Is there a way to earn someones trust again after a terrible incident of breaking that trust?

[Anonymous]

Or there is no solution?

[strawberrybaby3]

Depends on the person but most people will be very cautious with trusting someone who hurt them.

[slatyb]

It will take time, and they may not be interested in continuing to see you.

[Asker]

The probelem and issue was between my my cousin and myself and noone else. But my cousin do espeak to my siblings and my mom and have a nromal relationbship with them the issue is just between the cousin and me period. He is the one not talking to me not to anyoen else in my immediate family.

The odd thing is I dotn know how to deal when there be family get togethers from now on. As this male cousin will normally speak to my mom and siblings but not to me. And this cousin siblings do talk to me normally, also his parents is this cousin in particular the one I had a beef with.

[driven159]

trust has to be earned once its broken it usually stays broken

[Asker]

even among close close relatives?

[Asker]

Somethingabout taht happen to me but it was not directly my fault but a relative fault and it b ackfired to me

[driven159]

maybe after some time has passed you might get a little trust back but there will always be some doubt

[Asker]

i felt sad beause this incident happen while we were on a Europe trip some weeks ago and i was with him and other people and he stopped talking to me for like 5 days

[driven159]

Only time will tell and depends on what happen some things are unforgivable. and depends on they person some people hold a grudge forever.

[Asker]

it was related of me telling my sister back home something about him and his kid and he found out what I said to my sister over a text message. He found out beacuse his lovely son snooped behind my back without me noticing he was behind and read my text convo with my sister, and went and snitched me out to his dad (the cousin who is upset at me) I mean the convo was only between my sister and me over a text message and noone was suppose to know or read private conversations anyway.

[driven159]

I am sure they will get over it not like it is a earth shaking thing you did just talking.

[Asker]

I mean i told my sister something about the cousin and his son that happened just a few minutes ago. The cousin son even took a screen shot of my text with my sister and showed it to him then he got super way upset that how come other relatives had to know something about his personal issues with his son at that moment as it was not supposed to be shared so in a way he believes im a full gossiper. My cousin believed I share this info with many family members back home, as if my sister will tell eveeryone and of course it was just between me and my sister noone else but he did believe i told that to many relatives to top it all off is that they could loose trust beause 7 years aog something similar happened with me also and this cousin sister that time in also Europe but in that case the person who I told something about my cousin minutes later this aunt did end up telling the own cousin what I told her. This time it was only me and my sister and she did not share the info to anyone else.

[driven159]

time to stop talking about them it gets out all the time keep it to yourself.