If you could talk to one relative that passed away and ask only one question, what question would you ask?

[Spongebobssocks]

I'd ask my grandma's brother what heaven is like😌

[ProbablyClueless]

I would ask my maternal grandfather if he ever had any doubts about whether my father is actually my father. Heck, I'd be curious if a lot of my family members had the doubts I did about that. My brother and I spoke about it awhile back and we both acknowledged that it seemed to be a distinct possibility. Both my mom and my dad engaged in some pretty questionable behavior during their marriage, and my mom got caught having a legit affair.

At this point, it seems pretty clear that my father is actually my father (never got a paternity test though), but he and I are such different people that it just kinda made me wonder.

[Spongebobssocks]

Oh I see! How interesting! Glad you figured it out

[ProbablyClueless]

I'm glad too! It was definitely an interesting journey, but it's good that it was resolved

[Spongebobssocks]

Yes I can understand that!

[SPIRIT208]

I’d ask my great grandfather a question.

I would ask “what was it like surviving in rough conditions and fear, and how did you get through it?” He fought in WW2 as an accomplished army ranger who earned the silver star of bravery and marched from Normandy to Czechoslovakia on foot. He was an inspiring and strong man but passed away due to a disease in his 60’s right after my dad was born.

If I could ask him one more question it would be what he thought “honor” really means.

[Spongebobssocks]

He sounded like a strong man! That's amazing! Nice choice

[CuriousInquirer]

Great-grandmother -

I'd ask her what it felt like going from dirt poor - like literally dirt poor - to self educating herself to university level, owning multiple properties in the UK & Canada on her own hook (married once, he died in WWI & never remarried) & making the genius investments (stocks) she did as a woman. In an era when even men struggled to do it.

And then show her photos of today's "feminist" so she can have a side splitting laugh.

[Spongebobssocks]

The last part would be awesome lol!

That for sure was an AMAZING woman! Cool!

[CuriousInquirer]

@spongebobssocks - thanks & she was. She lived to 99 or 100, I knew her when I was very young. And remember even now she was "sharp as a whip" as they say (smart, no signs of dementia)

[Spongebobssocks]

wow at that age? that is shocking

[Rei13]

I would ask either my pap pap or my grandma what their happiest memories are. To hear either of them talk about the moments that brought them joy, even if they didn’t include me, would bring me so much happiness. My grandma would be my first choice mostly because she Alzheimer’s disease and so much was robbed from her. I loved both of them tho so it’s hard to want to hear that from one over the other

[Spongebobssocks]

I understand that! She seamed really sweet!:)

[Vesuvius87]

I would ask my aunt (dad's oldest sister) why she hated my mother so much.

Also from my dad's side of the family, I would ask my grandfather why he cheated on my grandmother. An affair child (dad's deceased half-sister) was born as a result.

[Spongebobssocks]

I understand! Sorry that you had to be between all that family drama!🥲

[Vesuvius87]

It's ok. I think every family has their drama and/or problems. Nothing is ever a happy fairytale without a single issue.

[Spongebobssocks]

Thats true! Sounds like a healthy way of thinking

[FunkyMonkee]

Either one of my parents and/or dad's mother, and ask them to rigorously and relentlessly haunt the fuck out of my ex-sisters for fucking me out of the house they wanted me to keep in the family or my aunt to ask here where the fuck her Will is!!

[OlderAndWiser]

I would ask my great-great-great-great-grandfather what motivated him to enlist at age 16 and fight in the Revolutionary War.

[Spongebobssocks]

Wise choice!

[abc3643]

My maternal grandmother.

She died at age 52 years 2 months and right after my mom turned 15 and just over 4.5 years before I was born.

[Spongebobssocks]

Interesting! What would you ask her?

[abc3643]

That's a good question.
I have no idea.
But, if I could, I'd have my mom with me.
It would be a cathartic experience for all of us.

[Spongebobssocks]

Thank you!

And okay:)

[abc3643]

I want to answer this question again.

My maternal grandfather I did know. He died when I was 11 and he was 68. Unfortunately, I did not get to know him as well as I wanted. When he was 62, he retired and moved from Queens to upstate NY in the Catskill Mountains. So, we rarely saw him - only when he came down to Long Island once or twice a year or if we went up there like we did twice.

The older I have become, the more like my maternal grandfather I believe that I am.

Something interesting though: His nickname for me was "Professor".
What is ironic - or perhaps he was prescient - is that I did want to be a professor in academia. I did go for a PhD but had to quit but, as a graduate student 35 years ago, I did put in quite a few hours teaching. In fact, I seem to have a talent for that and had great teacher ratings in the college. Indeed, I "teach" here.

So, I'd want to know from him why he called me "Professor". What did he see in me? My mom only gives perfunctory answers so, when I asked her, she probably said something like "Because you were smart." and that's it. I want evidence. I want to know what he saw in me - what did I do or say or ask - that made him call me "Professor".

[Spongebobssocks]

I hope you get the answer one day! Thank you for sharing that!

[abc3643]

Well, no, I don't!
Because:
1) I'd be dead!
2) That means there's an afterlife and that's BAAAAAD! The last thing I need is an afterlife! This one is bad enough, thank you. I need to O F F when I die... meaning no consciousness whatsoever... just like what happened when I had hernia surgery.

[Spongebobssocks]

Alright I see. Well hope the Herning surgery went well!

[abc3643]

I don't have a belly button anymore...

[Spongebobssocks]

😶😶

[Skull_Anon]

My Grandma

And ask her why she kept saying "Be positive" when we were asking for her blood group during emergency 💀

[Spongebobssocks]

You funny😂😔

[Jersey2]

I would s]ask my grandmother “is it real, what happens after death?”, meaning heaven/hell/afterlife.

[Spongebobssocks]

Good question!

[love_conquers_lust]

Does it end?

I’d leave it vague and open ended so they could tell me about pretty much everything they know.

[Spongebobssocks]

Wise choice!

[exitseven]

I would ask my father about the circumstances of his death. I have questions.

[Spongebobssocks]

Okay. What question?👀

[exitseven]

I wonder if he died a natural death.

[Spongebobssocks]

Ohhh if not natrual?

[exitseven]

Did somebody help him

[Spongebobssocks]

Oh am sorry😶

[exitseven]

Thank you

[Spongebobssocks]

😔🤗

[Andres77]

I’d ask my grandma why she married my grandpa

[Spongebobssocks]

Interesting choice!

[Andres77]

Both grandmas if possible. Both of my grandpas were evil men.

[Andres77]

Like, embarrassing evil

[Spongebobssocks]

oh that's bad. Sorry about that!

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I’d ask my grandpa, how did he feel when he was alone facing death.

I would like to be able to feel with him.

[Likes2drive]

My Mom, I would ask if she has been watching over me

[Spongebobssocks]

Im sure she has, otherwise you wouldn't sense it:)

[Likes2drive]

Hope she isn’t disappointed

[Spongebobssocks]

Nah why would she?

[Likes2drive]

I’m divorced now and lost everything

[Spongebobssocks]

Thats horrible! 😣

[Likes2drive]

Yeah, it was and it’s been years and I’m still trying to recover financially but unfortunately housing doubled in price in only a few years but not salaries

[Spongebobssocks]

🥲🥲 I hope God blesses you soon!

[Likes2drive]

Thanks, I hope so

[Spongebobssocks]

👍🏻👍🏻

[Cubus]

I don't have many dead relatives. I would say my great-grandmother

[Spongebobssocks]

Alright, what would you ask her?

[Cubus]

I guess the same question as you

[Spongebobssocks]

👍🏻👍🏻

[Anonymous]

That'll be my grandfather I'll ask him what he saw in my dad that he married his daughter with him

[Anonymous]

i would ask my grandma where the dang treasure is buried. The secret died with her.

[Spongebobssocks]

Oh noo🥲

[Rangers]

I don't care about anyone

[Spongebobssocks]

Well damn

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Nothing. I'm not interested in most of them.

[Spongebobssocks]

👀👀

[leahzrc]

I would ask any of them about heaven

[SoJust]

I never thought