answer

I had to put my mother in a nursing home. We could no longer take care of her at my house. I found a nice place about 4 or 5 miles away so I could visit her every day. It was not as bad as I thought it would be.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

No. My mom is taking here of our grandma at home. My little grandma feels more secure with people who are familiar to her and with environment she knows.

menina · Answer

I wouldn't. If I had good parents I would take care of them or I would hire someone to take care of them at home.

Paris13 · Answer

My Grandparents Had to Go into One. So Yes, If they were Still Alive (Died of Cancers) No Choice. xxoo

Katebfun · Answer

Yes, because 1 were not very close. 2 they are both not good for my mental health. Distance is best.

DJB72 · Answer

Only because she's started with Alzheimer's and may need specialised care, and not until she's at that point. My dad died young

ShesRad80 · Answer

no i wouldn't have, i cared for mine till they passed one after the other

Anonymous · Answer

It's either that or they die in my house. I don't have the kind of money to stay home and care for them. I have to work if I'm to have a house at all.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

If they need that level of care, yes. My mother is in a care home. My father never needed him, he was fit up until the week he died.

Redstang88 · Answer

Yeah. My mom stole a big chunk of money from us, she’s on her own

Darkest-Knight · Answer

If they can't care for themselves, yes. Like my late father for example. He was 89 when we had to get him help.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on how they treated me when I was young 💀 X

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Never. I would gladly take care of my parents.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

That’s an abdication of responsibility. They raised you after all

Bricealan · Answer

Over, my dead, cold, quivering body.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope. They can wither away for all I care

Nikki1989 · Answer

Depends on their overall health.

slatyb · Answer

It wouldn't help, they are both dead.

Staximus · Answer

If my parents were still alive, no

BumbleStix · Answer

Sometimes it is needed

BeardedJohn · Answer

Depends on the level of functionality they have.

Stacey55666 · Answer

Yes.

MementoMori777 · Answer

Never gonna happen

Anonymous · Answer

Fuck no it's bad karna...

gothbxtch · Answer

no, never

jahaims · Answer

Nope

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